After a complete disaster with a cleaner sent by an agency, I asked my contacts on FB for a recommendation.
One person (mother of my friend from Uni) left the following comment:
"Aneley, my dear... when you accept that cleaning the house can be both mental and physical recreation, you won't have a problem with it anymore. I'm speaking from experience - raising three children, whilst keeping my managerial job, farming the land and building a house - and I've never had a cleaner. It's all about smart use of your time and good organization."
Now, I've been having a rough time recently (which she doesn't know!) so my fuse is a bit short at the moment, which is why I'm trying to control myself and not respond. Am I being too sensitive?
On the other hand, is it possible that by not responding I'm becoming unsensitized to judgemental and misogynistic comments, if that's what this is?
For context: I've already had disagreements with this person in the past and quite a few times opted not to respond. She has literally zero insights into my life and schedule. I work full time, long hours and have a very intense job, 18m old DD and can afford a cleaner without a strain. And I don't think cleaning is 'beneath me' - I supported myself through PhD by cleaning and would do it again if I have to.
YABU: You should respond.
YANBU: You shouldn't respond.