Neighbour kicking off about car

[Biancadelrioisback]

My neighbour popped a note through the door yesterday asking if we can put both cars on the drive as they're having people round today for a BBQ and would like people to be able to park on the street.
Technically we can fit both cars on the drive way, but you can't get in the garage or shut the gates at the end of the drive, and the cars need to be bumper to bumper and will still overhang onto the path a bit (you can still fit a buggy and wheelchair past). So usually we have one on the drive and one on the street. Street has plenty of parking, no issues here, plus the car on the street gets used most days so is really only there overnight.
So DH went out to work this morning taking the car from the street. I've had neighbour round banging on the door reminding me to put both cars on the drive and pointing to a random car that is parked just a bit up from our house that I've never seen before. It's the same colour as ours but definitely not our car. Neighbour is accusing me of lying and being difficult. He is adamant it's my car and I'm being unfair.
He's gone off in a huff but I can hear them in their garden complaining and talking about coming back to talk with me again.
I'm not worried per se but I'm a bit...antsy? I can't really prove that it's not mine, plus it's legally parked so I really can't see a problem other than them not getting their way.

AIBU to not put the other car on the drive when DH gets home just to antagonise them?

@lughnasadh

Jesus Christ Mummabug18 , get a grip.

Um, ok 👍🏼

🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

@JediGnot.
A while back I had neighbours who were both "characters" on both sides. One (call him A) did not have a car and hated it when anyone parked their car in front of his house - despite the street being very busy he felt he had a right to a spare space 24/7 for the occasional time the son visited. The other neighbour (B) hated being told not to park where he was perfectly entitled to park.

B did stop parking his car in front of A's house - he left his car at work and parked a very large van there instead

PRICELESS !!

I would have stopped being nice the moment they threw the corks over...

When people show you their true colours and all that.

[quote Petlover9]@JediGnot.
A while back I had neighbours who were both "characters" on both sides. One (call him A) did not have a car and hated it when anyone parked their car in front of his house - despite the street being very busy he felt he had a right to a spare space 24/7 for the occasional time the son visited. The other neighbour (B) hated being told not to park where he was perfectly entitled to park.

B did stop parking his car in front of A's house - he left his car at work and parked a very large van there instead

PRICELESS !![/quote]

That is fabulous

[quote Petlover9]@JediGnot.
A while back I had neighbours who were both "characters" on both sides. One (call him A) did not have a car and hated it when anyone parked their car in front of his house - despite the street being very busy he felt he had a right to a spare space 24/7 for the occasional time the son visited. The other neighbour (B) hated being told not to park where he was perfectly entitled to park.

B did stop parking his car in front of A's house - he left his car at work and parked a very large van there instead

PRICELESS !![/quote]

😂😳🤣

@RincewindsHat

Cannot believe the responses on this thread...esp following a recent one where the OP got flamed for asking why people buy houses with no parking when they have multiple cars and the 'IT'S THEIR RIGHT TO PARK ON A PUBLIC STREET' brigade were out in force.

OP, park where you normally park. His guests will park wherever they find spaces. Your neighbour does not own the street and you're in no way the one doing the antagonising here. No idea why people are somehow flipping it and blaming you when your overly aggressive and entirely unreasonable male neighbour is the dickhead here. If it was you asking him to park on the street, I strongly doubt there'd be people queuing up on here to tell you he shouldn't antagonise you by parking on the street. Ridiculous.

This!!!^^

@Biancadelrioisback how did it go?

I’ve had nothing but trouble off my neighbours who are landlords of the house since they bought it! Historically the two semis we have were left unoccupied for several reasons! We moved in about 2 years before they bought it, but when they did, they bought it at auction as a doer upper. They’d have people doing work at sometimes 7am on a weekend but we didn’t say anything at all! We understood the work needed doing and were grateful (as any work meant the value of everyone’s house would increase). When they were having work done we used to park both cars on the street but not detrimentally so (we would have been happy to ensure that one of out cars go on the drive). One day whilst they were having work done, I was at work and my fiancé who was unemployed at the time was parked outside our house (on the street). Bearing in mind my fiancé was home and has good hearing, they apparently knocked on the door to ask him to move his car (which he would have done had he heard the knock!!). Fast forward to a couple of days later when we received a letter off them. They explained in the letter that we were being deliberately awkward by parking out on the street, saying that were making things difficult for them and that they had heard lovely things about the area which we were letting them down on! They were looking forward to moving in!! Next time they came round, I couldn’t hold my tongue! I told her that if people on the street have any issues, that we all talk to each other face to face and not through a letter, I told them my fiancé was home and that they clearly didn’t knock on or he would have willingly moved his car!! I was raging (and pregnant at the time) I told her I was disappointed that she felt the need to write it down rather than come and speak to us face to face since we were going to be neighbours! A few months later they put the house on the market and it sold (then fell through...another story attached to that) but she assured us we would get ‘nice neighbours’ which tbh they haven’t been. They leave all sorts of mess at the front of their house, I’m not even entirely convinced they knew lockdown happened! And one morning when my son was teething (crying hysterically...I’ll add in here I’ve been woken regularly by their hysterical screaming babies!!) they knocked on the door and asked us if we needed police! I told the landlord who accused me of lying, despite me providing proof from my ring doorbell!!

Some people are just so rude!! Some things hack me off, but legally they don’t have a leg to stand on!!

@Biancadelrioisback

Well they've chucked a bunch of prosecco/champagne corks over the fence into my garden now so they can well and truly fuck off

I have a neighbour dispute ongoing. This behaviour is considered fly-tipping and if you want to escalate AND get this silliness to stop rather than spiral, then take photos, Carefully pick the corks up with gloves and put each one in a new clear plastic bag, seal and label with the time and date. KEEP these for a long time in case of further nonsense. Make a complaint online to the police and attach all relevant photos and notes. The police won't "do anything" but a chat with a uniformed officer about parking legally, fly-tipping, reprisals and aggression will set a clear boundary. You might give them written notice (keep proof of posting) that you will never answer the door to them again for "fear of aggression" and so they have no legitimate business on your property.

That is the legal way to tell them to Fuck off

The wife popped round and apologised. Said her husband was just really excited about having guests round and was 'over preparing'. She didn't know about the notes or anything and has bollocked him.
He was apparently at home with a bad head and his tail between his legs. She only knew there was a problem when DH chucked the corks back over. Think the bloke and his mates weren't expecting DH to react and stand up to them.

As far as I'm concerned, it's water under the bridge. I don't hold grudges and will happily chat with NDNW when I see her, but I'll still ask him to apologise to my face when I next see him. I did not appreciate being called a liar and his pitiful attempt at intimidation.

@Biancadelrioisback

The wife popped round and apologised. Said her husband was just really excited about having guests round and was 'over preparing'. She didn't know about the notes or anything and has bollocked him. He was apparently at home with a bad head and his tail between his legs. She only knew there was a problem when DH chucked the corks back over. Think the bloke and his mates weren't expecting DH to react and stand up to them.

As far as I'm concerned, it's water under the bridge. I don't hold grudges and will happily chat with NDNW when I see her, but I'll still ask him to apologise to my face when I next see him. I did not appreciate being called a liar and his pitiful attempt at intimidation.

Ah! Another woman trying to keep the peace when her knob of a husband causes issues... He’d best come and apologise not just mutter one when he next sees you.

Ah, that's sort of a good outcome.

However, is 'over preparing' the new trendy term for 'mansplaining'; in the same way as we have to call it 'mis-speaking' instead of 'lying' now?

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Ah, that's sort of a good outcome.

However, is 'over preparing' the new trendy term for 'mansplaining'; in the same way as we have to call it 'mis-speaking' instead of 'lying' now?

I think it's something for control freaks 🤷‍♀️ Don't even know how to over prepare for a social gathering. Surely all you need us food, drink and tunes?

@Supergirl1958

My neighbour actually called the police cos my baby was crying 😂 3am I had a police officer in my bedroom asking if he needed an ambulance 🤦🏼‍♀️ I said why would we need an ambulance for waking up and being upset.. the crying had stopped before the police officer knocked.

Okay, I just want to address this.

1. my immediate attitude and idea was to comply with his request even though it inconveniences me. This was when I received the note.

2. when I thought about not complying was because he bang at my door, demanded I move a car that wasn't mine and then called me a liar. When he went back I could hear him bitching about me to his guests, clearly aware that I could hear them. So, yes, I thought "screw you, I'll not inconvenience myself if you're going to be so sodding rude".

3. I would LOVE for you to embellish on how I sound awful? Because I didn't move a car that wasn't mine? Because I had a thought about a way to metaphorically stick two fingers up at someone who tried to use intimidation and aggression to force me to comply? We did actually park the car across the end of our drive way as a compromise, which you would know if you read the thread.

4. I'm bloody lovely. Cheers.

That was meant to be a reply to @OwlTwitterings

Oh yes, @Biancadelrioisback - you were utterly unreasonable not to move the car that wasn’t yours! How very dare you. Couldn’t you have just lifted it down the road?

Glad the wife has been round and things are smoothed over now - enjoy the sun!

Oh and I hope his hangover is murderous and his next shite is a porcupine.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Oh and I hope his hangover is murderous and his next shite is a porcupine.

love it

@Skyla2005

If you want to antagonise your neighbour then go ahead. Why do need to ask Mumsnet that question ?

Why do you need to ask the OP that question? Honestly, it’s obvious she just needs moral support, so why NOT ask Mumsnet that question?

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Oh and I hope his hangover is murderous and his next shite is a porcupine.

Haha love this!

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Oh yes, *@Biancadelrioisback* - you were utterly unreasonable not to move the car that wasn’t yours! How very dare you. Couldn’t you have just lifted it down the road?

Glad the wife has been round and things are smoothed over now - enjoy the sun!

Yes this. How dare you not take responsibility for a car that isn't yours!!

Less ironically, I am glad the village idiot's wife came to smooth things over.

I would have thrown the corks back over the fence but DH would have probably stopped me doing it, not wanting to antagonise already antagonised neighbour

Why make an already tense situation so much worse. Its a one off. Be a good neighbour and park the car on the drive. It will also prove he was I the wrong! I dont get why soany people like to be difficult just for the sake of it. Its really petty

No wonder there are wars. Going by the tone of a lot of the posts on here.

I reckon he came out saw what he thought was your car and saw red after specifically asking you if you could park both cars on the driveway for the day of his BBQ.
We all know what its like when the red mist comes down.
Once he sees what an idiot he was he will probably feel very foolish.
You behave like the adult and park both cars on your drive.

Or you could act like a idiot yourself and cause a scene.

My mother always said you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

@Hertsgirl10 OMG really some people really have nothing better to do with their lives!! How pathetic. I hope they got in trouble for wasting police time!!

MissMarple82 and whatsgirlwants
how can she park the car on her drive - it's not her's. She dosen't have the keys. Things have moved on from the time of the OP....