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If you hate your job

218 replies

Redsunrise · 25/05/2021 16:02

Can I ask what you do?

OP posts:
Bargebill19 · 25/05/2021 20:53

@mimirouge

Hostile working conditions, where you just pray you survive the working day. You can do absolutely nothing right, not even saying “good morning” is the right thing to do. It’s a family run business - no HR…

Poppynit · 25/05/2021 20:54

Pharmacy technician. I don’t necessarily hate the job, I love what I do; but I hate the abuse we get, I hate how misunderstood our role is, I hate how underpaid I am considering how much work I do, I hate my ‘phone voice’ and I hate never being able to switch off from my job. It’s an extremely mentally taxing on job and my mental health has taken enough of a battering over the years that it’s time to step back.

Handed my notice in a couple of weeks ago and applied for a job at a local supermarket. I made it quite clear in the interview that I didn’t want to be full-time customer facing so they’re putting me in the back-shop 🥳 I’ll be earning marginally more than I do now but with nowhere near as much responsibility & mental fatigue, happy days! I will return to pharmacy one day but I need a break!

Vursayles · 25/05/2021 20:57

Today 20:15 Onesnowynight

“Staff trainer in healthcare. Delivery training such as behaviour management, first aid, safeguarding, manual handling and MCA & DoLs. Absolutely love it!”

@Onesnowynight do you mind telling me how you got into that role? Did you just apply outright or did you have to work your way up?

ClarkeGriffin · 25/05/2021 20:58

[quote WhySoSensitive]@ClarkeGriffin sadly clients like your are few and far between.
We can go above and beyond, we can discount you to an incredible extent and make your bill 20% of what it should be, we can do absolutely everything and give you your animal back and we will still be berated, ridiculed, verbally attacked, social media shamed.
It is EXHAUSTING. I’m leaving the profession soon and already feel relief that I’m not going to get verbally abused in one way or another every week![/quote]
That's shit. I don't think I've ever had a discount, despite how often my horse tries to kill himself, but nor would I expect it. Vet care is not cheap or free, it's private health care for animals. It's expensive. If you can't afford it, get insurance or don't get an animal. And if you can't afford the fix, do the right thing and put it down. Better that than suffering.

MuchTooTired · 25/05/2021 21:01

I’m pretty ashamed to admit this, but I’m a sahm and I really do not like it. I adore my children, would merrily die for them without thinking etc etc. I just am so unfulfilled constantly doing housework and laundry, breaking up kids fighting and living a life of servitude to my family. I feel like screaming sometimes that I’ve no idea where the fuck XY and Z are!

I have DTs, can’t find a job that’ll pay enough to keep them in childcare without making a loss overall.

It’ll get better, I know it will, it’s just a bit of a bitch at the minute!

Thesagacontinues · 25/05/2021 21:01

Finance. I feel like I'm walking on egg shells with my work and with the clients. There is such little room for error.

When my work is audited, it actually feels like I am being interrogated.
I dread logging in in the morning because I dont know what emails could be waiting for me. Taking annual leave is a nightmare because I have to catch up on so much when I return.
I have to do hours and hours of overtime for 11 months of the year.

In the long term I cant keep doing this. I'm just hanging on for as long as I can.

Ofallthebarsinalltheworld · 25/05/2021 21:01

Worked as a nurse on the NHS bank at my local trust. I absolutely loved it. Loved the job, people I worked with and it worked around family life.

Then I moved and got a job in a new NHS trust in a management role. I hated it and the bullying was unreal. I lasted a few weeks and left.

I set up my own business and it's the best thing I ever done. I love it.

Didiplanthis · 25/05/2021 21:08

@dalmatianmad

A+E Sister of 24 years.

We see so much crap every shift.
I really don't understand why GP's still aren't seeing anyone. They sent everything to us. The last 3 shifts I've worked have been horrendous with 11 hour waits to see a Dr, I feel so sorry for folk having to sit there for so long when their GP should have easily sorted it Hmm

GP here... just finished a 14 hour day with no breaks, apparently 'not seeing anyone'... clearly imagined the many people I saw and people I spoke to , not to mention the visits I did, and the hours of results/letters and referrals. I'm broken by it and would leave in a heart beat...I never ever stop feeling crap and anxious.
Oysterbabe · 25/05/2021 21:09

Lawyer. I spend my time at work stressed out my skull and my time not at work worrying about work. It's ruining my life.

maddiemookins16mum · 25/05/2021 21:09

A previous role I had, complaints dept for a holiday firm.
I truly believe the awfulness of it led me into alcoholism.

maddiemookins16mum · 25/05/2021 21:11

@Onesnowynight

Staff trainer in healthcare. Delivery training such as behaviour management, first aid, safeguarding, manual handling and MCA & DoLs. Absolutely love it!
Are you my DP? 😊😊
Nuggetnugget · 25/05/2021 21:12

Teacher - love the children
Hate the paperwork. Ungrateful parents. Unprofessional and competitive culture of staff in the school. Can't get out. There is nothing else locally.

Whydoifeelshit · 25/05/2021 21:15

Learning support Assistant in a school.
Don’t hate the job as such, but I hate how much the management treat me like shit, ignore my opinion although I’m the one “on the ground” and insinuate that it something about me when the children are repeatedly violent, whilst still ignoring any advice from me over how the situation can be improved.
Also, you are all on temporary contracts now so you can be dropped at will so it’s not even a stable, safe job and if your face isn’t fitting.......

DrDresaid · 25/05/2021 21:16

A lot of GP's aren't though @Didiplanthis
You that are though are bloody amazing Thanks
I admire all those that have worked through all this Covid crap at a cost to their own mental and physical health. Another reason I wanted to join the NHS. I've wanted to for years. It's a shame it hasn't worked out for me though as I'm struggling to cope with it all and that's just as Admin. How you frontline have done it is beyond me but I honestly do take me hat off to you all

Thecazelets · 25/05/2021 21:16

NHS clinician, also a manager. It is exhausting and poorly paid for the qualifications needed, the hours and huge responsibility. High turnover of NQPs who can't afford to live in London on the salary. Mostly thankless, always demanding. I do have a (mostly) lovely team, it is close to home and far better than previous Trusts - like pp I have in the past had the 'minor but not too minor' illness or accident fantasy on the way to work. I could actually hand in my notice, but somehow I keep plodding on. There are parts of the role I do still enjoy, but I spend a lot of time fantasising about retirement.

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 25/05/2021 21:17

@HitsAndMrs

It was a medical ward. I hated the...

  • lack of support from management. I was newly qualified and didn't get any of the training that I had been told I would receive when I had my interview. I also didn't have a preceptor as they were "too short staffed". The staff turn over was awful (easy to see why), and a lot of my shifts I was working with agency staff. Bit like the blind leading the blind. I raised it with the professional development team and they made all the right noises, but nothing actually changed.
  • the majority of my colleagues were bitter and burnt out, openly said that they hated nursing and patients, but felt stuck there I think. Most of them were bitchy and a few were just downright bullies. A couple of them were absolutely lovely. But due to the shift patterns and workload it was quite hard to feel any sense of team.
  • patient to nurse ratio was too high, we had at least 10 patients per nurse which isn't realistic for providing good care, or even basic safe care.
  • the box ticking paperwork, and managers checking it was all ticked.
  • shift patterns. Switching between day and night shifts several times each month absolutely killed me.
  • and lastly, the store cupboard was always a mess, so it took ages to find anything. The whole ward was a mess and dirty, and it was embarrassing.

I lasted 6 months and learnt so much, but my God I wouldn't want to do it again. I have worked in a few different nursing jobs since, including two other medical wards (not by choice, but due to winter pressures and covid), which were much much better. Better management, shift patterns and nurse to patient ratios made a massive difference. Probably because the staff aren't burnt out into bitter little crisps.

Good luck in your first job, hopefully you love it! If not, there are other jobs!

WhySoSensitive · 25/05/2021 21:17

@ClarkeGriffin exactly! People forget that owning any animal is a luxury and privilege, not a right! I discount because I’m an absolute sucker and want to do everything I can to help anyone I can. Falls on deaf ears mostly.

Also, it’s because you have a horse. They’re designed to be money pits Grin

user1471462428 · 25/05/2021 21:18

Nurse here too, I’ve also had days where I wanted a car to knock me down on the way to work. Had a nervous breakdown last year but back to it now. Wish I had the money to leave completely.

HippoNamedBooBooButt · 25/05/2021 21:19

Primary school Head teacher.

Been in education 22 years and have taken around 10 days off sick in that time. Currently signed off for a month due to stress, anxiety and depression. Will probably be signed off for longer than that. Reached absolute burn out it's made me so ill. Planning on not going back but no idea what to do next and so worried about letting everyone down.

RattlesnakesUnfold · 25/05/2021 21:21

Interesting how many doctors, nurses and NHS workers hate their jobs.

Out of interest did you hate it before the pandemic or more recently? Did it have anything to do with flexible working and/or wfh?

I used to love my job but after battling through the covid waves, and recently suffering covid myself (now long covid) I feel totally unsupported by management and burnt out.

theceilingnerfgunblackdot · 25/05/2021 21:22

@RattlesnakesUnfold

Interesting how many doctors, nurses and NHS workers hate their jobs.

Out of interest did you hate it before the pandemic or more recently? Did it have anything to do with flexible working and/or wfh?

I used to love my job but after battling through the covid waves, and recently suffering covid myself (now long covid) I feel totally unsupported by management and burnt out.

My nhs job hate was 20 years ago
Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 25/05/2021 21:22

I realised I needed to get out of my shit job (collections team manager at a high street bank) when I was worrying about some report stood at the bar in fancy dress on a Saturday night for my mates hen do.

It wasn’t the collecting actually, I loved the customer care element of it. It was the management, the cliqueyness and the never ending form filling for coaching that was pointless.

I shudder when I think of that job

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 25/05/2021 21:22

@RattlesnakesUnfold

Interesting how many doctors, nurses and NHS workers hate their jobs.

Out of interest did you hate it before the pandemic or more recently? Did it have anything to do with flexible working and/or wfh?

I used to love my job but after battling through the covid waves, and recently suffering covid myself (now long covid) I feel totally unsupported by management and burnt out.

I hated it before COVID. The pandemic was the straw that broke the camels back and gave me the kick up the bum to move out of hospital based care.
BrownEyedGirl80 · 25/05/2021 21:25

Hated telesales with a passion in my late teens.Hated being a drs receptionist in my 20s and 30s.Im now working in a junior school as non teaching staff.Its part time and I really enjoy it.

Mammyloveswine · 25/05/2021 21:25

I'm a primary school teacher and almost had a nervous breakdown last year..ended up on antidepressants and somehow managed to battle through!

Finally feeling more like me again and feeling positive!

I know the feeling though of fantasising about being injured so as not to have to go into work..