Dsis should continue with house sale?

[supersop60]

Background. My BIL had a protracted affair about 7 years ago, and treated my dsis appallingly, including refusing to leave when she asked him. They are still in the same house, affair over but basically living separate lives. They have decided, finally to sell the house, done it up, estate agents chosen, photos done, ready to 'launch' June 5th.
10 days ago BIL had a stroke.
Dsis is tying herself in knots trying to decide what to do - what she is 'supposed' to do, where he's going to live etc.
Her DC, (33, 30 and 23)while wanting to support, are actually not helping.
I may have to drip feed if you have questions, sorry. I can't order my thoughts properly.
AIBU to tell dsis that she should continue with the house sale? They were on the point of properly separating and downsizing. I don't think she should be forced to stay with him and care for him in an expensive house.
He's 64, she's 58

Fantastic news. Was thinking about your sister before Christmas and hoping everything turned out ok.

Thank you all

Brilliant.

I think she should text the child who has taken it upon themselves to discharge him home and tell them they can look after him. Because she's not going to.

And sell the home.
Start the divorce proceedings.
The relationship is long dead; this is not her problem.

ah ... just seen your last post .... fabulous news! Delighted for her.

Well done her.

Good for her!

Fantastic news. I’m so pleased for you all

Great outcome.

I hope her new life starts now.

Well done for you for standing by, supporting and encouraging her for many many years.

That's such an uplifting conclusion! Well done to your dsis and great that you supported her 👏

@supersop60 I hope that your sister is happy in her new home and that her life continues to flourish. I also want to add that I think that you are a lovely sister. All the best to you both 💐💐

@supersop60

UPDATE - if anyone's interested. After many twists, turns and delays, my Dsis is in her new house and her (officially separated) H is in his. She did it. Remarkable fortitude and energy - she had to do everything, since her H, although much better, is not capable of dealing with solicitors, paperwork, money etc. She moved in yesterday, and I'm waiting for the reaction/breakdown/whatever. I'm so proud of her.

I'm not surprised that you're proud of her. I am too and I've never met her!

Well done on being a wonderful sister too.

You guys!

She should absolutely continue with the house sale. There’s nothing to be gained by remaining in a large house and, if the stroke was severe, a smaller property for him will be more manageable and practical.

@LadyRoughDiamond
Read the full thread or at least the OP's posts.
Grrrrrrrr

Apologies @SueblueNZ.

Now go and have a lie down.

Apology accepted.
Sorry about my grumpiness.

Good news

Fantastic!

Wow excellent news OP thanks for the update!

@IND1A

If the adult children are going to care for their father then they need to move back in to do so. Your sister can move out to give then the space for this.

Though I think you will find they suddenly won’t be so keen once she suggests this.

In the unlikely event that they all do want to this, she should get legal advice before agreeing of course, just in case if affects her matrimonial rights.

What? Why should she move out of her own house?

Fantastic! Go Dsis of @supersop60!

Great news! Congratulations to your DSis.

@HollowTalk

Maybe read the OPs updates?

Great conclusion, your sister has escaped what could have been a life sentence of living with a cheating dependant and watching her financial situation go down the drain. Hope she has a big bunch of daffodils on her new kitchen table giving light and hope for her future happiness.