ABU to expect acknowledgement of my birthday?

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I've been seeing a guy for approx 4 months.
I really like him but it feels like he's a much slower burner. I want to see where it goes. However
It was my birthday on Monday and he didn't acknowledge it. After a few months would you expect your birthday to be acknowledged? For his birthday I took him out for a meal and got a card.
Is it a bit crap? Or do I need to calm down and see where it goes?

Does he definitely know it was your birthday? If he does, then yeah it's pretty shitty.

Did he know it was your birthday?

Yes he should have acknowledged it but how you deal with this depends on how much it bothers you

Did you mention that it was your birthday?

If you took him for a meal for his Birthday
he should have made note of when it was yours so he could return the favour or at very least got you a card and small gift.
He's not very thoughtful is he?
I can't see him putting much effort into the relationship if this is how he's started off.

Assume he knew it was your birthday and you mentioned it beforehand etc? Yes it’s shit. A few months in you’re meant to be going all out to impress them....this is as good as it’s going to get

Even a good friend would send a quick text at least to say "Happy Birthday". He either forgot or doesn't care.

Our birthdays are a week apart so yeah I mentioned my birthday and possible plans to do something for it

Yes if he knew it was your birthday and you'd already taken him out for his birthday then that's incredibly lazy. Are you sure he isn't planning something for when you next meet? Even so I would have expected at the very least a message on the day.

... or (clutches at straws) follows a faith that doesn't celebrate Birthdays.

Lighthearted advice ..

If he knew it was your birthday, just tell him you expect a card and present from him.

If he didn’t know tell him it’s your birthday and ditto.

Some (many? most?) men are like dogs they need to be told in words of one syllable what behaviour you expect from them. That’s why men like bitches and flirts. They know where they stand.

He is showing you EXACTLY whats ahead of you.

You acknowledged his birthday.
He KNEW it was yours.

He couldn't be arsed, to even send a text.

I would take it that he isn't that into you.

Up to you what you accept from a man.

But I wouldn't have ANY expectations from him.

Happy birthday.

When you say you mentioned it, did he definitely take note of it? Was it just a throwaway comment he could have missed?

Yeah that’s rubbish.
It was my birthday on Monday too and several close family members and friends didn’t bother to acknowledge it with even a quick message. Things like this just show me exactly what people think of me.

@Duckswaddle happy belated birthday.

Sorry to hear that. It's really crappy. It happened to me last year where 2 of my good friends just ignored my birthday, a text would've been fine.
Even though one friend always makes a big deal of her birthday and I always buy her a gift....it was literally nothing from her.

He knew it was my birthday. I took him out kinda with us celebrating both our birthdays.
Idk when we're together it's great but when we're not together it's hard to know how he feels.

He’s clearly not that bothered
Dump him

OP you should get out of this while you can. If he definitely knew it was your birthday that is shit and doesn't bode well for the future.

He's just very chilled out. The communication isn't the best but when we are together it feels really great and like we're a couple.

But he didn’t get you anything for your birthday

Sounds thoughtless

I suppose I'm hoping that over time a more serious relationship will develop.

That's really thoughtless and I wouldn't be impressed. My partner's birthday was 2 months into dating. I got him a small gift and card, and he did the same for me 2 months later.

It might but he’ll still be thoughtless
Actions speak louder than words

@Overdueanamechange

... or (clutches at straws) follows a faith that doesn't celebrate Birthdays.

And yet was happy to receive a present for his birthday.

If you don't give, you don't get as far as I'm concerned. Even a card and a box of chocolates wasn't difficult. He couldn't be arsed.

Surely you think of yourself as worth more than £5 op? If so, dump him.

I was with my now DH for 2 weeks before my birthday. He bought me a ring and necklace set and got me a card.

I knew my DH for 5 days before it was my birthday and he sent me a card and a present.

Perhaps he genuinely forgot and is now too embarrassed to say something? Can you mention your birthday next time you chat and see how he reacts?

It's quite depressing reading this. I asked him out specifically to celebrate his birthday with a meal and drinks. He was happy to celebrate his birthday and he knew my birthday was a week later as the going out on a date was sorta a joint celebration.