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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 12/06/2021 17:27

Oh ffs, another thread where op, apparently 40+ posts in, realises information could be identifying so a thread posters have bothered to reply to is gone. Always seems to be when the resounding response is YABU. Funny that Hmm I'm sure I'm not the only one put off responding by this happening so often.

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 23/07/2021 13:17

And another! Basically, beware anything even slight out of the ordinary that you might get invested in Hmm

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ToffeePennie · 23/07/2021 13:22

I hate stuff like this. A really interesting thread I was reading yesterday seems to have gone poof, just as I was planning on weighing in. It’s the main reason why I don’t post too often.

HirplesWithHaggis · 23/07/2021 13:27

I've been on/reading a number of threads that have vanished recently, I'm inclined to suspect it has something to do with bored school kids. (I know many English schools have just broken up, but in other parts of the U.K. we're weeks in...)

pleasedonttextmyman · 23/07/2021 14:27

On the plus side, take it as the proof the majority was right, and the OP can't accept being called wrong.

pleasedonttextmyman · 25/07/2021 18:24

And another one.. you could tell from the 05th reply that it would be deleted for "identifying details".

Because getting married is identifying. Hmm
Translation, the OP was told she was being OTT.

Hadtocomment · 25/07/2021 18:58

I'm not very mumsnet savvy but there was one removed on suspicion of being from a troll. Can anyone tell me why a troll would be making up long complicated stories here? I thought trolls were out to provoke or cause a furore or get a rise out of people. What is the motivation of putting out very involved yet not particularly provocative threads on mumsnet? Why would people be doing that?

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 25/07/2021 19:06

Oh I didn't see the wedding one thankfully. There's another one currently where op has disappeared, an interesting topic and lots of input so now I'm suspecting that.

Trolls would do it just to laugh at us wasting our time getting concerned or helpful or invested. Hard to understand alright!

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pleasedonttextmyman · 25/07/2021 19:19

I have seen some threads deleted because of "trolls" on some very peculiar and boring subjects. It wouldn't even have mattered if it was a troll or a not. Imagine a laundry thread or something like that.. why, just why

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/07/2021 19:47

@NeonDreams

I hate it when you're reading a thread and have offered advice and the OP asks for the thread to be removed due to 'real life concerns'.

In my opinion, you know the risks before you post. It should be a rule that Mumsnet forbid the removal of any thread, no matter what, even if someone they know are on Mumsnet and saw it. No exceptions. You take the risk to post, you know what you are doing, so too bad! Tough! Don't post at all if you are afraid of being outed. Imo that is not good enough reason for the removal of a thread. Post at your own risk, or don't post at all I say.

This

Obv some reading Thr post will think omg that’s my mum sister friend mil etx

But people take time to reply annoying when goes pop

pleasedonttextmyman · 25/07/2021 20:31

When the entire thread tells the OP they are unreasonable, it's pretty clear why the thread gets removed as well.

I know living in England is pretty identifying in itself though Grin

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 20/11/2021 19:53

And another one. 'Privacy issues' when there zero identifying issues Hmm Such a waste of time. Poster didn't like the replies..

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Minionbums · 20/11/2021 19:59

There’s a particular set of threads I’ve been watching for a long time, it was on its 4th thread it’s been going on that long, and that disappeared. For knows what’s going on.

Minionbums · 20/11/2021 19:59

*god knows

SultanOfSwing · 20/11/2021 21:35

Maybe we could have a pinned post every day that would list the deleted threads so we don’t have to go searching for the ones we might have become invested in, but not yet commented on. Just some generic explanation like, “outing” “not helpful” “violates guidelines”. Anything so we don’t keep searching.

Surely @mnhq you could manage that along with the delete... or we could assume instead it was too boring and we need to dig deeper...

For example, what happened to the one about the woman who let her kid pee in the park but got in trouble when he peed in the nursery garden?

I never know if I should keep looking or assume it has been (for reasons unknown) deleted...

slashlover · 20/11/2021 22:34

For example, what happened to the one about the woman who let her kid pee in the park but got in trouble when he peed in the nursery garden?

I never know if I should keep looking or assume it has been (for reasons unknown) deleted...

That was deleted for being identifying i.e. OP didn't like the replies.

nimbuscloud · 20/11/2021 22:37

I read that the pissing in the nursery garden thread was picked up by the Sun

Cuck00soup · 20/11/2021 22:40

I haven't read that particular thread, but tend to assume any threads about pooing, peeing or periods are posted by perverts.

It's a shame because some posters may be looking for genuine advice and reassurance but anything asking for others experiences is only worth watching for the deletion message.

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 20/11/2021 22:40

That may be the one i was referring to..! Saw almost to the end, no mention of the Sun and tbh if the sun has it, what's the point if then deleting? Hmm

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 20/11/2021 22:42

I don't think this one was dodge, apart from the supposed privacy issues.. It is a shame, and for those of us who bothered to give advice also.

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opalescent · 21/11/2021 11:03

@NeonDreams

I hate it when you're reading a thread and have offered advice and the OP asks for the thread to be removed due to 'real life concerns'.

In my opinion, you know the risks before you post. It should be a rule that Mumsnet forbid the removal of any thread, no matter what, even if someone they know are on Mumsnet and saw it. No exceptions. You take the risk to post, you know what you are doing, so too bad! Tough! Don't post at all if you are afraid of being outed. Imo that is not good enough reason for the removal of a thread. Post at your own risk, or don't post at all I say.

I'm just really amazed at the spite on Mumsnet at times. You think Mumsnet should 'forbid' the deletion of any thread? No one here is worried about the loss of the advice they 'took the time to post'. You're worried that you can't go back to pile-on threads and gleefully watch people receive an extended hammering.

I feel genuinely sad sometimes at the tone on Mumsnet, I read the thread about the little boy who weed in the bushes. I'm glad it was removed, because many of the replies were just astonishingly aggressive. There are some great posters on Mumsnet who give fab advice, but unfortunately there are also more and more rubberneckers, who just delight in attacking others. Is there a lot of pent up rage here?

It feels a bit like the way that people behave at the wheel sometimes- aggressive and nasty in a way that they would never be face to face.

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 21/11/2021 12:48

No one here is worried about the loss of the advice they 'took the time to post

That's exactly what I am bothered by! I'm sure I've said the same upthread Confused

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Topseyt · 21/11/2021 13:13

@NeonDreams

I hate it when you're reading a thread and have offered advice and the OP asks for the thread to be removed due to 'real life concerns'.

In my opinion, you know the risks before you post. It should be a rule that Mumsnet forbid the removal of any thread, no matter what, even if someone they know are on Mumsnet and saw it. No exceptions. You take the risk to post, you know what you are doing, so too bad! Tough! Don't post at all if you are afraid of being outed. Imo that is not good enough reason for the removal of a thread. Post at your own risk, or don't post at all I say.

Agreed.
Topseyt · 21/11/2021 13:39

I'm just really amazed at the spite on Mumsnet at times.
You think Mumsnet should 'forbid' the deletion of any thread?
No one here is worried about the loss of the advice they 'took the time to post'. You're worried that you can't go back to pile-on threads and gleefully watch people receive an extended hammering

No, I do not go back to pile-on threads to watch an extended hammering. I leave those alone. I'm amazed at the sheer number of deletions though. On other sites it is more common that the thread is locked and can receive no further replies. Deletions are possible, though less common than here. Surely that would be possible.

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HeyGirlHeyBoy · 21/11/2021 14:02

Topseyt, I don't either. That's not what the issue is at all.

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