Hello munsnetters
Need some internet help on AIBU.
Backstory: me DH and two DCs, and like many others had our summer holiday cancelled last year. We rebooked it for april this year but, anticipating the pandemic shit show and knowing we probably wouldn't be going, last year I also booked a surprise little beach weekend break in UK for end of june this year - to surprise DH and DC with nearer the time. Alas, it was all done in good faith.
Fast forward through the pandemic and of course, our rebooked abroad holiday was cancelled but my surprise one looked like it was still okay to go ahead so I told DH about it. He was really taken aback by how nice it was to do that etc, but at the time it looked like due to his shifts he wouldn't be able to go.
The trip is in 4 weeks time and I've been saying to him can you take a couple days AL to come with us, but he basically said he would rather spend the last AL he has to go to Butlins for 4 nights rather than this little break for 2 nights.
We've had several conversations about this and I asked him to take 2 of his AL days from the beginning of xmas holidays to still come to this little break AND still go butlins (I know, first world problems right)
I did say I would still like to go even if I took the kids on my own (his shifts would be lates/nights anyway that weekend so seemed like a good solution to just still go), I said would you be pissed off if I still went, and he said well no one likes to be left out.
During these conversations I also said i would like to go visit my sister about 2 hours away in the summer with the kids and would try and do it on his days off so that he could come too, but he wasnt very forthcoming with dates to organise this.
A few days later, my sister said she was moving out of her flat and moving into a new one but had 6 nights where she was basically homeless, and it just so happened that this homeless period started on the same date as the weekend break, so I said instead of me coming to see you in the summer , why dont you join us for this weekend break as Dh cant come. 2 birds with one stone, she has a roof over her head and we get to spend the time together we wanted.
DH is absolutely fuming.
He essentially wanted me to cancel the break, and put the money towards butlins, I said I dont need to cancel just for the money, I'm an NHS midwife who has worked overtime during pandemic and have enough money to enjoy the summer now.
AIBu to go to this break with my sister ? In this scenario? He said he would be pissed off either way, that I would've gone on my own, or with my sister. But having my sister coming just concrete that I am actually going to go, and not potentially cancel last minute if I was due to go on my own