AIBU to think nobody can understand the pain of having been alone through COVID

[WoodSageandSeasalt]

I know it's been awful for people in all different ways but the gut wrenching sadness of having been alone without another adult to share such a difficult time is on another level.

I just feel so hurt, all through this everyone else in my life has had someone else who matters to them more than me. I haven't had a bubble because the person I wanted one with didnt love me enough and the bitterness and resentment I feel eats away at me.

I don't feel I'll ever get past it and it doesn't make me a very nice person. AIBU to think loneliness is one of the hardest things you can ever have to deal with?

Yanbu OP. I’m fortunate though to have children. So as stressful as it was juggling their welfare / homeschooling/ work etc, I also was incredibly grateful that I wasn’t alone. They forced me to try and keep some form of day to day routine.

These lockdowns have been brutal on people and sadly I think we will see the impact for years to come. I hope now that things are easing are you getting back out? That’s the other part that I’m finding hard, getting back into the habit of going to the gym/ or for coffee with friends/ a bite to eat. Are you easing your way back into society? Or are you struggling with taking that step?

I think it’s been really shitty for people living alone, or alone with children. It did help somewhat when they brought in bubbles - why on Earth didn’t they in the first lockdown - but that has t worked for everyone. Not every has a household to exclusively bubble with, or one nearby.

I didn’t have a bubble for ages - my parents were sort of my bubble but they live a long way off, so for practical purposes it only made a difference in the school holidays. And then people kept saying “your bubble should be local” on the internet etc

I then bubbled with a friend and her family eventually, but most of my friends have an elderly parent to bubble with or have bent the rules and made their parents as a couple their quasi-bubble as they needed help etc.

I’m grateful not to have locked down with a shitty partner, but with a decent partner the whole thing would have been infinitely easier.