To think It's weird for cousins to have the same name

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Me and SIL due within days of each other, 1 of us having a boy and 2 of us having a girl.

We chose a name for our baby, after one of my parents who died very suddenly during my pregnancy. SIL has just announced the name they have chosen for their baby and its the same name!! 1 letter difference for the boy/girl version but pronounced the same.
Honestly I'm gutted but she says it doesn't matter that they'd have the same name.
AIBU to think it's silly to have 2 cousins born within (likely) days of each other having the same name?

So as not to drip feed, we hadn't told anyone except MIL our proposed baby's name, so they didn't know before they told everyone.

@C0nstance

It is very thoughtless of the second set of parents. But on mumsnet plenty of posters will deny this. In the real world though it's so inconsiderate to give grandpatents two grandchildren with the same name

Bollocks is it

@C0nstance

It is very thoughtless of the second set of parents. But on mumsnet plenty of posters will deny this. In the real world though it's so inconsiderate to give grandpatents two grandchildren with the same name

Hah no it isn’t. Both couples chose the name they like for the baby . Neither consulted each other and they don’t have too. So in your words Op is thoughtless too then. Get over yourself.

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Is there a way to name your baby after your parent in a different kind of way or with a different nickname or something?

E.g. your parent's surname or a shortening or variant or a different name with the same meaning?

@C0nstance still normal in my Irish family!

wtf 150 years ago? That's an hilarious statement!

No one owns a name. Name them what you like.

My sister has the same first name as me.

@C0nstance still normal in Irish families round here. Mostly rural

I have the same name as a cousin, and both my brothers have cousins with the same name. We all have aunts ayun Les with the same names as us too.

I always liked it!

Aunts and uncles.

Btw we are Irish, and I can confirm it is normal there.

I have a cousin six years younger than me with the same first name.
We loved it - we were BigScarby and LittleScarby.

Until very recently this was very common.

My Grandad, my father and my nephew all had the same name. All called after their Grandfathers and all with cousins with the same name.

Very common in lots of families to have “Peter’s John” and “Susan’s John”, even now.

My aunt died when she was 5 years old and 3 first cousins (from 3 of her siblings ) in our family have her name (RIP)..

Very normal in my family. Both my grandads had the same name so I gave 2 uncles, a brother and multiple cousins with that name.

[quote SadieCow]@C0nstance still normal in my Irish family!

wtf 150 years ago? That's an hilarious statement! [/quote]
No it isn't. It is not the norm for cousins to have the same name. In 2021 it is not the norm. Maybe travellers do this as they are more traditional in their name choices. But normal it isnt.

YABU.

Perfectly normal for cousins to have the same name, and very odd - and petty and childish - for people to kick off about it.

My brother has the same name as our cousin, both named after my grandfather and another cousin has the same name as me. It was never a problem in our family, but we all had different nicknames though.

That's the downside of not telling people really. Sounds like they got in their first with name choice and are being very reasonable saying you can have same name. But is a bit weird and it will always feel like you copied them sadly. Maybe make it a middle name and give her their own identity within the family

It's not my brother. Its my husbands step brother and his wife, so no relation to my deceased.

Anyway SIL has messaged me and said they are using the name as a middle name now anyway so all is fine

Two of my cousins have the same name, they were named after our grandmother. It's never been a problem for us. To be fair they live in different countries, but we used to spend every summer together.