To tell her?

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

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My friend has just had a baby. She announced the name to our friend group on WhatsApp. It’s very unusual. Personally, I don’t like it.
To be honest, I more than don’t like it and think it’s a ridiculous thing to call a child.

We all congratulated her and said he’s gorgeous (which he is!) etc but none of us have passed comment on the name.

She’s messaged me separately asking if the name is a bit much.

AIBU to tell her the truth, gently?

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

Also I am very curious to know what the name is!

Without the name I feel you won't get good advice here..

we can't possibly comment without knowing the name..

I’d just respond equivocally and keep well out of it.

Really want to know the name

Although if it’s something truly absurd, like Spiderman Princess Shit4brains Smith, you might want to say something.

Just tell her you love the name !

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

Say something like “if you love it then great. I wouldn’t have chosen it but it’s not my baby”

I would, don’t believe in lying to friends and a child has to live with their name until 18 when they can change for themselves if they like. By then though, the bulk of their qualifications etc will show it.

Give us a similar name type, op?
Then you can get genuine responses..

I don’t think people can answer this without knowing the name.

I wouldn’t have mentioned it generally, but if she’s specifically asked I wouldn’t outright lie. I’d be diplomatic though.

@DeusEx

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

She’s married but her husband is very quiet and easygoing so I can’t see him being too vocal about it. He is quite traditional and conservative though, so wondering how he feels.

Like others I think it depends on the name!

What’s the name?

And no. I don’t think you can say anything.

I think if it's a made up name or just ridiculous then you should say, "Well, it's an unusual name, isn't it? What made you choose it?" and then have a conversation about it.

@DeusEx

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

The former.

It’s basically an adjective with a name hyphenated onto it.

But the again, every name started somewhere.

Say “since you asked, I personally think it’s a bit much. But it’s your decision“.

Is there a a nickname/shortening/very similar alternative you could suggest?

ONLY because she asked you, you should reply honestly but gently.

Op you have to tell us the name

I would ask "well what do you think?" and go from there

So it’s like Blue-Ryan? You could gently suggest that Ryan Blue (so adjective as middle name) would be better?

The name is Navy-Lee.

Very common surname- think Smith or Jones.

@Lavender201

So it’s like Blue-Ryan? You could gently suggest that Ryan Blue (so adjective as middle name) would be better?

That’s actually an incredibly good guess given Lee Ryan was in Blue