To think my 10th July wedding is not going to happen

[covidbride]

We're sending wedding invites out this week for our 10th July wedding and my husband is adamant the data looks good and we will be unlocked on 21st and can have our 150 person marquee wedding.

I want to share his optimism but I just can't see it happening? And part of me thinks mentally I'd rather pony myself up for a 30 man wedding so something was concrete in my mind?

We've currently got plans D,E and F mapped out as this wedding has been moved twice already! I thought he was accepting it might not be a big do but then the Andrew Marr show at the weekend suggested all was good. I honestly can't tell media hype from anything else at this stage.

And I've name changed BTW, sorry.

Husband to be getting ahead of myself there!

150!!
I would personally be mentally preparing for it to be a lot less than that. Have low expectations and then see what happens. I would be prepared for some guests. It wanting to be part of a gathering that big at that point in time.

There’s been no indication that your wedding cannot go ahead as planned, in fact all news just lately has been really good. I’m afraid I would feel the same as you though.

YANbU - better planning for a small one.

You won’t have 150 people allowed at a wedding by July no, your DP is off his head

But that doesn’t make it suck any less for you sorry, that came across quite callous! I’m sorry that Covid is messing with your wedding, perhaps plan for a smaller one and have a big reception when restrictions allow?

@LegoPirateMonkey did you mean to post on another thread?

I wouldn't be booking anything not fully refundable.

It's too hard to say yet that's still many weeks away.

Nope, not IMO. 150 is madness anyway! Plan for the worst, hope for something reasonable and just get married, that is what is important.

Party later.

150 :O

My friend is getting married around then too and similarly to you, this is the 3rd date. They are inviting 50 max and still have doubts that that will even go ahead so have a 30 list and 50 list.

Why would 150 be madness if all the nightclubs/festival are opening on the 21st? I’m pretty confident you’ll get your wedding although I suppose some guests might not feel comfortable at a big event.

@LegoPirateMonkey what now?!

@NaturalBlondeYeahRight

Why would 150 be madness if all the nightclubs/festival are opening on the 21st? I’m pretty confident you’ll get your wedding although I suppose some guests might not feel comfortable at a big event.

Confident enough to pay tens of thousands?

Yes, As I said, IMO, madness.

I don't understand why people think this wouldn't be able to go ahead? The numbers are still really low aren't they? And people in their 30s are now being given the vaccine so why would there be a huge turn around? Have I missed something?

I don't think Boris knows, he has just postponed informing us if the 21st is going to go ahead, planning now to update us on 14th June.

I do really feel for you as the excitement and build up is a big part of the wedding. Whatever happens I wish you the best.

@BillieSpain were having a marquee at home as we have land, so the actual cost difference will be catering and furniture which the caterers have said they will be flexible with to a point - it's more just my anxiety of "will it, won't it" and having to call up a load of my friends to cancel their invitations.

If the plan for restrictions to complete ease goes ahead, which looks very likely. Then there's absolutely no reason you won't be able to have 150 people. Restrictions will have been lifted... Night clubs will be open etc.

Whilst nothing is guaranteed I would definitely expect your wedding will go ahead as planned.

I’m planning the same sized wedding for June 26th. I don’t really know why people think it’s such an impossibility. Step 4 is to lift restrictions on June 21st, and ministers are saying they’re confident that will go ahead as planned - assuming it does, what would stop you having that size of wedding?

My only worry is what they did at Christmas. Said one thing then took it away. But with the vaccine we are in a different place.

150 people does seem like a shock to the system though! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏽

And he’s never planned to confirm a move to step 4 earlier than June 14th, although he did make some confusing noises about saying something about weddings/the social distancing review which he then seemed to go back on and the papers all had different reports. But the Step 4 announcement was always going to be June 14th.

[quote covidbride]@BillieSpain were having a marquee at home as we have land, so the actual cost difference will be catering and furniture which the caterers have said they will be flexible with to a point - it's more just my anxiety of "will it, won't it" and having to call up a load of my friends to cancel their invitations. [/quote]
Oh, well that's completely and utterly different.

In that case, plan for it to go ahead! People will understand if you have to change things 2 weeks before (or whatever)

I was worried about money! I was imaging a venue with their stipulations on menu/drinks etc. Your friends will understand/be anticipating it should there be anymore fudging from Boris.

Congrats anyway and go ahead whatever.

I think it'll be allowed to go ahead, but maybe be prepared for some people not wanting to attend for Covid risk reasons? Mentally preparing for a smaller one is probably wise good luck and I'm sure it'll be great whatever happens.

Whether it's allowed or not I'm not sure I would feel comfortable attending. Same for going to pubs or any crowded spaces.