Neighbour kicking off about car

[Biancadelrioisback]

My neighbour popped a note through the door yesterday asking if we can put both cars on the drive as they're having people round today for a BBQ and would like people to be able to park on the street.
Technically we can fit both cars on the drive way, but you can't get in the garage or shut the gates at the end of the drive, and the cars need to be bumper to bumper and will still overhang onto the path a bit (you can still fit a buggy and wheelchair past). So usually we have one on the drive and one on the street. Street has plenty of parking, no issues here, plus the car on the street gets used most days so is really only there overnight.
So DH went out to work this morning taking the car from the street. I've had neighbour round banging on the door reminding me to put both cars on the drive and pointing to a random car that is parked just a bit up from our house that I've never seen before. It's the same colour as ours but definitely not our car. Neighbour is accusing me of lying and being difficult. He is adamant it's my car and I'm being unfair.
He's gone off in a huff but I can hear them in their garden complaining and talking about coming back to talk with me again.
I'm not worried per se but I'm a bit...antsy? I can't really prove that it's not mine, plus it's legally parked so I really can't see a problem other than them not getting their way.

AIBU to not put the other car on the drive when DH gets home just to antagonise them?

A polite request was reasonable.

Being rude to you (and wrong) absolutely not! I would park on the street too, but I am petty.

Yep, Crazy. Why justify yourself to a person like this, he won't listen anyway. 'It's not our bloody car. You don't own the road. Go away now.'

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

If you have a camera, make sure you have it pointed at the second car on the road. If they’re inclined to damage it, you’ll have evidence.

Absolutely not. My camera would be protecting my own property not that of a random stranger

I had the exactly the same thing! Once we had "proved" we could keep both our cars on the drive, we had a life of hell, with them getting friends to keep parking on the road to stop us doing so. We should never have agreed in the first place. It was a life of misery. In the end, we had to move.
Tell them to F- O now or you will have a terrible life in the future.

He's being a dick but it's up to you if you want to make the situation worse, or try to smooth it over.

Could you park the other car across the bottom of your driveway?

Although, if the guests are already there, and there's still space for your DH to park on the street, I'm not sure there's a problem for either of you?

@starfishmummy

I meant the OP’s second car. That wasn’t clear in my post.

@Batshittery

Although you can park where you like, it sounds a bit twattish to park on the street with the sole intention of antagonising your neighbour imo.

Had the neighbour been remotely polite about it he may have had more luck, demanding isn't the way to go.

@Biancadelrioisback

I wouldn't usually be this petty, but they've really annoyed me with how rude they've been. No idea how many of them are round there (can see 4 cars which I think are with the party), and can hear them drinking so I'm a bit antsy that they'll get wound up easier

Hope you've put your sencond car out so your OH can park on the drive when he gets home!

Park on the street and don't open the door to them again.
He's a twat, wouldn't have asked his wife to ask, he obviously wants to try to intimidate you.
Yes, take a picture of the number plate and yours, ask him if he thinks you're running a fleet of cars?

Neighbour is accusing me of lying and being difficult. He is adamant it's my car and I'm being unfair
Has he actually accused you of lying, or are you just thinking that because he's puzzled by the car and has queried that.
If he had accused me of lying then I wouldn't be accommodating the request and I would be explaining my reasons, if he chose to follow it up with me.
If its the latter, I would just move it for the sake of one day. He might just be over excited about the BBQ and forgot himself for a minute. I think its best to try and maintain neighbourly relationships were possible, but someone calling me a liar to my face would be my limit.

Although I definitely understand your annoyance, I'd probably just hold my nose and go along with their request and not respond to their rudeness.

The reason, as you probably already know, is just that it's soooo much better than risking getting into an ongoing feud with them, especially when they already seem rather unreasonable and confrontational.

If you want to antagonise your neighbour then go ahead. Why do need to ask Mumsnet that question ?

AIBU to not put the other car on the drive when DH gets home just to antagonise them?

YABU. People who run more than one car, and don't keep them on their own property (drive or garage) really can seem selfish. Cars take up so much of our finite resources of space & petrol etc - maybe for once, you could try not to?

@Skyla2005

If you want to antagonise your neighbour then go ahead. Why do need to ask Mumsnet that question ?

surely it's the neighbour who is antagonising the OP!

To be honest unless you’re just about to move you could be neighbours with these people for years is it really worth deliberately antagonising them? I can’t see it’s a huge issue if you squeeze both cars on the drive just this once. It’s not ideal long term but the odd one off won’t hurts. You may want a favour from them sometime in the future.

If you do that and the other car stays up the road then your neighbour can see 2 cars on your drive he will probably feel like a twit, rise above it and be the better person and they may notice and apologise.

Take a pic of lookalike car
And a pic of yours

Show him both and say silent...... listen to him try and explain himself

Put a sign on your door saying, Specsavers that way, with an arrow.

Cannot believe the responses on this thread...esp following a recent one where the OP got flamed for asking why people buy houses with no parking when they have multiple cars and the 'IT'S THEIR RIGHT TO PARK ON A PUBLIC STREET' brigade were out in force.

OP, park where you normally park. His guests will park wherever they find spaces. Your neighbour does not own the street and you're in no way the one doing the antagonising here. No idea why people are somehow flipping it and blaming you when your overly aggressive and entirely unreasonable male neighbour is the dickhead here. If it was you asking him to park on the street, I strongly doubt there'd be people queuing up on here to tell you he shouldn't antagonise you by parking on the street. Ridiculous.

What an absolute tool. So rude!
If they were friendly I would absolutely try to help them but if someone if going to expect and demand... nah fuck that!

Take a photo of look-a-like car with reg, then take a picture of real car with reg.

Stuff them both through his letter box.

When OH returns, have him park in front/behind look-a-like car. Then knock on neighbour's door and ask him to come and witness the similarity. Then leave OH's car where it is 🤣🤣🤣

I'm with you OP.
If someone wants something from me the very least they can do is be polite. If not, they can fuck right off.
I'm bloody lovely to retail workers, call centre agents etc. and I get what I want most of the time because of it. Basic human nature.

Wait till DH comes home and as he’s driving in chap neighbours door so he can see DH arriving and ask him for an apology for being a rude git. I’d show him up in front of his friends

I'd put both cars on the street and tell them to fuck off! The cheek! No one owns the street.

I'd be parking both cars on the street after suck rude entitlement.