Ps, the fake texts sound like Utter madness. But this is all the more reason to back away from this group completely. Saying ''move on now'' does not mean that people don't get what you've been through.
It's so machiavellian, and to remain even peripherally connected to this woman or this group would be madness.
Block them all and every body foolish enough to be a disciple of hers, and then make the decision to stop giving them space in your head.
They have behaved horribly and a lot of people will sympathise because they've been on the receiving end of similarly shocking behavior from people they thought owed them a bit more respect.
But it actually helped me to realise (when a relative was giving me the silent treatment for over a year - so far) that people can behave as badly as they want to. I felt ''you can't do that!'' but I was wrong. People can and do behave as badly as they want to behave.
The woman who is a covert scapegoating narcissist to me can and does behave exactly as she pleases and feels quite righteous about it to. Luckily though I feel so much more emotionally reactive to that than I did a year ago. I feel quite meh at her behaviour now.
It's true that old cliche, you cannot control other people, all you can control is your reaction.
Be kind to yourself. This has been a very difficult situation you've been through so first of all, acknowledge that it was very very challenging emotionally. It hurt. Don't berate yourself for having felt hurt. But take back control now. Block them and move on to the next phase. This is where you have to consciously push thoughts of them out of your head and focus on yourself. You have to stand in your own corner. Be on your own team and push thoughts of them out of your head. Otherwise the obsessive loop will take you down.
There are a lot of helpful meditations and hypnosis on youtube. Spend a week or so searching for helpful meditations on acceptance and kindness to yourself because that really is the first step in becoming stronger and more resilient. It may seem counter-intuitive, you may be thinking, no, i need to be stronger, I need to be more resilient so I can never be hurt again. But press pause on that. First of all, honour what you've been through. It was extremely painful. But you're going to make a concerted effort to put it behind you now so that you can focus on being kind to yourself now.
We're always told ''self-care, self-care, self-care'' and it is confusing, what does it mean, crisps? wine? taking the day off? I wondered about that, so I bought a book by a psychologist Fiona Brennan 'self care habit'' defined it as ''listen, open, value, energise''
I don't know what she means exactly by each of these as I'm only a few chapters in, but I'm loving the book so far. It's work, it gets you to think. You need to take it slowly and do the exercises.
But I'm curious to see what it means, Skipping ahead I can see that the listen section includes writing a letter to yourself, in the past, now, in the future. Connect with you but also, listen to others.
Open
Value
Energise. - for this one, I think one way to apply this would be to change gear energetically and look FORWARD very decisively.
I was bullied out of a group I had every right to be in just over a year ago but although it was incredibly painful it also really has forced me to 'grow' and learn.