To ask why all wrap dresses are designed to flash chest?

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Every one I've tried or ever bought without fail seems to be cut to the navel almost , necessitating a vest and therefore rendering it frumpy. Why? Why?
Yet I'm constantly told a wrap dress will suit me (kind way of saying I need help to find a waist o fear or that my belly needs hiding)
Sadly they do suit me but I cannot find one with a high enough neckline.
Rant over. I'm post migraine and angry and upset all at the same time. And my teen never talks to me. Sigh

I find with my flat chest they gape.

Agree! And makes it extra difficult if you have small boobs (and imagine also if you have larger boobs!).

re the migraine hangover and horrible teen

Yes! I can’t wear them because of this. I don’t want to have to find some matching vest top to go underneath, I just want to be able to wear the dress! I’ve had a mastectomy and can’t wear anything low cut as a result, wrap dresses are impossible, which is annoying because they are often lovely dresses.

I always add a couple of safety pins or sew them shut if I can.

Add a stitch in

There must be a very small range of boob size they fit and flatter. I'm top heavy and they reveal far too much but I can see if you were small of boob they would gape.

Poppers are your friend. But in general I agree

Completely agree - it’s an absolute myth that they suit everyone, or even most people. Just another thing to make women feel shit about themselves! I have also pinned/stitched them in the past, why can’t we have clothes that actually fit without these modifications?!

I just pin them shut now. I'm past caring what people think.

But why should we have to bother adding poppers/pins etc?! They should be stand alone dresses that need no help!
Totally agree OP they are usually a great disappointment

I use a safety pin

I mean, it's the mechanics of how they're designed isn't it? Two panels designed with to be fixed at the side of your waist are always going to make an X from your shoulders to your waist.

In order to show less cleavage you'd either need to extend the cut of the panels so that the end point is behind your back, or have another tie / fix around your ribs or your shoulders, which would look rather odd.

Agree with PP that the best way to fix this is with a subtle stitch, a safety pin, or poppers.

If they don't work for you, why buy them?

They don't work for me either. I don't own any.

@HDready

Completely agree - it’s an absolute myth that they suit everyone, or even most people. Just another thing to make women feel shit about themselves! I have also pinned/stitched them in the past, why can’t we have clothes that actually fit without these modifications?!

You don't have to wear wrap dresses, they're not mandatory. Personally I'm a fan of halter neck dresses and tops.

I’m flat chested and can’t wear wrap dresses because I have nothing to fill out the bust with.

Why 'should they' be a stand alone dress? Isn't it kind of part of the way they work that they have a deep V, due to needing a straight line from the shoulder to the waist?

Even the high end ones like Diane von Furstenberg gape. They need a popper put in after you buy or use a safety pin.

You can buy panels of material that clip to your bra stap, I'm not sure what they are called, they're usually plain with a clip on each top corner which fill the v shaped gap at the front of the dress, you can clip it as high or low as you like.

I tried one once and discarded for the same reasons. Some nice faux wrap dresses out now which may do the trick though, OP?

I think wrap dresses are the most overrated item of clothing ever. I also always get them recommended to me as suiting my shape. Believe me, they do not.

Definitely agree. They are always one of these, must have items. Have bought a couple of the years, and had to use safety pin to stop front gaping, or wore a vest underneath. Would never buy one now, and never wear the one I still have .

Double sided tape here. I don’t have boobs. And make sure they are tied tight. I do hate seeing singlet tops in the neckline, but it’s a regular feature of mine. They are very easy to wear.

Wrap dresses must fit and flatter someone but it’s not me. I wonder if really expensive ones (Diane Bon Furstenburg etc are much better cut and more generous with fabric and that’s why they get the “suits everyone” reputation from those “in the know”.
As to teenagers not talking to you, I once asked a group of my students what this was about and when I might expect to get a civil word from my own offspring. They explained that mothers know nothing and it isn’t worth explaining things to them. I, on the other hand, gave really good advice because I had seen it all before. My conclusion is that you have some hope of communication with other people’s teens but not your own. Like Kevin and Perry, who are unfailingly polite to each other’s parents.

I have to wear a vest top underneath otherwise I'm showing everything.

Interesting how women with small breasts/flat chest say that they don't work on them and women with a generous bust say that they don't work either. I am in between, neither flat nor voluptuous - though I'm more towards small - and they gape on me, too.

My opinion for what it's worth: standard cut, off the peg garments aren't really consistent with the variations of the female body. Especially taking into account fluctuations of hormonal changes and such. I've heard it said that men's clothes are expected to fit men (though bear in mind, men tend to have simpler figures and an easier time maintaining a consistent weight - individuals vary, of course). Whereas, women are expected to make their bodies fit the clothes.