To ask what you love about yourself

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I really struggle with self esteem. Always have, always will. Wondered if other people find it hard to say nice things about themselves too? Can you tell me one good thing about yourself, and how easy you find it to say?

I'm really creative. I can turn my hand to anything creative and I'll probably do it well. But saying it sounds so boastful!

I have a good sense of humour. I'm not flaky or fake. I'm not judgemental. I'm not envious or jealous of other people. I'm pretty clever and have used my brains to have a successful career.

I'm funny, I'm very intelligent, I'm great at my job. (And more vainly I have good hair and excellent tits haha)

It took me a long time to realise accepting the good things about myself wasn't boastful. I have plenty of downsides too, so I may as well be proud of the good parts.

You know the feeling when you compliment a friend and they bat it away and you get annoyed like "No, take the compliment, it's true!"?

Do that to yourself.

I'm a really good neighbour

I'm a fighter..... I never let a bad experience hold me back and I know I've fought some shit in my time.
I also know I'm funny..... I can make people laugh and I know how to have a damn good chatter. (I am a chatterbox)

I’m nice, people comment on it quite a bit saying I’m one of the nicest people they know. Sounds a bit boring and it is but I’ll take it.

This is a great thread. I've been feeling a bit down tonight and beating myself up about my many flaws.

Things I like about myself:

I'm funny, kind, spontaneous, nurturing, will give 100%, have strong values I stand by and have been told I'm unflappable and bring a sense of calm to people and places.

I feel less bad now about the fact I can't organize myself at all, am always running late, and am getting totally overwhelmed with dates/ meet ups now we are coming out of lockdown! I guess you can't have it all though?!

I love listening to people. I love their stories, their thinking, their ideas , their plans etc...

I think I grow lovely tomatoes , runner beans and some lovely flowers .

I'm very thoughtful.

Tell us about how you're creative? That sounds great 😊 it's not boastful. Bet you have lots of other great qualities too

Ive loved reading how diverse the comments are.

Some I indentify with but would not of thought of myself and others are completely not me and I wish I had that skill - pre empting problems, spreadsheet geniuses, confidence....

This thread has made me realise I define myself by my weaknesses and others by thier strengths. Why do I do that to myself?

I always see the best in others, I am generous (both money and time). I also have a good work ethic.

I save lives. And I'm good at it. 20 years clinical experience , in more than one country, has given me a sixth sense. I sort of know when something isn't right and I'm aware and ready for it. My colleagues call me Spooky. I'm cool in a crisis and can think clearly when it gets "busy". I also have the ability to switch off when I come off shift and get my sweaty arse under the shower. I love what I do and I wouldn't want to do anything else. I'm never shy at telling my husband how awesome I am, and I still look good in a bikini.

I’m funny. And with the right sort of people to bounce off, I’m really bloody funny. Quick witted, dry and clever.
I’m also really strong emotionally. When the going gets tough, I am the one that holds it together.
And I’m a good dancer. I have natural rhythm and just love to dance.
OP - I am absolutely rubbish at anything creative. Brings me out in a cold sweat. Love this post and how it celebrates our differences.

I have a natural talent for music and I'm pretty damn good at dancing and creative writing. I'm raising a sweet-natured, loving daughter. I have a photographic memory and a meticulous eye for detail that comes with being neurodiverse. My hair is naturally so smooth and shiny that hairdressers have told me it's like glass ...

... the list of things I don't love about myself is far longer!

I don't think traits like 'kind' or 'funny', should ever be bestowed upon yourself as I think that is for others to decide. It's subjective.

Traits like, I try to be kind and generous are more what I can get on board with.

I myself, like to think I try and help others, I don't think I am nosey and I love my family and friends and would try and do anything in my power to make their lives easier.

I make people laugh.
I can put kids at their ease.
I have a good eye for clothes.
I’m thoughtful.
I’m honest.
I have grit.

Absolutely nothing at all.

I'm creative and resilient. My imagination allows me to write and weave worlds which I can lose myself into, and also allows me to come up with solutions in a group environment which may not be the most logical, but you never know... Resilience was instilled on me by my family, who have always been there for me and equally expected us to keep going when it gets tough. I also have a wide range of interests which help when the going gets tough.
This is a great thread but if it weren't for the subject matter, I'm not sure I would feel comfortable writing it down. I could also come up with a list of things I don't like about myself. I wonder how we can learn to appreciate our strengths but still learn to work on our weaknesses without getting ourselves too down about them. I agree that sometimes it can be easy to see a trait in ourselves as positive in one aspect and negative in another.

@Mum11970
Sorry you're feeling that way. I believe everyone has strengths even if they can't see them in themselves. I'm sure others in your life have some great things to say about you.

I love this thread!

I've been through loads of shit: childhood abuse, trauma, a highly abusive relationship, the loss of my baby, diagnosis of incurable (but manageable) blood disorder, breakup of the love of my life but it's made me a strong, better person. I used to be less nice.

I'm very grateful for what I do have and I'm happier now than I've ever been, I love constantly learning and improving myself.

I'm independent, a good conversationalist, and I have been through a shit ton of shit in my life and worked hard to overcome my demons and am thankful as I believe my life experiences help others in my field of work.

It's easy to say to myself now because I genuinely love myself but 4 years ago my self esteem was non existent - every single day I would call myself names, fat, stupid, ugly, no one likes you, you'll never amount to anything. I was an utter bully to myself. I worked on my thoughts mainly myself and noticed that positive thoughts equal positive outcomes (on most things, not all obviously). So I started being nice to myself and if I had a nasty thought about myself I would argue with it, I would defend myself like I would defend a friend or defend my daughter. Eventually the thoughts that were usually negative and nasty started to soften and come less frequently. Now the thoughts don't ever come, ever. I'm totally content and love myself as cheesy as that sounds. I can't believe I bullied myself like that for my full life. It took practice but now it comes natural to just be nice to myself, even if I fuck up, even if I have a bad day, I know I'm not any of the nasty things I told myself I was.

I’m kind
I’m emphatic
I’m an excellent listener
I’m diplomatic
I’m fair
I’m an excellent singer
I laugh easily
I can make people feel at ease by talking to them and listening.
I’m incredibly optimistic
I’m resilient
I’m physically strong
I have a great smile

I have no problem with self esteem or self worth. I’m my own cheerleader and the older I get, the louder I cheer! 😁

I can't for the life of me take any shit from anyone.