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If you hate your job

218 replies

Redsunrise · 25/05/2021 16:02

Can I ask what you do?

OP posts:
Wiltshire90 · 26/05/2021 14:13

@menomary

Adults social worker. Stressed, overloaded, deal with safeguardings on a daily basis. Management don't care about our wellbeing and keep throwing cases at us as they have their own targets to fulfil. They are quick to put the boot in when things go wrong so their job is protected. Amount of paperwork is ridiculous. Daily verbal abuse from families who think it's our fault the LA charges for social care or that just because they're the daughter or son they can't bung their mum into a care home.
@menomary I'm a police officer and everything you've described about not liking your job is exactly the same for me. I almost became a social worker but joined the police instead.

I do still love policing though although the recent negative media coverage has been so demoralising.

DynamoKev · 26/05/2021 14:20

BTW I used to be a perfectly happy IT contractor but covid and the recent IR35 changes destroyed my micro business as there was no contract work any longer.

ElmtreeMama · 26/05/2021 15:14

Was a nurse, hated it (due to there being very little nursing involved) so left!

IDontWantToAdultToday · 26/05/2021 15:48

Children's social care admin. So boring and low pay.

Earlgrey666 · 26/05/2021 15:59

@ElmtreeMama

What did you do after quitting nursing? I need inspiration!

ElmtreeMama · 26/05/2021 16:03

[quote Earlgrey666]@ElmtreeMama

What did you do after quitting nursing? I need inspiration![/quote]
I work for a charity that supports people with mental health issues (I was a mental health nurse), its a completely none nursing role but I feel I get to use my knowledge at least

Feelingbad2 · 26/05/2021 16:14

Childcare practitioner. It’s not the kids or the job really though it’s the bad management.

Orangesox · 26/05/2021 16:17

[quote pinkpun]@Orangesox your background is similar to me ! I did call centre for a few years before doing my nurse training . I qualified and worked on a surgical ward I did that for a year then moved to telephony based nursing for a private healthcare company , where I have been for a few years - It's pretty dire ! What do you do now ? [/quote]
I'm a Clinical Nurse Specialist in Occupational Health in the manufacturing industry. I love it, I'm away from the red tape and politics of Healthcare. I'm largely left to get on with my job (which is a godsend because I hate being micro-managed), I report directly in to the board of directors, and mostly I am respected for what I do. Nobody cares if I have purple hair, or have a nose piercing, I'm not bullied for being Neurodivergent or having a physical disability, I am largely master of my destiny.

Don't get me wrong, it's not all a bed of roses, COVID dropped it's own bomb in the middle of my life, and I had to unilaterally draw up and implement a whole raft of infection control policies, our own internal contact tracing system and advise on all sorts of ridiculous things that I never envisaged (potentially infected safety shoe storage, quarantining of industrial workwear, control of contractors, lateral flow testing, sanitising procedures for industrial settings and warehousing etc). I took 48 hours off work in July for some urgent surgery, and haven't had any other time off since January 2020 (when I first started preparing the battle plans for COVID based on the emerging news coming from China). But, I am 100% married to this job and could not imagine myself working in any other field of nursing outside of the wider Public Health arena - thank fuck, because I couldn't face another career change after what I went through previously.

RattlesnakesUnfold · 26/05/2021 18:06

NHS sadly has a reputation for poor treatment of staff.

I worked myself into the ground during the pandemic. I have a chronic heath condition so had to take a few sick days here and there but always came straight back and battled on. Masks, visors, overtime, abuse from patients. High stress. Under staffed all the time.

Then I caught covid, developed long covid, returned to work and they now want to fire me for being unable to do the hours I used to do (plus my absence record). I put in a flexible working request; they turned it down. I asked for part time; no. Reasonable adjustments? Doesn’t suit the service. But during the pandemic they needed me and I was given informal flexi hours and as much wfh time as I needed.

I feel so let down by them. It’s all about ‘the service’ and managers not the staff on the frontline.

AmperoBlue · 26/05/2021 18:57

@Notthemessiah

It's so sad to see that those who hate their jobs are the ones actually doing the jobs we need, rather than the useless jobs that benefit no-one other than the people doing them and the broken system they prop up.

It's just not right that it should be the nurses, healthcare workers and the teachers rather than the marketers, the bankers and the HR people.

So agree. My other half was delivering during Covid. He was on minimum wage. He was a godsend during lockdown to everyone he took food to. He’s now back to his glamorous job that no one actually needs and gets paid for half a week what it took over six weeks to earn.
user1471543094 · 26/05/2021 19:00

God it is so awful so many people having these jobs they hate.

I'm currently spending another evening crying about workload. I don't actually mind my job ... It's everyone else's job i hate doing.

I am currently paying off stupid debt from when I was younger. Another 24 months to go and I'm moving jobs to something lower paid but less stressful hopefully!

WLgnacnjk · 26/05/2021 19:57

I work as a lecturer in a university. Honestly, I used to love it but for the last ten years or so am basically only doing it for the money. Would love inspiration to leave but feeling too old and worthless though am only 38

ArgyleIsle · 26/05/2021 23:23

Education, local authority. Hate it since the Tory government cuts have halved the team.

Schools are failing, the number of children in good or outstanding schools is dropping and we are asked 'why?' - like it is something we've messed up.
Could it be that we've lost over half of our staff? I'm working a 60 hour week, but I can't do the job of two people. (Whilst the funding pays the wages of academy CEO's earning double the amount I earn and accountable for so many less schools than I am).

About to leave too, the education system in this country is diabolical.

Friendofdennis · 27/05/2021 00:10

Teaching ...hostile and scary students. Journalist ... abuse from the public and my own team. Social work ... the realisation that you probably can’t change anything because you have been given too many ‘cases’ and you cant deal with any of them properly

HardBoiledEggandNuts · 27/05/2021 05:23

@RattlesnakesUnfold

NHS sadly has a reputation for poor treatment of staff.

I worked myself into the ground during the pandemic. I have a chronic heath condition so had to take a few sick days here and there but always came straight back and battled on. Masks, visors, overtime, abuse from patients. High stress. Under staffed all the time.

Then I caught covid, developed long covid, returned to work and they now want to fire me for being unable to do the hours I used to do (plus my absence record). I put in a flexible working request; they turned it down. I asked for part time; no. Reasonable adjustments? Doesn’t suit the service. But during the pandemic they needed me and I was given informal flexi hours and as much wfh time as I needed.

I feel so let down by them. It’s all about ‘the service’ and managers not the staff on the frontline.

This is appalling

Thanks for you

habibihabibi · 27/05/2021 05:38

Not a single person I did teacher training with is still in the job.
I only stuck at it as long as I did because I moved into the independent sector asap.

PyjamaFan · 27/05/2021 06:42

Another teacher.

I absolutely love teaching and the relationships I have with the children in my class. My colleagues are all nice and supportive and SLT are pretty good.

But the demands on my time are just ridiculous. I work so many extra hours and receive countless messages from parents every day who then moan if I don't reply quickly enough. Every little thing that happens is my fault. I get to school at 7am, work through lunch, barely have time to eat; drink or go to the loo. I dread to think of the toll of this job on my physical health.

By the time I get home I just want to crawl into bed, but then I wake in the small hours worrying about something really stupid like a child's lost jumper or whether I will have enough time in the morning to get my resources ready.

I'm leaving in July after 23 years as teaching means I have absolutely no life.

Tinysarah1985 · 27/05/2021 06:56

Nhs admin. I am due to go back today after 4 weeks off with work related stress having been doing 3 people's work since October with a rubbish 4 day handover from my predecessor who then swanned off on secondment for 7 months.
I hate it with a passion. I work like a dog and get paid peanuts, while others do next to nothing and get paid the same amount as me.
I'm applying for other jobs as I cannot do it anymore

atracurious · 27/05/2021 09:33

Junior doctor in A&E. I've been attacked my patients, had sexist comments, managers breathing down our backs to sort a patient within four hours so there's literally no time to actually do our jobs. Treated like children, breaks monitored down to the minute - I have to ask permission to go to the toilet

Annual leave is a joke and the rota is barely legal. 12 hour shifts at basically any time of day with the odd day off. Nights ALL the time. I go to work having slept for 2 hours sometimes as my sleep pattern is so wrecked. Having to explain yourself and feeling guilty for calling in sick

We get no time off - an example of this is I'll be entitled to a day off in lieu for working the bank holiday on Monday (I've worked every bank hol this year so far). I HAVE to use it by end of July or I lose it. There is 1 day. Just ONE day on the rota that I am allowed to take it, otherwise we will be understaffed and my request gets rejected. It's some random Tuesday - I don't want it off but I have no choice.

I love most of my patients. Elderly people are wonderful, children are cute. I like the nurses and have so much respect for them.

I'm leaving in July for a totally different specialty. This was part of a 2 year rotation and I've loved every minute other than this job. I can't wait to leave!

fruityorange · 27/05/2021 09:49

@atracurious I am shocked that you have to ask permission to go to the toilet. I am not well paid but the only job I have ever had to do that is when I worked on a factory line and in a shop. Even low paid office work, I go to the toilet when I want.

LindyLou2020 · 27/05/2021 10:24

@WhySoSensitive

A veterinary nurse.

Bloody love the patients and most aspects of the job but clients are absolute knobs. We/vets have the highest suicide rate for a bloody reason and it’s because people are awful.

@WhySoSensitive....... Wow - I'm really shocked about that, especially the high suicide rate. I had no idea - what an eye-opener your post is. Are you able to be more specific about horrible pet owners? I'm just interested and intrigued, (and sympathetic too of course).
peaceanddove · 27/05/2021 10:46

It's heartbreaking to read how burnt out so many NHS nurses feel. Can I ask have any of you considered moving to private healthcare/ hospitals? I only ask because I have spent time on NHS maternity wards where the staff were clearly at their wit's end, harried and often snappy as a result.

I've also very recently spent a few days in a private hospital and OMG it was a different world, both for me & the nursing staff (I assume?). My observations were taken meticulously, every 2 hours and my medication arrived on the dot. The nurses were relaxed and friendly, with time to chat etc - and I felt like I was being properly nursed and cared for, and nothing was too much trouble.

Sloth66 · 27/05/2021 10:51

Atracurious appalling you have to ask permission for that.
I used to work on a Rehab ward. 12.5 hour shifts that were usually longer, relentless, exhausting work, relying on a lot of agency staff.
My tolerance for jobs like this has got less as I’ve got older. I’m currently working for a Charity,earning low money, but I have piece of mind and I’m not stressed and exhausted.

fluffysocksgoodbookwine · 27/05/2021 11:24

Another GP here.
12 hour day yesterday, mostly (>60%) speaking to people having mental health crises, yet still expected to deal with it all in 10 minute intervals. I was absolutely exhausted by 2pm, and then carried on for another 6 hours. I stopped when I could no longer focus on the computer screen, not because the work was done.

I'm lucky to have great colleagues, and I want to be able to provide a good service for our patients, but I've already burned out (in another, chronically understaffed, practice pre-pandemic), and I can feel myself sliding back into that feeling. I'm back to waking up at 4am every morning, worrying about what I've missed/ done wrong due to the overwhelming amount of work. We're all struggling with the ongoing tsunami of (appropriate) healthcare demand.

I am sick to death of hearing 'GPs aren't seeing anyone' (especially from hospital staff who should really bloody know better) when I'm making 150-200 clinical decisions per day (telephone, F2F, e-consults, non-routine prescription requests, abnormal blood results, other staff's queries). All the straightforward/routine stuff is dealt with by ANPs/Pharmacists/ Practice Nurses, so the cases I see are largely really complicated or potentially serious.
I would love to see more than the 40-50% F2F I'm currently seeing, as I find it much easier to clinically assess in person, but there simply isn't space in the building to socially distance with any more patients.

Our practice took 14,000 incoming calls in March '21. We have approximately 20,000 registered patients. There was a 4-6 hour call queue at some points. Many of these patients are genuinely very unwell, and waiting lists for everything, from surgery, to physio, to mental health services, are so long as to make referrals meaningless. On top of this, hospitals are pushing a lot of un-funded work into primary care, lots of 'can the GP please...' in the discharge or clinic letter, particularly when outpatient clinics are happening by phone. When we say that the workload in general practice is unmanageable, this is what we mean.

I also do shifts as a primary care Dr in a city centre A&E. It's very busy, but nowhere near as complex, or as clinically risky, as a GP day. When GPs direct people to A&E after a telephone call, it's because we simply cannot see all of them, so we have to manage the clinical risk as best we can, by sending in the people who are going to need intervention in order to find out the problem. Remember that we have no same day bloods/imaging, and it's very easy to say there wasn't much wrong with a patient once you've got normal bloods and XRs, and have observed them for a couple of hours. For every person that we send in, there are dozens more that we are dealing with in the community. People also often lie about having spoken to their GP, or exaggerate their symptoms on the phone so that they're dealt with quicker. We can't be held responsible for this.

General Practice has been underfunded, understaffed and haemorrhaging clinicians for over a decade now. We get the same money as A&E gets for two patient attendances, to provide unlimited access to a patient for a whole year. The average number of GP consultations (pre-pandemic) per person per year in England was 6. In our practice (deprived area) it was 7.5. That's actual consultations, so not counting all the background admin, prescribing, dealing with correspondence etc.

Anyway, I'm ranting now, so will stop. Suffice to say, the GP bashing from all sides is affecting morale in the face of overwhelming workload, and we will lose even more GPs before this is over.

aabidah86 · 27/05/2021 11:32

Worked in an alleged "graduate job" in the City about 12 years ago which was so deathly boring. Basically formatting and proofreading exam papers, got my workload done by 11am most days then just had to look busy until 5. Made EVERY MINUTE of my lunch break count. No progression, everyone in senior positions had been there since leaving school and would be staying until they retired. Just wasn't worth the money or the horrendous commute to Cannon Street.

I left to retrain as a mental health nurse and haven't looked back!

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