To report this to police? BIL urinating on DC’s toys.

[user1488481370]

Posted before. Having major issues with BIL and his partner who live next door (all very complicated) please look at other posts to fill in blanks if you wish.

Anyway, police are involved regarding threats, letting livestock out of sheds (which we have clear, video evidence of) and property being damaged.

We’ve been noticing glass around our children’s toys for a while now. Didn’t think anything of it but it was such a frequent occurrence that we decided to get a trail cam to see if it was malicious. We’ve had it set up for a few nights now, haven’t seen anything regarding the placing of any glass near our children’s toys (although we haven’t actually noticed any during this time and we check daily!)
But we did capture BIL urinating over DD’s picnic bench, ball and seesaw. I’m really grossed out by it. Honestly think it’s disgusting and obviously seems malicious. He is quite obviously very un well mentally to be doing such things. OH is very reluctant to report this to the police as they’ve been very slow/reluctant to act so far despite having clear evidence of him doing certain things. He’s lost all faith. Would they take this seriously. You can clearly see it’s him and what he’s doing.

[DaphneDuBois]

*^ clarity

[DaphneDuBois]

@Orf1abc

He is quite obviously very un well mentally to be doing such things.

Or maybe he's just an utter cock? Let's not stigmatise mental illness as a means of explaining poor behaviour. You can be perfectly healthy and still do very nasty things.

Why don’t you just ask op for charity about whether she’s aware of a mental illness (which later she says she is ) instead of coming at her with such a didactic tone? You’ve outright accused her of stigmatising mental illness and then patronised her.

[saraclara]

I remember another of your posts. You're in a horrific situation, and I honestly don't know how you and your family manage to cope with such a terrible atmosphere. I wouldn't feel remotely safe.

I hope you go to the police with this footage. And I really hope they will finally support you and do something about this awful man.

[30degreesandmeltinghere]

I would hire a security man and a big ddog...
Seriously I would...

[Looubylou]

Has he done this because he knows the camera is there? A sort of "f.. k you" gesture? That would explain why no more glass has appeared. I'm torn between advising waiting a little longer, to see what he does next, or saying report at once because he sounds evil and his behaviours are escalating. For your safety, the sensible thing is don't wait. Don't be tempted to approach him to discuss it - he's hardly likely to respond rationally. We are only hearing one side here, but even if you and your husband have been complete gits, nothing excuses this behaviour.

[IdblowJonSnow]

Yes report. And dont wait. Who knows what he'll do next. Can you step up security in any way?

[Thedogscollar]

@Penistoe

I have no words!

Ditto

[Qwqqtttr]

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I know you’ve wisely already taken legal advice regarding the will, so the above case might provide some comfort OP.

[MrsElijahMikaelson1]

Mental health issues or not, it’s still disgusting and should be reported. You need the paper trail if nothing else.

[Torvean]

Unless he has known mental health issues please dot assume its that. Some ppl are just cruel, mean, anti-social and shot.

[RestingPandaFace]

I would definitely report, but I might be tempted to wait a while and see what else you can get on camera first. Once the police speak to him he will know about the cameras and you might miss catching him doing something else.

[miltonj]

Of course you report it

[SleepyPartyTime]

Report so that you have a clear paper trail, even if no charges are pressed now.

[DoubleTweenQueen]

@user1488481370 Can you not get an injunction to keep him away from your own home and garden?

[channeltwo]

I would report this to the police as a safeguarding issue as well as a criminal act as he is targeting young children. Fucked up.

[channeltwo]

@Penners99

I would hook up an electric fence charger to the toys, but then I am an evil person.

x 100000

[NumberTheory]

I would definitely report. I wouldn’t necessarily expect much action from this one incident (though I believe it falls under criminal damage since the items require cleaning because of it), but as others have said it is one more quiver in the bow that, eventually, should prompt more decisive and effective action from the police.

[itsgettingwierd]

Of course report.

I briefly read another thread and I can understand why you won't move. I can see it's easiest but why should someone be able to drive someone else out because they just want to.

The 2 other houses - are they empty or occupied? What do the other 2 beneficiaries think and also does he do the same to them?

[BreatheAndFocus]

Revolting, aggressive and unhinged. What kind of fuckwit does that to children’s toys? Definitely report to the police now. Don’t wait.

I’d also be seeing if I could get some kind of injunction against him, keeping him away from you and your family. Do you know him well? Are you sure he’s not a physical risk? The broken glass sounds evil.

[SlipperTripper]

Contact the police, AND your solicitor.

[TheSockMonster]

As suggested by a PP, I would also wait a few more days before reporting to the police in order to try and get to the bottom of the broken glass incidents.

As soon as the police have acted upon the report he’ll be aware of the cameras and, presumably one would hope, stop going near the area.

[PizzaCrust]

How disgusting. Go to the police with every new piece of evidence you have. What a vile excuse of a human.

[ExitChasedByABee]

[quote user1488481370]@flippertygibbit there is a particular lump of land that is an asset of the business. It’s on the balance sheets as a fixed asset. 2 solicitors and a barrister have now advised that as the business owner it is in fact OH’s land. He also contributed towards the purchase of the land (inheritance from his grandfather). He’s worked for 20+ years for a meagre, sometimes none existent wage. He’s had everyone else’s cast offs and the other, non farming siblings have had houses either bought for them or barns converted for them to live in at no cost to themselves. We’ve all sacrificed so much. It’s too much to walk away from.[/quote]
What your BIL has done is completely revolting and I’m glad that you’re reporting. What do the rest of your DP’s family say about this behavior? Are the two other beneficiaries unhappy about that particular lump of land belonging to your DH?

I’m also curious as to why his non-farming siblings had houses bought for them as well as barns converted for them, and yet your DP didn’t get any of that.

Is your DP treated differently to the rest of your siblings? I’m curious as to why the land was promised to your DP and then MIL’s will ensured that the land and houses were split 4 ways?

[diddl]

It sounds as if your OH has been taken advantage of by him mum ´& now his brother is also walking all over him.

It's a shame he has invested so much for so little.

I'd be tempted to tot up any assets & start again elsewhere if at all possible tbh.

[BluebellsGreenbells]

Put in on social media instead.