AIBU about my clothes or is DH?

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Since lockdown 1 last year I’ve been slowly running out of clothes. Just wear and tear, cats clawing my leggings, torn jeans etc. Bought new jeans online at Christmas then got paint all over them 🙄
Anyway. Ordered more clothes online last week and they aren’t very nice so I kept an emergency pair of rubbish leggings and returned the rest.
Yesterday I wore the leggings and DH commented he could see my knickers and I may as well not wear them. I know that but I’ve not much else to cover my arse.
Today I’ve put on a short dress I don’t often wear but have owned for years. I’m going clothes shopping to an actual shop today. DH has just asked me if I’m going out naked. I asked him if he was being obnoxious on purpose two days in a row and he’s flabbergasted, says he’s just letting me know and I’d tell him if it were the other way round. (I wouldn’t. He frequently looks “interesting” but I figure it’s choice.)
AIBU or has he been massively rude? He’s not usually a twat 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yesterday I wore the leggings and DH commented he could see my knickers and I may as well not wear them. Not sure what this means - they're a light colour and not opaque so your pants show through? Or they're tight and he can see the outline of your pants? (I'm assuming it's not a hole that lets your pants show through, since the leggings are new.) But only an idiot doesn't understand the difference between wearing underwear only vs wearing skimpy leggings that show what's underneath vs wearing see-through leggings with nothing underneath, so I'd assume he said this to upset or confuse or gaslight you.

DH has just asked me if I’m going out naked. I asked him if he was being obnoxious on purpose two days in a row and he’s flabbergasted, says he’s just letting me know and I’d tell him if it were the other way round. He's not "flabbergasted", he's an arsehole and he's trying to upset you, or he's immature and finds it funny to make stupid jokes at your expense. Just tell him, firmly, to stop. And if he continues, freeze him out - he'll stop if you stop giving him attention.

I know that but I’ve not much else to cover my arse.

Leggings that are see through enough to see your underwear isn’t covering your arse though is it? It looks incredibly stupid - when I’ve seen women like this I’ve presumed they hadn’t realised. If you know why are you walking around like that?
Wearing (very thick) black leggings as trousers was fashionable about 10 years ago - those days have gone. (I look back at pictures of me like that, basically sans trousers and cringe - I’d hope to god if my pants were showing then a friend would have said so) Were you wearing fake uggs with your leggings too?

@ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything

There’s a difference though between “I can see your pants love, you might want to be careful bending over” and “are you going out naked?!”

Are you usually so touchy?

The misogyny is rampant on this thread. OP is apparently touchy for disliking being told she is going out naked.

@stackemhigh

The misogyny is rampant on this thread. OP is apparently touchy for disliking being told she is going out naked.

I'm not sure how it's misogyny? But maybe I'm ignorant. If I said to DH "those are some short shorts, if you put your arms in the air I could see your balls" is that misogyny?

@Pinkblueberry

I know that but I’ve not much else to cover my arse.

Leggings that are see through enough to see your underwear isn’t covering your arse though is it? It looks incredibly stupid - when I’ve seen women like this I’ve presumed they hadn’t realised. If you know why are you walking around like that?
Wearing (very thick) black leggings as trousers was fashionable about 10 years ago - those days have gone. (I look back at pictures of me like that, basically sans trousers and cringe - I’d hope to god if my pants were showing then a friend would have said so) Were you wearing fake uggs with your leggings too?

How ridiculous and bitchy. Leggings definitely are in at the moment 🙄

Well, that escalated quickly.

The misogyny is rampant on this thread. OP is apparently touchy for disliking being told she is going out naked.
As ever, tone is everything though.

I told DH that he needs to get changed because his arse was hanging out. What I meant was his jeans had ripped or worn thin in an unfortunate place. He says to me 'are you planning on getting dressed' about one of my favourite pairs of trousers that he thinks look like pyjamas. Neither are being controlling or hateful as they're said within the context of a loving relationship.
If he said what was suggested up thread like "honey, you might not have noticed but I'm afraid your leggings are looking rather thin enough that your underwear is clear" I'd wonder what the aliens had done with my husband.

When I've been out with DC I've regularly thought that some women should do the squat test/look in the mirror and move before leaving the house. It's not difficult to check if your pants are showing.

MN is very weird sometimes - for some unknown reason, pps have joined the "are you naked" comment with the see-through leggings! But he said it about her dress! To me it implied that the dress was either "too short" for his 'liking' (which is tough shit, it's her body), or he thought it was a bit skimpy - had she come on and said that her husband doesn't like her wearing short dresses, you lot would be all over her to LTB or tell him to fuck off!

^ This. He accused the OP of going out naked because she was wearing a dress that came down to mid thigh. And, if I remember correctly, theOP said it was a dress with sleeves and not low cut. Does that really strike you as reasonable? Honestly? Because to me it sounds like either an 'I don't want men perving over my wife's body' remark or just taking an opportunity to put her down and make her feel ridiculous. Or possibly the former disguised as the latter.