ABU to expect acknowledgement of my birthday?

[Placeandtime]

I've been seeing a guy for approx 4 months.
I really like him but it feels like he's a much slower burner. I want to see where it goes. However
It was my birthday on Monday and he didn't acknowledge it. After a few months would you expect your birthday to be acknowledged? For his birthday I took him out for a meal and got a card.
Is it a bit crap? Or do I need to calm down and see where it goes?

Get rid

@Placeandtime

It's quite depressing reading this. I asked him out specifically to celebrate his birthday with a meal and drinks. He was happy to celebrate his birthday and he knew my birthday was a week later as the going out on a date was sorta a joint celebration.

The joint celebration is a bit confusing, I would celebrate both birthdays on the respective days. I have dates somebody whose birthday was exactly a week after mine and we never combined birthdays.

But apart from that, this is very poor on his part and it would tell me he is not that bothered. I have dated a few people and had birthdays much sooner than four months in, all but one of the men I have dated have enjoyed making a bit of an effort for that first birthday together (as have I for theirs). The one that didn’t and never did, really didn’t ever care about me it transpired.

He is stringing you along op.
He won't suddenly change 'once he's decided what he wants' .
Break off now before you waste any more time hoping for a commitment.
💐

@KarmaStar

He is stringing you along op. He won't suddenly change 'once he's decided what he wants' . Break off now before you waste any more time hoping for a commitment. 💐

I’m sorry but I have to agree. He is thoughtless at best, but most likely selfish and stingy. Either way, I would get out now. You deserve better.

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

Ita fine if he is really chilled and doesnt really celebrate birthdays. But in that case when you were celebrating his, and giving him a gift, he should really have said 'oh thanks but there was no need, I'm honestly not fussed about birthdays and don't really 'do' them'. Celebrating his birthday with you and then not acknowledging yours at all is just rude and to me, it shows he is happy in a situation where is is taking more than he is giving

This. If he's not into birthdays, he should have said something when you went out. As it is, it looks like he's happy for you to make the effort and thinks he doesn't have to bother.

I would stop contacting him now. That sends a message. From the sound of it you do the main share of communications. Stop. Let him figure out where he's messed up.

[quote Placeandtime]@Duckswaddle happy belated birthday.

Sorry to hear that. It's really crappy. It happened to me last year where 2 of my good friends just ignored my birthday, a text would've been fine.
Even though one friend always makes a big deal of her birthday and I always buy her a gift....it was literally nothing from her.

He knew it was my birthday. I took him out kinda with us celebrating both our birthdays.
Idk when we're together it's great but when we're not together it's hard to know how he feels.[/quote]
He’s rude...I wouldn’t see him any more. Save your kindness and thoughtfulness for a man who appreciates you.

Did he forget? Rather than intentionally ignoring it?

Have you asked him about it yet?

He's lazy and thoughtless. He was happy for you to make plans for his birthday, but just couldn't be arsed - or it didn't occur to him - to put any effort into doing something for you.

In the early days of a relationship this should be an absolute deal breaker. If he's making fuck all effort to win you now, then what do you think he'll be like a few years down the line?

I'd dump him based on this. Don't waste more of your time on someone who can't be bothered with you.

Your birthday was his chance to let you know exactly how special and amazing he thinks you are.