To clean the toilet after he’s used it

[Dibalo]

Aibu to ask Dp to clean the toilet after he’s been on, er, if it needs cleaning?!
Quite embarrassing but sick of getting up in the morning and seeing it.
How much effort is it to use the toilet bleach and brush and clean it 🤷🏻‍♀️
Anyone else’s dp/Dh like this? So off putting that I should actually have to say it.

[quote Dibalo]@suckingonchillidogs That’s the thing, this generally is my toilet, it’s the en-suite one and he uses the other one upstairs.

But how embarrassing to have to ask someone if they can please clean and bleach after they’ve been to the toilet 😩[/quote]
It really isn't. Tell him to squirt some toilet duck after he's been for a crap. It usually rinses away after the next flush and if it doesn't then he can use the toilet brush. Don't use a toilet crush on fresh skids.

It's just a shame they need telling.

I think in a weird men mentality way they are ‘proud’ of it 🤮🤢

Using bleach everyday is terrible for the environment.

Thing about this is that I don't even consider this cleaning. It's maintaining it. Does he ever actually clean the bathroom, OP. Reminds me of the boys I lived with at uni who told me they cleaned the kitchen every day. No mate, you washed up your plate. Did you get a sponge and some cleaning products out and actually clean? No, you didn't. Your daughter will be learning from the way he treats you. Stop his behaviour now.

He'll be wondering why you don't want sex after you've spent the morning cleaning his shite off the toilet

Why do you have to ask him to clean it at all? Is cleaning the bathroom solely your responsibility? Does he do any other cleaning or housework or chores?

And I'd turn that embarrassment right back around on him, he should be embarrassed for leaving it in such a state, not you be embarrassed for telling him to clean it.

It usually flushes away after a few flushes. Is it exceptionally sticky poo?

@onecandream

Using bleach everyday is terrible for the environment.

But there's a big difference between using bleach every day and not cleaning the toilet. We never use bleach, but the toilet is spotless. We don't live in a hard water area though which helps.

@tentosix

It usually flushes away after a few flushes. Is it exceptionally sticky poo?

That’s known as a ‘ claggy’ sticks to ceramics but even more disturbingly sticks to ring piece and hairs that surround said ring piece So it’s not just the pan that needs a scrub Sorry if that’s TMI 😂

🤮🤢🤮

It’s the manufacture of bleach that’s harmful, it turns into harmless salts in the environment, but I suppose that’s just as bad they made it in the first place
Sometimes, only bleach will make you feel less unsettled unfortunately

There’s no way I’m calling him back to do it, I mean we’re adults, can’t he just do it

well then just keep on cleaning up his shit. But don't complain about it.

Is this how you want your daughter to think relationships work? what if you have a son?

I liked the pp up there who send photos.

@tentosix @SappysCurry It’s the claggy kind 🤮 is small bits but was just there. I texted him while he was on the loo (he’s there so freaking often!) and asked him to clean it as it’s not nice to get up and see. He apologised and said he hadn’t noticed

@Dibalo
Creased up here 🤣😂🤣

Texting whilst he’s mid dump 🤣😂🤣 good work
How could they not notice though ?
I bet he’d notice a minuscule scratch on his car 🤣😂🤣

@SappysCurry 🤣

I know! God, it’s ridiculous

God with the bleach environment bullshit,
I do everything for the environment I will bleach my toilet daily. Thanks very bloody much

My DP can be pretty unreconstructed sometimes but he would never, ever leave a mess in the loo for me to clean up. Gross.

My kids are upper primary school age and even they are expected to check the pan and seat after use to make sure it's clean for the next user. Both know how to use a bit of loo roll to clear up and then wash their hands afterwards.

I think I’ve worked a miracle just ensuring DH and the boys put the seat up to pee! My bar is set very low 😂😂

Presumably you're both adults. Tell him to clean it if there is a mess after. Same goes for you and anyone else using the loo....

@Taliskerskye

God with the bleach environment bullshit, I do everything for the environment I will bleach my toilet daily. Thanks very bloody much

Why though? It doesn't clean, it's not good for your pipes. It doesn't make any sense to use it daily.

Does he put the lid down to flush and then just not bother to check it’s clean, or can he see it’s dirty and just leaves it?

I've just had an advert for WD-40 come up on Twitter (a truly WTF moment).
Apparently it's fantastic at cleaning loos. The advert didn't go into great detail but I'm presuming it makes the skid marks skid off.
Maybe try keeping a can of it in there & the entertainment factor of watching everything slid away will encourage them to clean the loo

@wolfmom

I'm starting to come to the conclusion men are (wilfully) unable to see that something needs cleaning. I feel you would have more luck asking your cat to clean the toilet

Please don’t tar all men with the brush of your low standards.

I’ve lived with my husband for almost twenty years and have never once encountered a toilet that he’s left dirty. I genuinely think he would die of mortification if someone had to clean up after him.

OP, it’s disgusting that you even have to ask. There’s no reason that a physically-able adult can’t clean a toilet when needed.

@NewMatress

Of course it's not unreasonable but it's beyond me why it's embarrassing to ask. Presumably you're sleeping with the man but you can't discuss cleaning the toilet?

I agree with PP, no need for a brush he should just run the bleach round it.

Isn't that really bad for the environment ?

It took me pointing out to DH that I shouldn't be having to scrape another grown adults shit off the toilet to sort this in our house. He leaves it as he finds it now so it was worth being blunt about it.