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why am i so hungry?

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neroforte · 04/06/2021 22:43

hi.
today i have eaten:
2 slices of peanut butter on toast
2 large pieces of haddock and 2 slices of bread
a grilled cheese sandwich and 1/2 tin of soup
a tin of rice pudding and loads of jam
3/4 big bar of cadbury's

and i'm still hungry!!!
i have been eating weird amounts/binging the last few days, i've struggled with disordered eating for so many years that i am exhausted, i wouldn't mind eating so much if i wasn't so scared that i'd gain weight.
i'm 16, 5'5 and weigh about 10 stone.
the last few days have been a mix of binging and genuine hunger, and i just feel so shit about it.
people tell me i'm not fat but i feel it, and i'm scared that if i'm not right now, i will be in the future.
both my parents are severely obese.

OP posts:
Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 04/06/2021 22:47

Have you drunk enough water?

3Britnee · 04/06/2021 22:49

Too many carbs. It interferes with leptin receptors.

bethmc93 · 04/06/2021 22:50

Are you sure you’re hungry and not thirsty? I’m one of those people I’ll eat and eat and eat until I’m ready to pop when all I really could do with is a drink of water

MrsBobDylan · 04/06/2021 22:50

You haven't eaten enough which is why you are hungry. Nothing that you have eaten today constitutes a meal.

Try eating three meals a day no snacking, no weird meal substitutes like haddock and toast.

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 22:53

i currently have a urine infection so i am drinking a lot, so i don't think it's that.
i've just made a crisp sandwich, a mix of compulsion and hunger Sad

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MrMeeseekslookatme · 04/06/2021 22:53

Have you missed the part where the OP mentioned she is only 16 and has disordered eating, as well as what sounds like body dismorphia?! Please don't give another woman a life time of body issues with crap diet advice.

Please speak to your parents OP and ask them to get you help. If you can't go to your parents , can you speak to your GP or someone you trust to get some help and support.

It is normal to have hungry days and not hungry days. I get especially hungry and eat more in the week before my period. But then I am nowhere near as hungry and don't eat as much the rest of the month.

FlankerMum · 04/06/2021 22:55

Please go to a pharmacy and ask for a blood sugar test. It’s just a finger prick test. Unexplained onset constant hunger could be related to high blood sugars. I’ve experienced this, the hunger was real - not binging and I was a ‘normal’ weight.
Are you peeing more often? Are you often thirsty?
Happy to answer any questions, take care!

Cocomarine · 04/06/2021 22:56

Where are you in your menstrual cycle? I get a voraciously hungry day every month around ovulation.

But mostly, that sounds like a mix of emotional eating and carbs. There’s not a single vegetable there!

Were all 6 pieces of bread cheap white sliced?

NiceGerbil · 04/06/2021 22:57

You're 16 many girls are still growing at that age.

Your weight is fine.

If you're hungry eat.

Can you get any help/ have you had any help with your eating issues?

Xx

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 22:58

i think part of the problem is, that due to my disordered thoughts around eating, when i don't eat as much i almost congratulate myself, then obsess over it until i send myself into a stressed binge.
it doesn't make sense, i know, but it's like self sabotage.
i hate it so much.
it has been years of daily thoughts about eating/my body/etc.
it's made me want to die so many times.
i'm just so so sick of it and i want it to stop.
sorry it sounds dramatic but i just need to let it out somewhere.

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bethmc93 · 04/06/2021 22:59

Oh just seen you’re 16, you’re still growing!
Maybe a growth spurt or hormones,
If you’re hungry then eat girl!
But please talk to someone about your disordered eating xx

UnfriendlyFriendly · 04/06/2021 22:59

People tend to get hungry when they're lacking nutrients - you haven't had any fruit or veg today... They give you low calorie bulk and will stop many cravings. Also, you're a child, your body is growing, you need a lot of calories to do what you need to do. Where are your parents, can you discuss this with them, are they not concerned by your unbalanced diet?

Fabpinky · 04/06/2021 22:59

Retrograde

Cocomarine · 04/06/2021 22:59

Do you have to just eat from what your parents have in the house?
And as you say they are obese, is it a fair guess that what they have in isn’t always nutritionally the best choice? (though peanut butter in moderation and haddock are great)

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 23:02

the bread is cheap but brown.
i know no vegetables, i'm not adverse to them, i will eat them i just don't make an effort to if that makes sense.
so i will eat things like stir fry which has a ton of different veg in it, or vegetable soup etc, but in a normal day i don't really make much effort.
yesterday, i ate:
2 yum yums
3 big jammy dodgers
wine and rum
steak bake
4 morrisons chocolate shortbread cookies
battered cod

it is terrible.
i have so many ideas of going to the gym, improving my diet etc but the truth is i'm lazy, i ea like shit and because i haven't rapidly gained weight yet i just go along with it, but it's like i'm terrified of gaining weight, and the more scared i get, the more i eat.

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PurpleDaisies · 04/06/2021 23:02

I would talk to your gp about your eating and body image issues. There is support out there.

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 23:05

my parents don't make terrible meals as in when my mum cooks dinner it isn't terrible meals eg sausages and cauli cheese, lasagne with veg in it, meatballs and spaghetti with veg in the sauce, chicken supreme with rice.
but the portions have always been huge, i have said i will serve myself but they always offer seconds and it is my own fault because i almost always say yes, or i say no and then come back later for more.
and i have always had unrestricted access to biscuits etc which i get on 16 it's my responsibility but sometimes i hate it bc i will have a whole pack of biscuits for lunch and they will just say oh you were hungry and make a joke of it

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bethmc93 · 04/06/2021 23:08

Don’t punish yourself or hate yourself for having seconds!

You’re so so young and at 16 your body and brain are still growing so sometimes you do need extra fuel, being so anxious about putting on weight isn’t good for you at all, is there anyone you can confide in? X

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 23:10

it's been like this since i was 11, i was obese going into secondary school then when i joined of course i was bullied and i lost a lot of weight very quickly, which started off anorexia and binging ever since.
i keep all my fat around my middle so with what i wear i appear quite slim bc of my legs and things but if i wore a crop top and shorts which isn't really my style anyway, u would see that although i'm not overweight, i'm not skinny at all.

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R0SEMARY · 04/06/2021 23:12

I agree that you are eating too many carbs which will spike and then crash your blood sugar, so you will be hungry a few hours after eating.

Can you try to eat more protein, good fats, dairy products and vegetables ? That will make you feel fuller for longer and you will get more nutrients.

You don’t have to change everything you eat, just a few small substitutes.

So for your breakfast - try one slice of toast and peanut butter and a couple of eggs or maybe some bacon.

Vegetables with your fish instead of bread at lunch.

With the grilled cheese sandwich - some tomatoes and salad .

Home made soup with veg instead of canned.

Fruit and full fat yoghurt / cream instead of rice and jam. Canned or frozen fruit is fine .

Snacks like nuts, cheese, berries, grapes. Not crisps.

And well done on being a healthy weight. It must be tough, after what you’ve been through.

RaininSummer · 04/06/2021 23:14

OP, do you understand what a healthy diet should look like? That's a genuine question (not snarkiness) because if you have grown up with disordered or disorganised eaters, you may not know how to plan good food for your day . The fish is good but not so the yum yums and biscuits etc in large amounts which no doubt you know . Think of the fuel your body actually needs. I am sure people here can help you plan some good meals.

RogueV · 04/06/2021 23:15

Too much bread

RaininSummer · 04/06/2021 23:16

Ah bit of a cross post. So there are some nice meals on offer. I sympathise as eating too much of nice things is my problem too.

Original poster
neroforte · 04/06/2021 23:18

@RaininSummer

OP, do you understand what a healthy diet should look like? That's a genuine question (not snarkiness) because if you have grown up with disordered or disorganised eaters, you may not know how to plan good food for your day . The fish is good but not so the yum yums and biscuits etc in large amounts which no doubt you know . Think of the fuel your body actually needs. I am sure people here can help you plan some good meals.
i know what an ideal diet looks like, i've spent so many years obsessing over it i could probably recite to you every diet eg keto in detail, i know the calories of almost everything i eat from years of counting. it's just like after so many years of controlling what i was eating i've let go and it's terrifying because i can't get my control back. i know what i'm eating is terrible.
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OrangeSharked · 04/06/2021 23:23

You are 16 years old. You are still growing. You should never feel bad, or punish yourself for eating seconds, or eating the whole packet of biscuits or eating what you wanted or needed to. There is nothing morally wrong with eating a lot of food. You were hungry, you needed to eat. Somes fays we are hungrier than others and that's totally normal and okay, listen to your body

I think you know you have a disordered relationship with food and your body. Is there someone you can talk to? Have you spoken to your parents? Another trusted adult? Aunt or friends parent? You need to speak to someone Flowers