To think my 10th July wedding is not going to happen

[covidbride]

We're sending wedding invites out this week for our 10th July wedding and my husband is adamant the data looks good and we will be unlocked on 21st and can have our 150 person marquee wedding.

I want to share his optimism but I just can't see it happening? And part of me thinks mentally I'd rather pony myself up for a 30 man wedding so something was concrete in my mind?

We've currently got plans D,E and F mapped out as this wedding has been moved twice already! I thought he was accepting it might not be a big do but then the Andrew Marr show at the weekend suggested all was good. I honestly can't tell media hype from anything else at this stage.

I would guess it's about 50/50. I have 6 weddings at work in July and August, we are not finalising anything until 14th June when we should hear from the government

See no reason why it wouldn’t go ahead OP- 21st June is normality- should be no issues 🤞🤞🤞

Why is everyone so gobsmacked over 150 people? OP, I had a wedding at home and it was nearly 300 people.

Anyway, enough about that, get advice from all your suppliers about whether they’ll happily postpone if when Boris does another u-turn.

Sorry, obviously I posted on the wrong thread and have reported myself!

Mine is then as well. If it happens. Hard to get excited isn’t it when it’s up in the air.

I know this won’t help you but try not to stress or think about it. Worrying about it now won’t change anything. Every time you go to worry remind yourself that there’s no point until 14 June.

Xx

I'm going to a wedding in June planned for about a hundred. Everyone seems confident its going ahead, including the venue.

I can't see why it wouldnt, the data looks fine & almost all the guests will be vaccinated. We won't live in fear forever.

Have a plan B just in case. Increasing numbers at weddings is not going to be the highest priority for easing of restrictions on 21st June, given they are 30 currently(?).

Holidays and hospitality seem the one thing the government really wants to end restrictions on come 21st June if at all possible.

Weddings come into the category of hospitality, surely? Many hotels host weddings, think of all the catering, hotel bookings etc based around weddings.

It's a huge industry. The government will want it back in play.

@Onairjunkie, they are shocked by 150 in corona times....

OP, I think (?) It'll be ok, try and relax and enjoy.

Hi OP, I know how you feel! Our wedding is this august and hoping for around 80-90 guests. I'm doing a back up 30 and back up 50 list just in case, but keeping everything crossed that it can all go ahead as planned. Am sure all your friends won't mind if you have to change things and withdraw invites, planning a wedding is hard let alone throwing covid into the mix - people will be understanding good luck for your special day! Xx

I think you should be fine - the government are too afraid of the populists they created to renege on the roadmap now

[quote OddsNSodsBitsNBobs]@Onairjunkie, they are shocked by 150 in corona times....

OP, I think (?) It'll be ok, try and relax and enjoy. [/quote]
I rather think the whole point is that it is not meant to be corona times anymore...

I work in the wedding industry and have two weddings booked for 10th July- as well as my own wedding in October! If they said all restrictions are lifted 21st June there is no reason to think 150 people weddings won't go ahead, however I totally sympathise with you about the not being sure whether it will go ahead. Luckily everyone going to my wedding (45 day, 75 evening) are super excited to get out and celebrate something so no one feels uncomfortable enough not to come!

I am hoping 21 June will be total freedom day, no masks in shops or trains either. Good luck. My child married in April (moved from March) but decided for March and then April to stick to 13 guests in church, no food. They wanted to get on with it. Not everyone wants such a small do. My other child before covid had about 200. Both were lovely weddings.

I think you’ll be fine! Hard to relax after all this but enjoy and congratulations and very well timed!

@newnortherner111

Have a plan B just in case. Increasing numbers at weddings is not going to be the highest priority for easing of restrictions on 21st June, given they are 30 currently(?).

Holidays and hospitality seem the one thing the government really wants to end restrictions on come 21st June if at all possible.

That’s not even close to how it works or what’s been said. It’s really quite unpleasant to be so baselessly pessimistic about something so important to OP and others.

OK- plan for your big day. Then sit down with dh and plan your "30 only list". (If its less than that you might need to postpone).

Some people like to know for certain. Others like to hope for the best then deal with a worse case situation if/when it happens.

Have you got insurance?

To me, it looks good. Numbers are down. Jabs are up. It should happen.

I would not go to a large wedding now.

I feel your pain! Our 5th wedding date is the end of July. We were supposed to marry April 2020 and had to cancel 2 weeks before. Everything was paid for 6 weeks before then so the money is tied up and gone. I dont think it will be allowed (we have 85 guests) and cant get excited about it at all, every ounce of joy was sucked from this wedding around the time we cancelled date number 3. Friends and family think it will happen but I'm just waiting on June 21st until I make any plans and if it does happe I might just collapse under the street of trying to get everything done in time.

FWIW to everyone saying 'if nightclubs are allowed weddings will be allowed' etc. The govt hate weddings and the restrictions on them have been the toughest of all areas. Currenty I can get a tattoo on my face but it's illegal for my dad to walk me down the aisle. 22,000 football supporters singing shirtless with no masks on is fine but apparently it's illegal to sing a hymn in a church or dance with friends at a wedding. I can shop with hundreds of people but cant have more that 27 guests at a wedding. Canapes? Illegal. Speeches? Raised voices may spread germs, any speeches must be given outside. It's a joke

@MargosKaftan wedding insurance doesnt cover anything covid related

I would have a list of who you'd want to invite should numbers be halved and another one if they are halved again. Just to be prepared.

Oh poo re insurance.

But on the bright side, you have 3.5 weeks from any announcement delaying the road map and your wedding. So its not completely last minute if you have to drop to 30 guests.

If you have your invites out now, anyone who feels uncomfortable about going to a large wedding will be able to decline.

I wouldn’t count on people declining the invite. We’ve had far more acceptances than we’d have expected, because no one’s going on holiday, kids don’t have exams etc. People have been very confident in booking travel and accommodation too.

I’d have not rescheduled twice and just gotten married.

Lots will still be wary of big events even if they are allowed. Plus i wouldn’t want to live with the guilt of someone got ill as a result of me throwing a huge party in a pandemic.