To report this to police? BIL urinating on DC’s toys.

[user1488481370]

Posted before. Having major issues with BIL and his partner who live next door (all very complicated) please look at other posts to fill in blanks if you wish.

Anyway, police are involved regarding threats, letting livestock out of sheds (which we have clear, video evidence of) and property being damaged.

We’ve been noticing glass around our children’s toys for a while now. Didn’t think anything of it but it was such a frequent occurrence that we decided to get a trail cam to see if it was malicious. We’ve had it set up for a few nights now, haven’t seen anything regarding the placing of any glass near our children’s toys (although we haven’t actually noticed any during this time and we check daily!)
But we did capture BIL urinating over DD’s picnic bench, ball and seesaw. I’m really grossed out by it. Honestly think it’s disgusting and obviously seems malicious. He is quite obviously very un well mentally to be doing such things. OH is very reluctant to report this to the police as they’ve been very slow/reluctant to act so far despite having clear evidence of him doing certain things. He’s lost all faith. Would they take this seriously. You can clearly see it’s him and what he’s doing.

[Rubyupbeat]

How do I look at your other threads:?

[Notaroadrunner]

@Rubyupbeat

How do I look at your other threads:?

Do an advanced search using op's name

[Roystonv]

You could speak to the police and ask them how do they want to manage this bearing in mind the new evidence you have; you hand over now or keep until more collected. Can't remember, are you keeping a detailed written record? So sorry this is ongoing. Seconding trying to get him prohibited from areas if pos though I know the situation is complicated.

[Qwqqtttr]

Contact the Police and say there have been more than two incidents so you expect formal action to be taken against your BiL under the Protection From Harassment Act 1997.

[Handsoffstrikesagain]

He deserves nothing but misery for this. What a cunt. In my culture the consequences for him would be serious. Doing this to anyone, especially family is unforgivable.

[TailFeatherz]

Yes, and get a big fence

[LoudestCat14]

@user1488481370

Thank you all. I’ll be reporting him again.

It’s all MIL’s estate. She died 4 years ago and OH is the farmer. They want us gone so are trying to force us out. MIL split the land and houses 4 ways although the land was promised to OH and he worked for a pittance. We’re now having to go down the proprietary estoppel route which is costing us a fortune and is in itself very frightening but a barrister has told us that we’ve got a very good case.

I remember your previous posts and his behaviour is escalating. I'd be fearful he'd harm the children and I don't know why you just don't walk away. No amount of money is worth this.

[Longdistance]

I remember your other threads. So sorry this is getting worse. Definitely report this incident it truly is vile. I wouldn’t wait for dp approval on it. Just go to the police with the evidence. Keep the camera rolling. The more evidence you have, the more information you have for your solicitor.

[MimiDaisy11]

I agree with others that even if nothing much is done you're building up a case for the future as the police will have all these reports.

[NoMoreHGTVPlease]

Report report report.

[Twoforthree]

I’d gather more camera evidence first, then go to the police.

[user1488481370]

@flippertygibbit there is a particular lump of land that is an asset of the business. It’s on the balance sheets as a fixed asset. 2 solicitors and a barrister have now advised that as the business owner it is in fact OH’s land. He also contributed towards the purchase of the land (inheritance from his grandfather). He’s worked for 20+ years for a meagre, sometimes none existent wage. He’s had everyone else’s cast offs and the other, non farming siblings have had houses either bought for them or barns converted for them to live in at no cost to themselves. We’ve all sacrificed so much. It’s too much to walk away from.

[PegasusReturns]

Yes report. But expect it to get worse before it gets better.

So sorry the whole thing sounds awful.

[notacooldad]

woforthree

I’d gather more camera evidence first, then go to the police
Why would you suggest that?Really curious. Id sooner get the ball rolling.
More evidence can always be added to a report.
BIL has made this attack very personal by deliberately targeting his nieces possessions.

[ChaToilLeam]

Straight to the police with this.

If he is ill, he needs treatment.
If he is just plain wicked, he needs arrested and charged.
He may also be both. But either way this is extreme and dangerous behavior and needs intervention.

[Penners99]

I would hook up an electric fence charger to the toys, but then I am an evil person.

[FelicityPike]

I remember your other threads too.
This is revolting and 100% needs reporting.

[Wherediditgo]

It needs reporting OP.
Having read this, and a quick read of your other thread, what exactly is BIL’s motivation for his behaviour? There is no excuse for how he is behaving, I just wonder if he thinks he is justified in some way and if so, what he thinks his justifications are.

[BluebellsGreenbells]

Put in on social media instead.

[diddl]

It sounds as if your OH has been taken advantage of by him mum ´& now his brother is also walking all over him.

It's a shame he has invested so much for so little.

I'd be tempted to tot up any assets & start again elsewhere if at all possible tbh.

[ExitChasedByABee]

[quote user1488481370]@flippertygibbit there is a particular lump of land that is an asset of the business. It’s on the balance sheets as a fixed asset. 2 solicitors and a barrister have now advised that as the business owner it is in fact OH’s land. He also contributed towards the purchase of the land (inheritance from his grandfather). He’s worked for 20+ years for a meagre, sometimes none existent wage. He’s had everyone else’s cast offs and the other, non farming siblings have had houses either bought for them or barns converted for them to live in at no cost to themselves. We’ve all sacrificed so much. It’s too much to walk away from.[/quote]
What your BIL has done is completely revolting and I’m glad that you’re reporting. What do the rest of your DP’s family say about this behavior? Are the two other beneficiaries unhappy about that particular lump of land belonging to your DH?

I’m also curious as to why his non-farming siblings had houses bought for them as well as barns converted for them, and yet your DP didn’t get any of that.

Is your DP treated differently to the rest of your siblings? I’m curious as to why the land was promised to your DP and then MIL’s will ensured that the land and houses were split 4 ways?

[PizzaCrust]

How disgusting. Go to the police with every new piece of evidence you have. What a vile excuse of a human.

[TheSockMonster]

As suggested by a PP, I would also wait a few more days before reporting to the police in order to try and get to the bottom of the broken glass incidents.

As soon as the police have acted upon the report he’ll be aware of the cameras and, presumably one would hope, stop going near the area.

[SlipperTripper]

Contact the police, AND your solicitor.

[BreatheAndFocus]

Revolting, aggressive and unhinged. What kind of fuckwit does that to children’s toys? Definitely report to the police now. Don’t wait.

I’d also be seeing if I could get some kind of injunction against him, keeping him away from you and your family. Do you know him well? Are you sure he’s not a physical risk? The broken glass sounds evil.