Page 3 | What's the funniest experience of mansplaining you have experienced

catmandont · 09/06/2021 16:05

Plumber was working in new kitchen extension. He seemed to be killing time, so I asked what he was up to. (I happened to be home that day, DH happened to be at work). He said he needed to talk to DH about something, I asked if I could help. No, it was something he needed to discuss with DH. Ok fair enough I thought maybe it was an ongoing discussion.

Plumber shuffled around for a couple more hours not really doing much, before DH came home. I said to DH oh plumber needs to speak to you, DH very confused said why didn't you talk to him, you know more about the kitchen plan than me...

Plumber then asked DH where he would like the cooker, DH gave me a wry smile and said oh you need to ask catmandont about that, she knows more than me.

I took my plans out to show him and walked him over and pointed at the marks on the wall labelled "cooker". He was not impressed 🤣

ButtercupSquash · 09/06/2021 16:07

DH has more than once explained the ‘super’ setting on the freezer to me. There is nothing to explain. Things freeze faster the colder it is!

WeatherwaxOn · 09/06/2021 16:13

@Sleeperagent

Too many... A friend who is a serial mansplainer once told me he was buying a rocking chair and went on to explain that it's a chair that rocks back and forth. He even demonstrated the rocking motions with his arms. Recently I was in a city planning meeting on zoom, I was the only female. I made a good suggestion. As soon as I'd finished a man went on to explain in great detail exactly what I meant. I didn't even know him. What made it worse was at the end the chairMAN said what a good point the man had made and all the other participants agreed. It was my idea!

Did you say, "Thankyou for explaining my suggestion X...." or something similar? Why do people not pick up on this? (I mean the people agreeing with 'his' idea).

IceLace100 · 09/06/2021 16:16

My Dad gravely informed my aunty (teacher of 30 years) that behaviour in secondary schools was bad...

IceLace100 · 09/06/2021 16:18

Another one - online dating someone was very impressed I knew who Machiavelli was .

If that wasn't patronising enough he then went in to explain in detail who he was...

He was promptly binned.

Merchymor · 09/06/2021 16:21

Was reverse parking and I like to get car in perfectly straight so was about to pull forward slightly to adjust.

Helpful man parks in front of me and starts trying to help me park!!

I muttered wanker under my breath but he caught it and was awfully upset, saying he was just trying to help...

Once he'd gone I sorted myself out.

Aprilinspringtimeshower · 09/06/2021 16:22

@GentlemanJackie

I enjoyed seeing the cockerel mansplaining how to eat the food to the hens who were already eating the food in this video m.youtube.com/watch?v=8zrmI6zOLH4

Apparently it’s not just human males who do this

Well that was an unexpectedly informative 10minutes 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Merchymor · 09/06/2021 16:24

@WeatherwaxOn

This is something my husband says he sees a lot in meetings, plus men talking over women.

He is a manager and always makes a point of pulling the men up on it.

I've heard him do it while wfh once or twice and it does make me smile.

Wrotten · 09/06/2021 16:24

Not exactly mansplaining but it needs its own term.

I work in construction. I told the construction manager the state of play of some materials (I'd find out the next day when the supplier could deliver due to the way their system worked). He told me it wasn't good enough as he needed the goods now.

He mentioned it to my director on a Teams call. My director went away to talk to the supplier and then came back to say they'd give us a delivery date the next day. Apparently that was brilliant.

He's a cunt.

TranquilityofSolitude · 09/06/2021 16:25

Six months into breastfeeding my second child, FIL thought I might like to know how breastfeeding worked and how I might improve my technique...

Wiredforsound · 09/06/2021 16:26

Spotty 17yo Herbert not yet in uni, explaining how lecturers should mark student papers, to me, a lecturer with almost 30 years experience.

dragoncheeselady · 09/06/2021 16:26

Today in a teams meeting a colleague who is known for this decided to explain to myself and the other administrator of our monitoring system how to check for duplicates.
We have been running this system for years and know how to check for and resolve duplicate entries and he was also completely wrong.
Every other member of the team had to look away from the screen because the eyerolling was epic.

It does no good telling him he was wrong because he doesn't listen. We just let him make a fool of himself and our manager steps in when its something that affects the business

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 09/06/2021 16:26

My ex husband telling me how to drive my own car, when to change gears, when to apply brakes etc etc, I taught him to drive as he hadn't learnt by 40, he was crap at it and it took him 1k and 6 attempts at the test to pass.

Confusedandshaken · 09/06/2021 16:28

My husband has very little visual imagination (if that's a phrase). He cannot look at a room or a space and imagine what it would look like if the walls were a different colour or the flower bed was moved. He isn't practically minded either. Because of this I make all the decisions on decor/home improvements etc.

A few years ago someone came to the house to discuss taking out an old gas fire, relining our chimney then fitting a log burner and new hearth. He seemed to know his stuff and gave a reasonable price so we I paid a deposit and we agreed the date. As he was leaving he hesitated and said to me 'shouldn't you discuss this with your husband?' I laughed out loud, mostly from shock and then told him ' My husband is a very busy and important man. I don't trouble his pretty little head with household trivia.'

hiccupgate · 09/06/2021 16:29

When I was pregnant and suffering with horrendous sickness my uncle told me to "try and eat, you know it's good for you and the baby?". I didn't have to shoot him down because my aunty was in there at lightening speed 🤣.

HeronLanyon · 09/06/2021 16:31

A male postgraduate law student told me how to cross examine. He knew I was 20 years call and even if I say it myself, an expert at it. I tore him apart. He went white.

HibouMilou · 09/06/2021 16:34

I’m not sure if this counts as mansplaining, since the person who did the explaining was a female friend.

I’ve got 4 degrees, but live in Scotland (so apparently know nothing). I’m also an Honorary Lecturer at a University.She now lives in London, so knows everything. She asked me if I knew:

that students paid fees for Uni courses in England
that students had to reference dissertations with evidence these days

!!!

BackBeatTheWordisOnTheStreet · 09/06/2021 16:34

I once told a guy what I was studying for my PhD. He went on to explain that there wasn't any current research going on in that subject as it was all figured out years ago. Thanks random man with no expertise, good to know.

bigbaggyeyes · 09/06/2021 16:35

@5foot5 we had similar, i went into a dealership to buy a car with my dh. Each time I asked a question the salesman answered to my dh. My dh said at one point 'there's no point telling me, I'm not buying the car, she is'
I asked him a question about engine performance and he looked at me and promptly, rolled his eyes and answered my dh again, I sighed back and walked out. I heard my dh laugh as the salesman asked what was up, my dh said 'she's a fully qualified car mechanic, she probably knows more about engines than you, and I know jack about cars, I told you she was the one buying the car, guess we won't be buying from you'

Watto1 · 09/06/2021 16:36

I work in a shop in a small town in Wales. A customer came in to arrange delivery of a large item. When giving me the address, he felt the need to spell the name of the town we were both standing in.

KeepingTrack · 09/06/2021 16:37

DH..

Looking at a sport top and asking if we could wash it at 40oC.
Told him we could.
He had to then make a show of checking the label to tell me that yes it was ok, we could wash said top at 40oC.

Yep, I know. I’ve checked myself and have done the washing for a long time....

BlatantlyNameChanged · 09/06/2021 16:37

Male doctor explaining to me how I shouldn't be in pain 24 hrs after c-section because c-sections are not particularly painful.

This happened to me too! I was in the ward, day after my section, and I told the nurse I was in quite a bit of pain/more pain than I expected for 24hrs post-section. The nurse got the doctor to come see me. The doctor looked about twelve years old, kept calling me Mrs , and pointed out that I'd had a section. Conversation went a bit like:

Me - I'm in much more pain than I'd expected, actual pain rather than discomfort

Him - You had a caesarean section yesterday

Me - Yes but I wasn't in this much pain after my last one, I really don't feel right

Him - Well during a section we make a significant incision into the lower abdomen and its normal to feel tender afterwards

Me - I don't feel tender, I am in pain

Him - Are you walking around? Too much walking can make it feel sore

Me - I needed morphine just to get out of the bed and I can just about make it to the toilet and back but it hurts too much for anything else

Him - Hmmmm, well you should be resting. I'll write you a prescription for some movicol as I think you might be constipated, all perfectly normal after a section. How's your bleeding?

Me - I'm not bleeding at all which I don't think is right either

Him - Bleeding varies and you did have a section

I got discharged, got even worse at home, rang back and spoke to the same bloody doctor who told me that I must have caught a bug from somewhere even though I hadn't been anywhere except hospital and home. When I started vomiting bile and had intense stomach pains he told me that I must have food poisoning. DH rang an ambulance and based on symptoms alone A&E provisionally diagnosed retained placenta within minutes of me arriving there, confirmed by a scan around ten minutes after that. Mr Mansplainer caused a delay that led to sepsis, secondary haemorrhage, ten days in hospital, and a raging case of PTSD. Cunt.

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bjjgirl · 09/06/2021 16:38

I am just at a loss in how to respond at work as it's meant to be inclusive and team driven so you should welcome ideas and feedback but it isn't helpful, it's patronising, incorrect name down right condescending

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Feather12 · 09/06/2021 16:38

My FIL used to tell me best routes to take on the underground. On a journey I did regularly. He even used to get a map out.

forinborin · 09/06/2021 16:39

@BackBeatTheWordisOnTheStreet

I once told a guy what I was studying for my PhD. He went on to explain that there wasn't any current research going on in that subject as it was all figured out years ago. Thanks random man with no expertise, good to know.

Had exactly the same experience. Maybe we met the same guy