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To ask how I can build emotional resilience in DC

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Ffsfgswth123 · 12/06/2021 09:36

Primary aged DC has anxiety and possible ASD. There was an incident at school midweek where the class pranked him by pretending not to be his friend and ignoring him for most of the day, and were calling him shorty, shortstuff etc.

It's really, really affected him and triggered a spike in his anxiety. He isn't eating (have a separate thread on this) and is extremely tired to the point he can't get out of bed this morning. He refused school after the incident despite learning it's a prank. DC is an extremely sensitive and empathic child, and would never do a mean prank like this on someone else. But how can I help him build emotional resilience, to help him understand there are mean kids out there who do shitty things and worse things in life will happen. He cannot let every little thing affect him so greatly.

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thelegohooverer · 15/06/2021 17:02

Well done OP for bringing it up at the school. I’m sure it’s a relief that you’re nearly done with the place.

Schools can be very different in their approach to bullying so hopefully the secondary will be one of the good ones.

The bully once put a skipping rope around her son's neck but staff did nothing this is shocking to read! Something of a similarly serious nature took place in our school and although the school did take action (the student was suspended for a week and they insisted on a psych evaluation), from the pov of the students it didn’t seem like much and several of them have carried a lot of worry and fear of the student since. I can only imagine how fearful the kids in your school must be- no wonder they’re so compliant in group bullying.

Don’t forget to let your kiddo know how well he has done to tell you. Many kids struggle to articulate it, or are too consumed with shame to be able to admit it. The fact that he has talked to you is a great sign. And having a relationship where he can open up like that is the keystone of building resilience.

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