To clean the toilet after he’s used it

[Dibalo]

Aibu to ask Dp to clean the toilet after he’s been on, er, if it needs cleaning?!
Quite embarrassing but sick of getting up in the morning and seeing it.
How much effort is it to use the toilet bleach and brush and clean it 🤷🏻‍♀️
Anyone else’s dp/Dh like this? So off putting that I should actually have to say it.

I'm starting to come to the conclusion men are (wilfully) unable to see that something needs cleaning. I feel you would have more luck asking your cat to clean the toilet

@wolfmom But surely you see after you’ve used the loo if it needs sorting, only takes a minute-gross

I agree and that goes for anyone leaving the toilet in a mess. I don't see why I have to clean up that sort of thing after others!

I trained my children before they were 12 to clean up their shite. He can do it.
I broke it off with someone for having a consistently skiddy pan too. Disgusting.

I don't even bother with a loo brush (please please please no debate) a slug of bleach removes it.

My DH is like this and it drives me nuts. He has IBD so it can be rather “messy” and I am sick of having to clean it but I feel bad because of his condition.. but then I think by god he’s an adult HE knows what his bowel is like he should be checking the state he leaves the loo in.
I’d really love to have my own bathroom, I’d revel in it being clean and nice every time I went into it

I would expect an adult to be able to manage this. I regularly get DS1 (teenager) back into the toilet to clean it after use.
You would think he would be embarrassed at his mother pointing out (again) he’s pissed all over the toilet but nope.

@Hendalle

My DH is like this and it drives me nuts. He has IBD so it can be rather “messy” and I am sick of having to clean it but I feel bad because of his condition.. but then I think by god he’s an adult HE knows what his bowel is like he should be checking the state he leaves the loo in. I’d really love to have my own bathroom, I’d revel in it being clean and nice every time I went into it

Don’t feel bad, I have IBD too and make sure everything is disinfected and clean.

Why does anyone tolerate this disgusting behaviour?
Please, OP and PPs, collar your lazy dirty husbands every time they do this, drag them back to the bathroom and stand over them while they clean it to your satisfaction. Keep doing this until they learn basic civilised manners and can manage to do it all by their little selves.

Dear lord this is bleak, what low bars some of you have.
Shame them and their parents by asking why he wasn't raised to clean up after himself.

That is nasty, and I would be telling him so. You’re not his slave, and it’s disgusting to leave the toilet in a state.

I would even say this if he had IBD. I’d give leeway only if there are mobility issues but I’m guessing there isn’t and he’s just lazy.

Call him away from whatever he is doing. Every. single. time.

Make him to come up to the bathroom. Point it out and make him clean it.
Stand there and Watch him.

Let him complain and say he is annoyed at the inconvenience and it's stupid.
Agree, and explain that YOU are annoyed at him being so inconvenient and thoughtless. Then ask him if he thinks you should clean up his (literal) shit.

My DH pissed on the floor and I cleaned it up thinking it was a 1 off. It happened the next day so I hysterically called him upstairs in real panic and made him look because I was really concerned about "how badly the toilet was leaking" strangely it didn't happen again

Separate toilets OP, then he can bask in his shittiness to his hearts content.

I'd call him out on it every single time. How did you let him get away with it long enough to move in with you?

Rub his nose in it.

@suckingonchillidogs That’s the thing, this generally is my toilet, it’s the en-suite one and he uses the other one upstairs.

But how embarrassing to have to ask someone if they can please clean and bleach after they’ve been to the toilet 😩

Of course it's not unreasonable but it's beyond me why it's embarrassing to ask. Presumably you're sleeping with the man but you can't discuss cleaning the toilet?

I agree with PP, no need for a brush he should just run the bleach round it.

It gross cleaning skiddies and I refuse to do it. I just call for the offender and refuse to let them leave until it’s gone. DH, DS and DSS are all terrible for it and it’s awful when they’re all in the house as they all blame one another.

*refuse to clean other people’s (just to clarify)

Yes agree it should not need to be asked to do.

Please tell me you don't have kids and he's raising them like this? I'd have lost any attraction for him, doesn't it make your flesh creep that he's so useless and expects a woman (mummy) to clean up after him.
If like a pp suggested you shout him back and watch over him whilst he cleans it, then yes, you are his mummy.

I will never understand how you can be in a sexual relationship with someone with whom you are embarrassed to ask to clean the toilet after they’ve used it.

I mean I already clean DD’s nappy, our dogs dog poo, feel like I spend my life cleaning up poo..and none of it’s even mine!

Anyone who did this never made it to 'partner' stage with me. Fucking disrespectful pig behaviour. YANBU. My guess is people who are like this are pigs in other ways.

DH did this a few times, I asked him to clean it. He did for a while, then stopped so I started sending him pictures of the mess he'd left, next stop family/work WhatsApp groups. Funnily he's never forgotten since then. I also don't understand how they make the mess in the first place. Understandable if you have IBS/IBD or on occasion if you have an upset stomach (still clean up after yourself), but what are all of these men who decimate toilet bowls eating?!