To wonder if it's normal to never feel excited about anything?

[VintageDreamer]

I realised recently that I never feel excited about anything anymore. I have things I may slightly look forward to but I never feel excited. Is this is a normal part of adulthood?

When I was a child I remember feeling butterflies of excitement before Christmas, my birthday, the last day of school, going to a theme park, going on holiday, getting new school shoes from Clarks (!), getting my haircut, going to a restaurant, etc.

I'm in my 20s and I don't think I have had that feeling since childhood. Is this a normal part of adulthood or do you still experience that excited butterflies feeling?

@VintageDreamer

I realised recently that I never feel excited about anything anymore. I have things I may slightly look forward to but I never feel excited. Is this is a normal part of adulthood?

When I was a child I remember feeling butterflies of excitement before Christmas, my birthday, the last day of school, going to a theme park, going on holiday, getting new school shoes from Clarks (!), getting my haircut, going to a restaurant, etc.

I'm in my 20s and I don't think I have had that feeling since childhood. Is this a normal part of adulthood or do you still experience that excited butterflies feeling?

I think that it's natural to get less excited about things as you get older.

I also think that it is a healthy and good thing, that shows that you are well-balanced, and have a decent day to day life. That you have become an adult and ceased to be an excitable teenager.

I am at one end of the extreme - I love my normal day to day life and would be quite happy to do little but stay at home, the odd local restaurant, pub and gig. If someone told me that I will never go to a wedding or party or on holiday again, I don't think it'd bother me.

I pity the people at the other end of the spectrum - people who need a couple of holidays a year and can't handle not having them; get really excited about going to see a Take That re-union. I have a musician I love - saw him a couple of years back and it was one of the best gigs I've ever been to. Should be seeing him again in September - looking forward to it, should be amazing... but it's only a gig, if I ended up being sick on the day and have to spend the evening in bed instead it won't be the end of the world. Save me a train journey as well!

That said, if you could bottle the feeling of falling in love for the first time; going to see bands you love when you're 17 - wow, I'd be close to the front of the queue.

Reading some of these posts I think I have had depression most of my childhood (I had a stomach ulcer at 11 years old) and apart from about 6 weeks in my 20s the whole of my adult life.

I still get excited anything to do with my hobbies Er obsessions, when I brought my giant tv I’d saved years it was fantastic I loved my 50th for that.

Miljea

Thank you, I'm sure I will!

Best not to because then if it goes to crap it’s not a let down just a meh.

I do get excited, about nature mainly - seeing a pheasant in the garden, encountering a deer on a walk or even a beautiful rainbow (we had a stunning double rainbow the other day and I was yelling to DH in another room so he didn't miss it.) I also get excited when I'm going to see my granddaughter. Social events and material things I can take or leave.

I actually get excited about everything 🙈I’m a very excitable person and my kids are the same !
DH would be a bit like you, nothing really phases him.
I still get that nervous / can’t eat feeling on Christmas Eve and I’m 37🙈

I think it's normal for adults to not usually get so giddily excited about things like children do.

But not feeling any pleasure is different and sounds like clinical depression.

There's a lot of gray area between the two things above so I see why you're not sure if you're depressed or not. Maybe a good place to start is looking for an online depression screening tool from a solid source.