To think my 10th July wedding is not going to happen

[covidbride]

We're sending wedding invites out this week for our 10th July wedding and my husband is adamant the data looks good and we will be unlocked on 21st and can have our 150 person marquee wedding.

I want to share his optimism but I just can't see it happening? And part of me thinks mentally I'd rather pony myself up for a 30 man wedding so something was concrete in my mind?

We've currently got plans D,E and F mapped out as this wedding has been moved twice already! I thought he was accepting it might not be a big do but then the Andrew Marr show at the weekend suggested all was good. I honestly can't tell media hype from anything else at this stage.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss we had to reschedule twice, both the original and the rearranged dates were during lockdowns when weddings of any number were illegal. Believe me, I don't want to be on my third wedding date wondering what will be. It's endless.

Good grief, MiddleParking. There's no need for that. That's so unkind.

I have absolutely no faith in this government keeping its promises. I reckon they’ll pull the rug out from under us at least once more, just to make sure we’re well and truly beaten down.

@Greentrianglesarethebestones

Good grief, MiddleParking. There's no need for that. That's so unkind.

Oh, whereas that poster making out that OP should feel guilty for making people ill was really kind. Give over. They’re at it constantly, they never stop.

I have a big indoor party for the same date planned. Got the invites printed and I have no idea whether to wait for Boris to do his talk or just send them now ? I'm confident 😬

I think you’ll be fine

It’s very hard to say at the moment, but I am optimistic. I so hope it goes ahead as planned for you.
We’ve a wedding party of a similar ilk to yours to attend on the 25th June and I so want it to go ahead.

Who are "they", MiddleParking?

You have my sympathies. We managed it last year with 30 ish it was a pain in the arse.

I reckon you have good odds tovbe able to go ahead by then but I guarantee a handful of guests will be annoying and awkward with special requests, they "want to attend BUT could you do x y and z as i am not comfortable"s and what not

Also expect flakes and drop outs

To be fair to @Icecreamandcandyfloss - I do think its not been really reported widely that for the first time in our history, we've had extended periods where it was illegal to get married. Lots of people assume the same, that the big party wasn't allowed, not that you weren't allowed to even get married just you 2, witnesses and the celebrant.

(Perhaps previous generations when it wasn't as acceptable to cohabit unmarried it would be more of a big deal).

If you get your invites out soon, you'll find out if your friends/family are happy to attend or not, put a note in that obviously if the road map changes, you'll have to cancel the big party. Non-local guests can make an informed decision on booking hotels etc based on that.

@Greentrianglesarethebestones

Who are "they", MiddleParking?

That poster

Wedding is almost certain to happen, it is the size of the party that is questionable . All you can do is be flexible. And maybe allow for a lot of no shows as not everyone will be comfortable in that big a crowd.

We're in the same boat. Booked (for the 3rd time) for July 16th

I'm utterly bone tired of it all. I'm sick of having to pretend it's OK. I'm sick of having to pretend I'd be OK with a small wedding (our families would eat up the 30 places. Literally none of our friends could come)

I'm sick of being made to feel selfish for wanting a wedding.

I was desperately hoping for positive news tonight. Boris announcing his own wedding on the day he was meant to be updating us feels like a piss take

I work for the NHS on the Covid response and we’ve been told by NHS England to be prepared to return to an incident level 4 by June 1st which means the return of the local tier system. We’re currently ensuring all system responses will be able to be back in place by that date. That might affect your venue being able to host your wedding.

@Herecomesspring1 sure.

[quote bmbm]@Herecomesspring1 sure.[/quote]

@bmbm okaaaaay

@Herecomesspring1

I work for the NHS on the Covid response and we’ve been told by NHS England to be prepared to return to an incident level 4 by June 1st which means the return of the local tier system. We’re currently ensuring all system responses will be able to be back in place by that date. That might affect your venue being able to host your wedding.

I know no-one believes an Internet stranger but our hospital is working on August being another wave and tighter restrictions. Which fucks me right off as I've finally booked something important for then.

@Whichjab by why would they bother loosening restrictions if they are already planning another wave....? Makes no sense. The more time that passes the more people are jabbed!

I'd be worried if the NHS weren't preparing for things getting worse. It's best to be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.

@Workyticket - I didn't have a particularly big wedding, 70 people which isn't that huge - but to me, the people I know who are shouting at upset brides to be that "its the marriage that counts, not the big day!" are the ones who had 300 guests and a the full white dove release, or were having meltdowns about the shade of pink for the bows round the seat covers for months before hand...

You only plan to do this the once, you are not unreasonable for wanting the perfect day for you (which is bound to be different to my idea of a perfect day and different to the OPs).

The people who want you to sacrifice this milestone just to make them feel more comfortable are the selfish ones.

@Workyticket

We're in the same boat. Booked (for the 3rd time) for July 16th

I'm utterly bone tired of it all. I'm sick of having to pretend it's OK. I'm sick of having to pretend I'd be OK with a small wedding (our families would eat up the 30 places. Literally none of our friends could come)

I'm sick of being made to feel selfish for wanting a wedding.

I was desperately hoping for positive news tonight. Boris announcing his own wedding on the day he was meant to be updating us feels like a piss take

I hear you. I feel like MN is full of people who had lovely weddings pre-Covid who don't understand how crappy this is for us. (As well as many kind people who are sympathetic.)

I also expected people not to want to come, but they really do.

[quote MargosKaftan]@Workyticket - I didn't have a particularly big wedding, 70 people which isn't that huge - but to me, the people I know who are shouting at upset brides to be that "its the marriage that counts, not the big day!" are the ones who had 300 guests and a the full white dove release, or were having meltdowns about the shade of pink for the bows round the seat covers for months before hand...

You only plan to do this the once, you are not unreasonable for wanting the perfect day for you (which is bound to be different to my idea of a perfect day and different to the OPs).

The people who want you to sacrifice this milestone just to make them feel more comfortable are the selfish ones.

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Thank you! My brother is cut and dry giving it "cancel or go small"

He had a big wedding. I'd have to invite him when in reality I don't have anything in common with him.

I want a party with my friends - the wedding we planned last year. I want to get tipsy and dance.