Generous or normal?

[Gymhairdontcare]

Is it normal to use a partners car if yours is broken and partner not using it or is it generous of them to let you use it ?

A combination of both.

Depends how much the person values their car.
I think of a car as a useful object to get you from A to B, so would consider lending it to a partner to be "normal"
If I particularly valued my car, was protective over it and liked it kept nice, then lending it to a partner would be generous.

Same way as I'll happily let DD borrow most of my clothes but there's one or two favourites she's not allowed to have. An outsider might view these as "just top".

Normal. Especially if it doesn't put the car owner out at all. Maybe depends on the stage your relationship is at. Just a new bf/gf then possibly generous. If married and finances are shared anyway then totally normal.

Partner of 11 years child together so not just early days!

Should have said also I've been driving 15 years so not a beginner on the road either, my cars in the garage being fixed

We call them our cars, each pays for their own but not possessive over them, it would just be normal thing to do if one of the cars was broken use the other. I wouldn't think my partner was being generous unless he was using the car and offered to get a lift/bus into work so I could use it that would be generous.

Wanted to add to partner would have been sat at home if I used the car or not so would not have put him out at all

@Gymhairdontcare

Partner of 11 years child together so not just early days!

Normal. In these circumstances I think it would be weird if they didn’t let you use their car

I think it's with a lot of things - yesterday I was so exhausted been an awful week my guinea pig was so unwell and passed away my mum had stayed over for the week and we stayed up late and up in the night trying to get food into piggy and medicine and yesterday after al the upset Thursday I fell asleep on the sofa in the morning he pointed out that he " let me relax and sleep "

Absolutely normal. Unless it's some rare classic car or something.

No not a classic or majorly expensive either talking 3-4 grand xx

It wouldn't enter my head to think of it as anything but completely normal for my husband to use my car, or I his, any day of the week. I prefer to drive mine, as he does his, but depending on whose car is easiest to take we just take that one. We each choose, and pay for, our own cars but are both equally insured on both.

Normal!!!

Normal.

Did he not let you have the car?

Could not imagine it be an issue at all under your circumstances!

In that situation, if they weren’t prepared to let me use it, I’d expect them to chauffeur me around.

Yes he said I could use the car but after a few words here and there he said he was being generous by letting me use it but I thought it was just a standard thing to let your partner use the car I would have handed mine over straight away

Normal! We use each others cars all the time

He is being RIDICULOUS!!!

You live together, have a child, do you not share finances at all??

Is this the latest in a string of issues in 11 years or is it a once off?

Normal.

We have our own cars. DH's car's ergonomics are not good for short people and it's a faff to swap driving positions, but we will occasionally drive the other's car/ drop off/ give lifts if one is unavaliable. That's just normal compromising in a relationship, not thinking you're God's gift for doing a basic act of decency.

Normal - but we always ask. Just feels polite. And just in case there are unknown plans to use it (v unlikely, but you never know). Always say "yes of course" to each other. If not around to ask we will borrow anyway - but for car being in garage/fixed we would tend to know about it in advance/ask in advance.

Am I being generous/is he being generous to say "yes of course". Er no. Tis normal/polite/caring/sharing stuff.

You've been together for years, you have a child FGS. Of course it's just normal, not 'generous'. What's wrong with him?

Why are so many men these days so selfish?

Normal. Are you already on the insurance? If so what's his problem?