Neighbour watering my fence

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Have lived in current house 15 yrs and always had a good, not close, relationship with neighbours. We very recently agreed to go halves on a fence between our back gardens as the previous one was rotten and about to collapse and had loads of ivy coming over from their side to ours. The team did a great job, took our a few trees and v larger ivy roots. The other day I noticed neighbour had a hose/sprinkler pointed at fence right by my back door so they're not really watering flowers (think he grows sunflowers there) but watering the entire 6ft fence and water seeping all the way through and also my plants and paving (and me if I walk out the door). I texted owner's son (also living there and my contact for them) and he said he'd ask his dad's to stop but gave a shirty reply about "sorry if he's not watering correctly". I said it's not about watering correctly just don't want new fence to go rotten like old one. Anyhow 2 days go by and no more watering of fence (something I admit he's done the last 15 yrs which has always bugged me). I've gone outside just now and it's midnight and he's watering the fence again- presumably assuming i wouldn't be out this late. I really am pissed off as I know it will ruin new fence and is really pointless. He's only got concrete breeze blocks with weeds and a few sunflowers. I don't want to seem rude- parents are elderly and have always been nice but given I've just paid for the fence I feel I should stand firm. AIBU?

And even if she were, it wouldn't put her in charge of what her neighbour does or doesn't do with his own garden and a fence he paid for half of.

I thought you said that unless she were she had no right to stick her nose is, so it follows that if she were then she could stick her nose in.

Maybe you you could try and decide where exactly you stand on that.

If you can shift the goalposts, so can I .

She doesn't have a leg to stand on. He bought half the damn fence, he's watering his garden as he pleases.

He may be an environmental saint in all other ways but watering those sunflowers for all you or I know .

No, you are just trying to score a point and it's not working. I'm pointing out facts, you are confused in your position.

Keep trying though, you might get there.

Oh, and passive agressive smileys add nothing to an adult discussion.

don't leave your fence out at night OP.
it won't just get rained on.
it will also get darked on
and spiders will rub their willies on it

This ^^ 😂😂😂

@category12

If you can shift the goalposts, so can I .

She doesn't have a leg to stand on. He bought half the damn fence, he's watering his garden as he pleases.

He may be an environmental saint in all other ways but watering those sunflowers for all you or I know .

She paid half too so is as equally entitled to him to insist that the fence ISN'T watered.

Or you know, she could let it go.

Because it's an outdoor fence.

And she has to live next door to the guy.

And in however many years time, she may want him to pay for half the fence again. It would be a lot easier at that point, if they haven't ended up falling out over something so ridiculous.

Not a lot you can do about it, maybe treat his side every year. But why do it in the first place very odd. Waste of bloody water too and its not like rain if its concentration in same spot.

It’s not the same as being rained on, so I don’t think YABU. If the hose or sprinkler is pointed at it for hours at a time every day, it’s not going to get a chance to dry out so any treatment it’s had isn’t going to last long in the face of relentless watering - plus if he’s leaving it overnight isn’t it drenching the soil in the borders to the point of mud ? Try not to make a big issue of it if your relationship is good with them - maybe if your point of contact is the son, try to get him to let you speak to parents face to face and explain the problem in a kindly way.

@SchrodingersImmigrant. I agree that water wasting is not ok (including excessive washing).
I do, however, think that reporting someone to water company is ridiculous. (And why is no one ever reporting the excessive washers?)

How exactly do you find out if someone is an excessive washer and why would you report them ? You cant judge someone for excessive washing (presumably judged by the amount of times washing appears on the line or something) unless you know the reason why they are doing it - OCD, incontinence, etc.,

In due course, we are all going to have water meters fitted whether we like it or not. They are doing street by street. Mine in days.
It is government policy and water companies v. enthusiastic.
When this happens the problem will go away naturally.
Ring your water company and ask how soon they can do it.

I've just paid for the fence I feel I should stand firm. AIBU?

He paid for it too.

YANBU

My neighbour likes to repeatedly pressure wash my fence and as a result this part of our fence is now going rotten because she has blasted the treatment off it 🤦🏻‍♀️The water also pours down (we are slightly lower) and pools in our garden. She literally stands there for half an hour aiming it at the fence 🙄

Why is he watering the fence lol. If he had the sprinklers set up properly, the water should be watering the plants not the fence. What a waste of water. I would be annoyed too if every time I walked out the back I got wet. Yes the fence will get rained on but it doesn't rain every single day.

I’m glad my neighbours on both sides don’t mind water on the fence. At this time of year, we set a sprinkler going 2/3 times a week, moving it around our garden, leaving it in each spot for about 30 minutes (like a good downpour). We have flower beds on both side. Not only does it hit the fences. Sometimes it sprinkles over their sides a little 😮 Our plants are important to us and were expensive, so it’s important to do that!

You are being a bit OTT in my opinion. Modern fencing is pressure treated to resist water. This is fortunate or they would be damaged by good downpours of rain!

[quote pam290358]@SchrodingersImmigrant. I agree that water wasting is not ok (including excessive washing).
I do, however, think that reporting someone to water company is ridiculous. (And why is no one ever reporting the excessive washers?)

How exactly do you find out if someone is an excessive washer and why would you report them ? You cant judge someone for excessive washing (presumably judged by the amount of times washing appears on the line or something) unless you know the reason why they are doing it - OCD, incontinence, etc.,[/quote]
That comparison was part of a point that reporting is ridiculous.
Waste of water through hose or through washing towels after single use is same imho. Both bit shot behaviour but ridiculous to report it to the water company

@Bernardo1

In due course, we are all going to have water meters fitted whether we like it or not. They are doing street by street. Mine in days. It is government policy and water companies v. enthusiastic. When this happens the problem will go away naturally. Ring your water company and ask how soon they can do it.

😔 i grow fruits and cucumbers, damn

Oh and before anyone comments that I’m wasting water. I live in an area served by Kielder Resevoir and we never have shortages of water. I am also as eco friendly as possible and hardly put anything in our general waste bin!

Perhaps suggest he buy an inexpensive timer to attach to the spigot? Then it could be set to run for a few hours (or less) then automatically turn itself off.

I'd be more annoyed at being sprayed if I used my back door and the ground on my side being turned into a mud pit.

I live in an area that is now in what is called an 'exceptional drought'. Every drop of water is precious.

God, I'd hate to have a neighbour like you OP

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

don't leave your fence out at night OP. it won't just get rained on. it will also get darked on and spiders will rub their willies on it

😂😂😂

You come across as a total nut job - great reply by the son🤣🤣🤣

YABU. What neighbours do on their side of the fence is their business. His sunflowers are obviously important to him. You sound a bit judgemental of his side (weeds/state of the borders). Summer is only 3 months, then the rain will take over anyway. I know you feel the pain as you feel you paid half but this is not something you can't control without harming your relationship with him.

@Bernardo1

In due course, we are all going to have water meters fitted whether we like it or not. They are doing street by street. Mine in days. It is government policy and water companies v. enthusiastic. When this happens the problem will go away naturally. Ring your water company and ask how soon they can do it.

It’s voluntary here. Nobody volunteers.

I'd just say to him it's more effective to water the roots of plants and not their leaves. As others have said the fence will get wet in the rain, though I do understand your point of having the hose concentrated at one point could damage it.