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Are men greedy bastards food wise.

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justasking111 · 21/05/2021 13:24

OK I went to butchers bought OH 1lb dry cure bacon his favourite, myself streaky because I prefer that. Guess who finished the streaky I have only had two slices.

Bought some dark chocolate, I enjoy a couple of squares a day. Once I break into it, the rest vanishes.

I bought some chocolate biscuits again once I opened it and took two when I went back the whole packet had been hoovered up.

I buy goodies for granchildren, once they have had a couple of biscuits or a couple of scoops of of icecream the rest vanishes.

I know he pays for it, but do I really need to start hiding food as I did with my kids when they were small?

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iGetPipAndWork · 21/05/2021 18:56

Ugh. Ex used to even hoover up my expensive free from food leaving me nothing rather than go to the shop which was 200m away. Selfish greedy prick.

Iniyat · 21/05/2021 19:01

It’s not a man thing. My husband won’t eat the ‘nice’ stuff because he always thinks the kids or I would want it. I have told him countless times to just eat anything, don’t leave it for us but he still does.

sueelleker · 21/05/2021 19:02

@Aprilwasverywet

A few weeks ago with the weekly shop we got a chicken kebab type 'rack'.. Cost £3. Basically chicken on skewers (3)with spices.. I made homemade coleslaw and dh made home made chips.. He chose a steak that was £5.. He scoffed his as I put chicken with coleslaw in a pita.. He reached for 1 of my skewers and I said actually I was keeping it for my lunch the next day (would be home alone). He was very miffed!! Greedy git!!
I'd have stabbed him with the skewer!
MorrisZapp · 21/05/2021 19:08

Yes.

We've ironed it out over the years after a few absolute shockers but DP now knows not to eat my treats. I actually had to threaten him with the end of our relationship to make him see how unfair his greediness was.

TheLastLotus · 21/05/2021 19:58

@Charmtaste I’ve seen this behaviour in people trying to restrict themselves. They won’t buy ‘junk’ so that they won’t have it but as soon as someone else buys it they can’t resist! Talking, cajoling etc won’t help.

The only way to solve this is to either shame them or punish them severely...by making them eat more of the thing they ate until they’re sick of it. Or making them pay lots of money.

BillMasen · 21/05/2021 20:01

@Taikoo

Most men are greedy cunts. End of.
Well aren’t you a charmer
Davros · 21/05/2021 20:11

My DH is a greedy pig. I can feel him getting antsy if there's some treat grub around or just anything really. The worst is when he leaves the empty packets and I think there's something left, only to be crushed.

mayblossominapril · 21/05/2021 20:32

Mine eats huge dinners, he is not a huge man mainly meat but he acquires and cooks his own. The kids and I have to have some freefrom food and he never takes it or our treats. If something needs eating up I have to say please eat that. He will ask for leftovers such as the chicken skewer mentioned up thread but he will share his food as well.
He has a few other faults though Grin

reallyreallyborednow · 21/05/2021 20:40

With dh he often genuinely doesn’t realise.

Oh look a bar of chocolate/packet of crisps/ biscuits etc. I’ll have a couple.

There’s still some there, i’ll have a couple more. No one will notice.

Last one, might as well eat it.

Kids: dad! You’ve eaten all my chocolate.

Dh- no I haven’t, i only had a couple..

He really thinks he’s had a tiny bit and everyone else has eaten the rest.

Mind you his brother is obese, and in their house you have to get to the food first or it gets eaten, so I kind of understand. His parents enable, we were invited for dinner once at 5pm, duly arrived only to be told “leftovers are over there, brother got hungry so we’ve eaten”.

Macncheeseballs · 21/05/2021 20:42

My dh definitely loves his food but I can't get too worked up about, all food is up for grabs for anyone in our house

GroovyClementine · 21/05/2021 20:45

@justasking111

So both sexes can be greedy. But why wait until the packet is opened a couple of biscuits/squares of chocolate/scoop of icecream is removed before snaffling the rest.

It would not be so bad if he was not on a permanent low carb diet which means I need to buy lots of eggs/meat in for him to consume.

It's so they can claim, "I only ate the last little bit".

Everyone else is eating it, see, usually before "they get the chance". They don't not never hardly ever get none, doncha know, just the dregs, what with all the other greedy selfish bastards in this bloody house.

It basically allows them to be a greedy bastard and gaslight their greed away. Male or female, makes no difference.

Robotcustard · 21/05/2021 20:51

It infuriates me that my DH eats a week’s worth of snacks in one night (straight after the weekly shop) then tells me off for buying treats. If I don’t buy them he’ll eat the stuff I’ve bought for the kids lunchboxes 🙄
I know he’s an inconsiderate arse.

MysweetAudrina · 21/05/2021 21:41

Luckily we are all greedy bastards and all eat all the snacks so can't really point fingers at each other.

EmeraldShamrock · 21/05/2021 22:01

@Robotcustard He really is an inconsiderate greedy arse eating the DC's snacks, I'd be furious I'd bake brownies smothered in laxative. Grin
On a serious note it is very wrong.

susiebluebell · 21/05/2021 22:50

@justasking111 OP, are you the same person who was on here recently asking for advice about a DH who was supposedly on a low-carb diet but constantly buying himself carb junk food? Grin

This thread is giving me the rage, I have to log out soon. My partner can be greedy about sweets (whole packet of Mr Kipling of an evening) but he does offer me the packet before he starts!

WaterOffADucksCrack · 22/05/2021 09:25

I took 2 chocolate bars out the other week and told my husband (while halfway through mine) to open his because I couldn't guarantee it would still be there once he got to it. May I ask why you think that's ok? It strikes me as very selfish behaviour. If you seriously have no self control do you not think you should seek some sort of help for that?

Wanderlust20 · 22/05/2021 09:36

My DH is greedy but wouldn't say it's just a guy thing, no... Hmm His sister is the same, it's a lot to do with their upbringing.

Wanderlust20 · 22/05/2021 09:38

Greedy as in eats a lot and can't help himself but not to the point where I'm left without, just to clarify! Although I'm small and don't eat loads (he usually finishes my meals) so maybe we're a match made on heaven?!

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 22/05/2021 09:48

@WaterOffADucksCrack

I took 2 chocolate bars out the other week and told my husband (while halfway through mine) to open his because I couldn't guarantee it would still be there once he got to it. May I ask why you think that's ok? It strikes me as very selfish behaviour. If you seriously have no self control do you not think you should seek some sort of help for that?
-Because they were mine imported from a different country. -Because he didn't ask for one and I just took one out for him in case he wanted one so I didn't have to walk all the way back to the kitchen. -Because he will almost always say no thanks and ask for crisps instead. -Because there were 8 more of the same in the cupboard that he could have gone to fetch if he found the walk worthwhile, which would be unlikely for chocolate. -Because whenever we have crisps I have about a 5th at most of what he has because they're alright to me (like chocolate is to him) but he loves them so I let him have the lions share. -Because I've been with him for 15 years and I know he doesn't give a single flying fuck if he gets no chocolate like I don't give a single flying fuck if I don't get any of the crisps.

I'm not an asshole, unlike some...

MikeWozniaksGloriousTache · 22/05/2021 09:48

@pinkyredrose

He's got a strange idea of low carb food!
My thoughts too. Has to eat eggs and steak because he’s low carb but eats entire packs of hot cross buns and loafs of bread. He’s not on a diet, nor is this a “man thing” he’s a greedy pig.
wendywoopywoo222 · 22/05/2021 10:00

It's my step daughter who does that in our house so not specifically men.

GlutenFreeGingerCake · 22/05/2021 10:02

We all have our own snacks in my house because I am gluten free and my dd and DH both have their own favourites. Dd sometimes eats my plain rice cakes which she is weirdly keen on but otherwise it seems to work fine. I agree with a pp who said the binge-like "greedy" behaviour of OPs DH might be due to him trying to restrict a lot. When I have been on diets I found restrictive it led me to binge on treats if I came across them in the cupboard.

reallyreallyborednow · 22/05/2021 10:03

My thoughts too. Has to eat eggs and steak because he’s low carb but eats entire packs of hot cross buns and loafs of bread.
He’s not on a diet, nor is this a “man thing” he’s a greedy pig

Or has an eating disorder.

GlutenFreeGingerCake · 22/05/2021 10:05

Or has an eating disorder.
Yes I really feel I developed some disordered eating on very restrictive diets I have done in the past I think it can mess you up.

user1493494961 · 22/05/2021 10:13

I hide stuff now from DH, it stops me feeling 'the rage' when I fancy a biscuit or cake and he's eaten the lot. He's only greedy with cakes and biscuits though, he can keep a bar of chocolate for weeks, just eating one square at a time. (He knows I hide stuff to get my fair share, he thinks it's funny).

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