To put dsc in 'dry nites'

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Dsc 9 has started to wet the bed again after being dry a while.
Says they do at home too then gets to sleep with mummy.

Spoke to their dm who says they do not wet at home. (why would a child say this if they don't) and is detailed as in what happens. Ie. Wets, gets changed. Gets in with mummy. Likes sleeping with mummy. Mummy changes bed the next morning or after work.

I know it can't be helped and we want to find a way to help. However until we can take her to a GP ( her dm won't so it'll have to wait till half term)

Would it be unreasonable to buy the nappy pants night things someone else suggested.
When wets it's distribs Dd. It's not just a sheet it's the protector, duvet, cover and often the pillow too!

Only drinks water. Not gallons either. Toilet before bed. No late drinks. Says everything is OK at school etc.

I feel bad thinking of getting the dry nites. However it's exhausting having to strip it all off in the middle of the night. Dd got woken and has now been unsettled for 2 hours. She has pre school tomorrow so has to be up and out early.

Would this be a SHORT term solution or would it be cruel

Yanbu. Use them
Yabu don't use them

To clarify it would have to wait till half term when with us. As dh works absolutely won't allow him to have the time off to take her for a non emergency thing. It's 45 min drive each way. And her dm won't allow her to have time out of school if I was to take her.
We have so many barrier but just want to help and make all our lives happier and easier.

Why would the mother say she doesn't wet if she does? I think it's fine to put her in the dry nights.

To make out we have issues and she doesn't. It's the same over and over with different situations. Which have had to go via courts and everything. Thankfully it had all eased off until this over the last couple of months. Which is why dh will take dsc to gp himself.

Try worming all the DC. (And yourselves) Available from the pharmacist over the counter. No need for the GP until
You've ruled it out.

My youngest had brought them home from nursery and passed them round the family and older two started setting after a long period of dry nights as they irritated them at night.

Doesn't get talked about often and most kids will have worms at some point in their childhood.

Kids should be regularly wormed as a matter of course.

Yes that's a good suggestion. One thing to rule out.

Could you just get the Dry Night Bed Mats? The absorbable should mean you only have to change the top sheet. I have also known families to make the bed with a bed mat, top sheet, bed mat, top sheet for quick changes at night.
Half term is only 2 weeks away in most areas.

www.amazon.co.uk/Huggies-DryNites-Disposable-Mattress-Protector/dp/B0085KGYOI

Have a look at the ERIC website OP:
www.eric.org.uk/Pages/Category/bedwetting

Hey OP. Your situation is very different to mine as I have an 11yr old DS who has additional needs who is still in nappies day and night. However, we spent years going down the continence route with him before it became clear his problems were more severe.

If you can avoid putting her back in Dry Nites, I would. The reason being there's a risk she'll get used to being able to void her bladder in bed. I know it's a pain - and believe me, I do know! - but there are lots of other options which don't involve stripping down an entire bed. The ERIC website @Sunbird24 mentions is excellent - I would strongly advise having a good read through what they suggest. A bedwetting alarm might be worth a try, or you could try taking her for a "dream wee" where you wake her and take her to the toilet after she's been to sleep for a while. Brolly sheets are excellent and will keep the rest of the bedding dry. Superfast to change in the night if you need to.

Agree taking her to the GP for a check-up/eliminate any physical cause such as a UTI etc is a good idea but you should be able to refer to the continence team yourself in the meantime. In our area that's done through the school nursing team which you can do with a phone call. Just ring them up and explain and they should be able to make an appointment with a community continence nurse. You should be able to find the general number for your school nursing team online if you don't want to speak to the school/preschool.

My DD is also autistic but she's fine with her continence now, but she was delayed so we went down this route with her too. Not enough fluids during the day can cause continence issues (bizarrely) because not enough urine is produced to be able to empty the bladder properly and can sometimes cause night time accidents. Also avoid blackcurrant juice.

I read your update and it sounds as if things are tricky with her DM. However, is it possible that your DSD has only wet the bed once or twice at home and she's generalising it, making it sound as if it happens more often? I know my DC used to have a habit of doing that - something would happen ONCE and they'd make it sound as if it was always happening, which could be mortifying!!

Good luck, I know night time continence issues can be exhausting for all concerned.

Where’s DH in all of this, is he getting up with his DD, changing sheets etc Not sure why you’re doing all the work.

As the parents aren’t doing anything practical, put her in dry nites.

Where’s DH in all of this, is he getting up with his DD, changing sheets etc Not sure why you’re doing all the work.

This.

My immediate thought was UTI. Would DH be able to have a phone conversation with GP?

Why on earth are you the one getting up and changing sheets?

Do you think she's willfully wetting or is it genuinely that she's asleep and only wakes upon realising the bed is wet?
Pull ups seem like the only temporary solution until you can get some advice from doctors or experts.

I think that putting her into those, will feel like you putting her in nappies. In essence, solely to reduce disturbances of your child.

I would have thought that reducing liquids after 6pm. Toilet before bed. Toilet again when you got to bed would be a better way to try and reduce these instances.

Is there any sign of a bladder infection?

Do two bottom layers. So it’s goes, mattress, protector, bottom sheet, then another protector and another bottom sheet on top. So if it happens you lift off one layer and they are straight back into bed. You may just need a spare blanket/duvet etc if that gets wet.

Why are you exhausted? Isnt it dh doing the changing of the bed?

You (or actually your husband, he's the father) could try waking her up for dream see, it may solve the problem or at least help temporarily.
Dry nites will only make the problem worse.
Also how come your husband can't take time off to take his child to a GP?? If he was a single father he'd had to find a way so there's no excuse.
Lastly you should stop cleaning the sheets, it is not your job.

*dream wee
(The thing mentioned by PP)

Was constipation for my children when they started wetting the bed a bit older. A short course of laxatives sorted it.

I did this for several years for one of my DC who was late being dry at night for no particular reason. I would make it several layers deep and it worked a treat. Minimum disruption to sleep for everyone and the mats saved the mattress. DC eventually just stopped wetting the bed at around 11.

Sorry was referring to post @LittleGungHo

That’s not your call to make. It’s up to your DH to sort. Leave it to him.

Sorry he is getting yo and doing it. We have to do by torch light as dd wakes so it's kind of a 2 person job.

The bed mats are a good idea but EVERY time is the duvet. Duvet cover the lot. And often even up to the pillow.

Why are you doing the changing? That’s for the child’s father to do.
Also the “we take to GP”
Your DH takes her to the GP - I doubt you even can take a child you don’t have PR for can you?
Your DH needs to step up and look after his child.
It’s a shame mum feels embarrassed or has to hide things that happen at home. This happened with a friend of mine when her ex constantly belittled her parenting and made out him and his new wife were the superior family. In any case, it sounds like she has a solution for at her house so there’s no issue really and it’s not relevant to what happens at your house.

Sorry OP, cross post with your reply!