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Neighbour watering my fence

172 replies

crappytimes · 12/06/2021 00:14

Have lived in current house 15 yrs and always had a good, not close, relationship with neighbours. We very recently agreed to go halves on a fence between our back gardens as the previous one was rotten and about to collapse and had loads of ivy coming over from their side to ours. The team did a great job, took our a few trees and v larger ivy roots. The other day I noticed neighbour had a hose/sprinkler pointed at fence right by my back door so they're not really watering flowers (think he grows sunflowers there) but watering the entire 6ft fence and water seeping all the way through and also my plants and paving (and me if I walk out the door). I texted owner's son (also living there and my contact for them) and he said he'd ask his dad's to stop but gave a shirty reply about "sorry if he's not watering correctly". I said it's not about watering correctly just don't want new fence to go rotten like old one. Anyhow 2 days go by and no more watering of fence (something I admit he's done the last 15 yrs which has always bugged me). I've gone outside just now and it's midnight and he's watering the fence again- presumably assuming i wouldn't be out this late. I really am pissed off as I know it will ruin new fence and is really pointless. He's only got concrete breeze blocks with weeds and a few sunflowers. I don't want to seem rude- parents are elderly and have always been nice but given I've just paid for the fence I feel I should stand firm. AIBU?

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IAmDaveTheSerialShagger · 12/06/2021 00:17

He probably has plants running up the fence, and yes Yabu

Neolara · 12/06/2021 00:17

You know you're fence will get rained on?

I think this is a complete non issue and if you make it one, you will come across like a loon.

legotruck · 12/06/2021 00:19

It's water, like rain.

Notimeforaname · 12/06/2021 00:22

Just came on to say what about when it rains?!Grin Its water and it's a fence. Chill.

AlwaysLatte · 12/06/2021 00:28

If it's treated properly water won't hurt it, otherwise fences would just give up in the rain! I wouldn't like the sprinkler to be going over the top and soaking me though. Hopefully that was a one off.

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/06/2021 00:31

Hmm fences get wet when it rains.

user1473878824 · 12/06/2021 00:36

What do you think happens when it rains? He’s probably got plants in the bed by it. If it’s a good fence it’ll have been properly treated. Your text would have got a Hmm from me too.

notapizzaeater · 12/06/2021 00:39

Errr what do you think rain is ? And it's not your fence, you went halves.

GertietheGherkin · 12/06/2021 00:44

Whether it falls from the sky or from a hose, it's still water. If you have downpours for days and nights, your fence is going to get wet.

GertietheGherkin · 12/06/2021 00:47

@notapizzaeater

Errr what do you think rain is ? And it's not your fence, you went halves.
True, so what the neighbours do to, or plant/ water their side is their right and business.
SchrodingersImmigrant · 12/06/2021 00:49

As long as it doesn't make puddles on your side, all is well

BruceAndNosh · 12/06/2021 00:54

Everyone commenting about rain - the OP intends to bring the new fence indoors if it rains

Notimeforaname · 12/06/2021 00:59

BruceAndNosh 🤣🤣🤣
Reminded me of Father Ted. When the weather gets bad,they take the roads in. 🤣

Blossomtoes · 12/06/2021 01:07

Fences get wet shocker. Get over it.

Original poster
crappytimes · 12/06/2021 01:09

I don't see it as being the same as when it rains. He's got a hose pointed at one spot for hours. Probably even overnight (it's his usual practice). When the fence came down to replace i saw exactly the state of the borders (weeds) and doubt it's any different now. I water with a hose in my hand and water the soil not the fence nor leaves as that's just not how to water. It's just common sense.

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NorthernBirdAtHeart · 12/06/2021 01:10

YABU ☔️

lotstolose1 · 12/06/2021 01:14

What? Watering the fence? Hmm if it's treated then surely it's just the same as rain Hmm

bluebell34567 · 12/06/2021 01:23

The other day I noticed neighbour had a hose/sprinkler pointed at fence right by my back door so they're not really watering flowers (think he grows sunflowers there) but watering the entire 6ft fence and water seeping all the way through and also my plants and paving (and me if I walk out the door).

thats not fair. YANBU.

TiredPetunia · 12/06/2021 01:25

Is he... alright in the head? Very odd to point hose at fence.

notangelinajolie · 12/06/2021 01:35

Seriously Shock
You do know that rain ie water happens all the time?
And that fences (made of wood/trees) have water/rain fall on them all the time?

/
You think a hose pipe makes a difference Hmm

violetbunny · 12/06/2021 01:52

YANBU. I don't think it's the same as getting rained on. For one thing, the fence is already getting rained on, this is extra time it's getting wet and the pressure from having the water pointed straight at the fence will be more damaging if done consistently and repeatedly over time.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 12/06/2021 01:57

don't leave your fence out at night OP.
it won't just get rained on.
it will also get darked on
and spiders will rub their willies on it

frankenpoodle · 12/06/2021 01:59

I'd find it annoying, too, OP. Rain is unavoidable, but at least the fence gets a chance to dry out between rainy days. Someone intentionally watering it every day is unnecessary and irritating behaviour.

TinySaltLick · 12/06/2021 02:00

@crappytimes

I don't see it as being the same as when it rains. He's got a hose pointed at one spot for hours. Probably even overnight (it's his usual practice). When the fence came down to replace i saw exactly the state of the borders (weeds) and doubt it's any different now. I water with a hose in my hand and water the soil not the fence nor leaves as that's just not how to water. It's just common sense.
Just to clarify - he has arranged a hose, which I assume is spouting a continuous flow of water, pointed exclusively at the new fence for many hours, eg 3 or more hours? Is a person holding said hose or is it secured in some sort of bespoke apparatus?
Original poster
crappytimes · 12/06/2021 02:09

Yes. He's done it for years. Previously it was 2 fence panels near our back door and the rest was a metal mesh type fence. I didn’t obvs care about the wire fence before and the wood ones were so rotten it was just obvious why they were rotten. Now we have 6 fence panels. I think he's just watering one spot as that's where the sunflowers are. Yesterday he just leaves the hose pointing up to the fence for hours/all day or all night sometimes. I have sunflowers myself on my side. I just use a hose on the soil. I know I'm nbu!

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