To ask what you love about yourself

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I really struggle with self esteem. Always have, always will. Wondered if other people find it hard to say nice things about themselves too? Can you tell me one good thing about yourself, and how easy you find it to say?

I'm really creative. I can turn my hand to anything creative and I'll probably do it well. But saying it sounds so boastful!

I would love to be creative!
The best thing about me is I'm strong and capable. I do not need a man to do anything for me, I can do it myself, DIY, heavy lifting, building things, fix anything.

I'm a good listener and I am interested in people. (Not much good at anything else though !)

I'm good at building spreadsheets. Really big complex ones with lots of formulas and tables. I think when I was younger and less experienced I didn't realise how hard it was for others to do this and just assumed everybody could whereas now I realise it's a particular skill.

In fact I think confidence with most things comes with experience and age.

I'm resilient

Despite living with a long-term anxiety disorder I get up everyday and do my utmost to have a good day.

I’m a really kind person

I think I’m damned good at my job

I am good at being a good friend. People trust me with their secrets. I am authentic- I don’t try to be someone I’m not. I don’t lie to people but I am kind. I don’t bitch. I talk sense and I am comfortable ‘speaking truth to power’. At work, I do my research and back up my decisions with evidence. People may not always like my message but they will generally believe it to be honest and accurate. I can sometimes be funny as well.

I have empathy and kindness - I am good at building relationships with people, I follow through on my promises, I'm passionate my job and my politics - also I have a nice rack

I love that I'm not a martyr. I don't wear clothes decades old, cut my own hair and sit inside while everyone else has hobbies. I matter too and I allocate an equal portion of time and disposable income to myself.

I'm kind and thoughtful. Generous and giving. I do tend to prefer animals over people though so think that's possibly a bad thing. I'm a good listener and can make most people feel better after being with me as I can nearly always find something good in someone. And on a personal note I've got a cracking set of boobs 😂!!!

I've worked a lot on this so it's not a problem for me anymore. I'd suggest you have a good think about your ethics and values and then about how much you live up to those. That's a great way to start feeling better about yourself, and by your own measure. So, for instance, if you care for the environment then do you recycle, so wisely, travel minimally. Or if you're into art and creativity do you spend time doing creative things or learning new techniques or appreciating other people's work. Anything can fall into this pattern; kindness, fashion, politics, etc.

I think it’s hugely important to like yourself. Probably one of the most important things for enduring happiness and resilience.

If you don’t like yourself (as opposed to not liking a baby tummy or new hairstyle) then surely you would change your behaviours to be someone you do like? I get it’s hard to believe you are worthy of compliments or praise, but to not like yourself suggests it’s about behaviour you can change.

How much I love animals. How much I do for them. How much difference I make to their lives when they've had a terrible start.

That's one thing I am very happy to say I'm good at and have no shame in saying that.

I'm really dependable. I stick to plans and don't use excuses. I think that makes me a good friend.

I've got a knack for meeting new people and putting people at ease.
I can walk into any situation and get chatting really easily.

Lots, although there's also lots of things that I don't like to be fair!
I like being curious. A lot of my friends are stuck in the 80s and it was their (our)glory days. They only go to gigs from ' their day' But I think the present should be your glory day as much as you can make it. By that I mean looking out for new music, new artists, take an interest in what's happening around you.
I love that I am a good friend. I'm not guessing I am, I have been told.
I love that I have made a solid family life and have adult children that are fond of me and include me in the life as well as having successfully lives of their own.
I love that I am at the stage that I don't feel I have to impress random people like u did at 20! I want people to impress me. Safe to say I'm often disappointed!
I love that I like my own company. I'm happy to go away by myself, despite my mum being horrified!😂

Now the list of things I'm not keen on about me would take a while to type!!😂😂

I'm great at forward thinking to preempt problems. That sounds so formal and corporate but it's that way in all parts of my life. It makes lots of other people's lives better and so long as I keep it in check, it also makes mine better.

I'm proud of how resilient I am (though I very much would rather I didn't have to be so resilient).

I find it hard too as a lot of my positive traits can also be seen as negative!

I like the fact that I'm my own person. I always stand by what I believe in and won't be swayed by popular opinion. But then I just think well am I just stubborn

I also think I'm a good friend. I am loyal and love doing things for my friends, it's my friend's birthday this month and I've prepared her a special hamper with all her favourite things in it and some nice treats.

I'm very independent too. I've been a single parent for 7 years and I don't need a man. If I ever do decide to have a relationship then he needs to realise that he is there to enhance my already great life, he's not my saviour and I don't need him to survive.

So I guess there's a couple of positives!

I'm resilient. I'm a master of having a quick freak out then pulling my socks up making a new plan and getting on with things.

Too many things to mention! Equally a long list of things I dislike. The best thing? I'm loyal & fair which is one reason why I've had such a great group of friends since primary school.

I make myself laugh so much, it’s like having a really great friend to hang out with whenever I want 😀 it’s a novel concept because self loathing always came more naturally

I can say a lot of good things about myself 😄 my parents did a great job instilling self esteem I wish I could pinpoint how they did it because it is such a benefit. A lot of it is to do with internal locus of control, trusting yourself, liking yourself in spite of your flaws etc.

I too am creative, it’s such a great trait OP because it’s productive, therapeutic, fun, useful. It’s a treat trait to have OP, not boastful at all.

Honestly? Not a lot. BUT if I had to come up with something I think I might be a decent mum. DD seems to think so anyhow.

I’m a good friend, enjoy my own company (never get bored) and have great hair. There that’s three.