AIBU to not wee in the hotel kettle?

[greatauntfanny]

Summary of events:

• In hotel room with new(ish) partner.
• Go to make myself a cup of tea, ask if he wants one.
• His eyes widen and he yelps 'No! Don't use that! People wee in them!'
• I have never heard this and say something along the lines of 'What? Why would anyone wee in the kettle? There is an ensuite.'
• He says that everyone knows you should never use the kettle in your hotel room because people wee in them 'and worse'.
• I tell him I'm going to take my chances and make a cup of tea (although I boil it out once first to be on the safe side).
• He looks repulsed and says 'I can't believe you're doing that, that's disgusting, I didn't think you were like that' (basically how I'd expect him to react if I actually did a wee (or 'worse') in the hotel kettle myself.
• We go out later for an after-dinner walk and he points at a dog poo and says 'look, there's your dessert.'
• We are getting ready for bed and he picks up kettle and asks me if I want a cup of wee to take to bed.

So, question, in case you haven't guessed: is weeing into the hotel kettle 'a thing' (in which case IABU for making a cup of tea in what is essentially a toilet) or is my partner being weirdly OTT about this? Girls group chat theories have so far ranged from he's an extreme germophobe (red flag) to he's testing my reaction because he's 'into' poo and wee related 'activities' (also a red flag) to he wees in hotel kettles himself (also a red flag).

The only non-red flag is that he's right and people are weeing into their hotel kettles left right and centre which would be a a green flag for him but a red flag for the rest of society. I'm not really sure what outcome I'm hoping for here. Help me out?

haha i have heard this and have since never used a hotel kettle! would never judge someone for using a hotel kettle to make tea though, he sounds a bit odd :/

I've never heard that and even if true the inside of the kettle is probably the cleanest thing in the hotel room - by it's very nature it's boiling at 100 degrees so will kill anything. He does realise that the water he drinks has been through purification and will at some point have been wee. The water coming out the tap doesn't get specially piped in from the alps!

Tell him his comment really boils your piss!

He's obviously done it before.

brings own mugs to hotel

I think it appeared once in The Sun that someone once pissed in a hotel kettle and some people wash underwear in them. I don’t think it’s very common though.

I suspect men do stuff like that, especially in groups. Hahaha, jolly good one lads. Pee stinks to high heaven. If there was a trace of wee you'd smell it. Does he not know that? Does he think his prior pisscapades went unnoticed by hotel staff?

I do this, but always feel really angry at myself afterwards. Boils my piss.

Like various pp’s, it’s the cups not the kettle you need to worry about. As a chambermaid in three hotels, I’ve defo ‘cleaned’ the cups with a used towel picked up from the bathroom floor. Boil the pissy kettle first and pour the boiling water over the cup to disinfectant. Then you’ll be fine*

What? Why?

Op he sounds like a knob.

I worked in a guesthouse many years ago whose residents where mainly elderly. There were no en suite in those days. One poor lady in a single room took a dose of the shits and went in the sink. Muggins here got to clean it up🤮🤮 I would have been only 17 and though I didn't mind cleaning the toilets or the men urinals this was something else. At least a toilet you have the option of flushing stuff away. After I couldn't clean that particular sink without retching. Also remember one of the elderly residents coming back from a walk on the beach covered in blood after a fall and being asked to clean her up. The owner wasn't good with blood or poo.

Bloody hell, forget about people seeing on a kettle, what kind of weirdo assumes all kettles are used for that purpose and even offers dog poo as a desert because you challenged his unreasonable beliefs.

Is he as nasty and weird when you disagree about other things? Nice brutal way to ruin a holiday.

Agree about the cups, that’s what you need to worry about.

We stayed at a resort in the Maldives where there was a notice forbidding the cooking of fish in the kettle.

I had thought this was just an ongoing joke in the Trip Advisor forum, but no, people obviously do it.

I can't see how anyone could wash their knickers or pants in a kettle unless it was a tiny thong. A hotel kettle usually holds 2 cups if you are lucky.
You'd use the sink, surely?

As for weeing- why would you? If you are desperate there is always the waste paper bin.

Never heard of this but DH just offered me a cuppa as staying in a hotel and I’m like ‘nah, you’re alright!’

It's certainly possible, because the kettle is left inside the room and people could do anything - but they could also do anything to any of the room furnishings. I'd think clearing it out with boiling water a few times (or rubbing alcohol if you want to be very sure) would be OK. Your partner is being really immature and unpleasant by going on and on about it, though, if you've said you'll take your chances. If he's sincere, I'd perhaps reconsider getting involved with someone so precious and risk-averse. But I'd also suspect he might be gaslighting me.

The older I get, the more I despair of human beings! Whoever would even dream of urinating in a hotel kettle? It is beyond disgusting.

Having said that, I always take a travel kettle with me if I am going to a hotel - and that is without knowing this type of behaviour went on!

I don't know it it really happens, but I always fill and rinse out the kettle first. It just seems a sensible thing to do.

I worked as a chambermaid in the late 1990s, washing cups in the sink in the room was standard practice, did use a clean towel to dry them though!
I always travel with my own mug, pint glass and teaspoon (partly because hotel mugs/glasses are tiny which is annoying if you have a condition causing dry mouth). The kettle gets a good rinse and as pp worded it beautifully, a sacrificial boil before use.

I've heard this before and probably wouldn't take the risk as you don't know what anyone has done with the kettles

@Faranth

I've heard this from multiple sources. I always look and sniff inside, boil and chuck out the first kettleful.

However, having spoken to someone who was a chambermaid in a posh hotel who told me that were trained to wipe out the cups with the same clothes they clean the bathroom with I now always take a travel mug rather than use the ones in the room.

Yeah, heard the same. I use the cups provided but give them a damn good clean first.

given that it's rare to have a hotel room without an ensuite, why would you, why would anyone?
Maybe it was a thing when it was more common for B&B type places to have shared bathrooms?

"partner" sounds a bit wee and poo obsessed.
Like a five year old.
He'd have to have some amazing other qualities for me not to dump him.

@oystercatcher44

Never heard of weeing in the kettle.

But I believe that washing underwear in hotel kettles is a thing.

Why would anyone even think of washing underwear in a kettle? Surely the wash basin in the bathroom is the obvious place for that.

Worked in hotels for many years.. haven’t had this complaint ever.. tbh I rarely get a complaint about about the kettles. I have never heard of people doing this in them.