Mum staying with a broken ankle

[jessieb90]

Hi everyone,

My family are from and live in the South, whereas I now live in the North.

Im expecting my first child imminently and this will also be the first grandchild/ nephew for my siblings. We've always planned for my family to travel up more or less as soon as we come home from the hospital (give a day or two) so they can meet little man and I can see them as well (COVID has meant I've only seen them twice throughout my pregnancy).

The plan was for my family to stay in the local B&B which is situated literally next door, but since this my mum has severely broken her ankle and has had to have an operation. Knowing my mum, she'll still want to come up and I also want her too. My sister said if that's the case she can't stay in the B&B and would be better staying with us (which I agree with).

My partner on the other hand is saying that this is not an option as it will be far too stressful for us with a newborn and having to "wait" on my mum as she won't be capable of doing anything herself. I think he's being unreasonable to not allow my mum to stay and it's stressing me out.

What do you guys think?

Sorry haven't RTFT but is another option if she can come for your family to stay in a bungalow Airbnb or disability friendly room in a hotel for your family to look after her? I agree with your DH, it doesn't sound like a great ideam

I'm 5 weeks post surgery for a serious break. An ankle break is severely limiting, unless you have had a break to a weight bearing limb you have no idea. I'm still sleeping downstairs as our stairs are awkward and don't have a rail so are unsuitable for crutches.

If your mum comes she may not even be capable of making and carrying a cup of tea as you can't carry a hot drink (or much else) when walking on crutches.

Your mum will also be in considerable pain and may be sleep deprived as it's difficult to get comfortable in bed with a cast on your leg.

Good luck whatever you do decide.

@Ohhyeahright we decided that it would be too stressful and unfair for me and especially my partner to have my mum visit. She's still not weight bearing but recovering well from the surgery. Miles is now 5 weeks old and we're planning a trip down south now we feel more confident to go see her so she can have cuddles. It's her first grandchild so if devastated she can't help me or see him x

Also thanks everyone else for their thoughts and opinions!

Congratulations x

Having had a serious leg accident, there’s no way I could have sat in a car/train for any length of time for months. Sorry, OP, I’d be postponing til she feels fit enough. Hope she heals soon and your birth goes well.

Oops, didn’t see the update! Congrats!

@DismantledKing thank you x

Congratulations

@Cherrysoup @Oceanbliss thank you x