Saying NO to Visitors Quarentining in Our House

[SunshineDad2021]

Or rather are me and my wife being unreasonable that we don't want visitors quarentining in our house with our newborn? We have a small house, and they wouldn't be able to leave at all for the 10 day period.
They are now being incredibly spiteful and sulking. Not only is space an issue (an extra 4 people in our home), they aren't even acknowledging the potential risk of illness to us and our newborn baby. They are spoiling a time that should be special and happy because we have said no and asked to compromise on the visit happening when quarentine is no longer required. They are being completely unreasonable because they've not got their own way and now we just feel like we have to hide what we are doing as a family just to avoid the abusive/bullying/emotionally manipulative behaviour.
My wife is understandably upset at whats happened. Now we dread the visit at all if this is how it is going to be, which makes us both really sad as we did want to see these people when ready and able to.

[quote MrsClatterbuck]@PurpleMustang

Two other quotes I have see on Mumsnet

A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect

Givers need to know and strengthen their boundries because the takers do not have any[/quote]
Oh thank you, they are brilliant too and so true. My exP is having a fit currently as I am setting boundaries and has thrown his toys out of his pram. Knowing these just reinforces my stance. May have to print them up and stick them up in my bedroom 😄

[quote SunshineDad2021]@LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 sadly they're mine. I usually bend over backwards for an easy life, call me a coward, but I am really trying on this situation. But every call or text I have since saying no, has been ull of spiteful remarks, the "you don't love me" comments, hanging up the phone on me, being short etc.[/quote]
Yeah! You are a coward.

And I bet that didn't help at all did it?

If you want to set the cat amongst the pigeons and start a row that will clear the air over this you could use Amber list restrictions to your advantage. After all, they can't get to you at the moment can they? And if you put it all in an emai, texts etc you will have ot there in black and white to read, to see who really was being un/reasonable!

"oh we are not welcome" = no you are not. The British government have made that pretty clear. At the moment nobody from X is freely welcome in the UK

"you don't love me" = I don't love this behaviour; And how does this show your love for me, for my newborn child? You want to put us all to a lot of inconvenience and to risk our health. Not happening,, you will have to wait, just like everyone else has to.

Be blunt, be brave, be consistent. Put your wife and child first and sod the fall out , it's miles away - trust me, you'll feel all the better for it!

And bloody good luck to you!

Case rates are rising so rapidly here there's a strong chance they won't be allowed to return home without hotel quarantine. If the prospect of an indefinite stay doesn't give you sufficient backbone to say "hell No!" Then the cost of it might do it for them. They'll hardly get travel and health insurance to be hospitalised here ?