Are men greedy bastards food wise.

[justasking111]

OK I went to butchers bought OH 1lb dry cure bacon his favourite, myself streaky because I prefer that. Guess who finished the streaky I have only had two slices.

Bought some dark chocolate, I enjoy a couple of squares a day. Once I break into it, the rest vanishes.

I bought some chocolate biscuits again once I opened it and took two when I went back the whole packet had been hoovered up.

I buy goodies for granchildren, once they have had a couple of biscuits or a couple of scoops of of icecream the rest vanishes.

I know he pays for it, but do I really need to start hiding food as I did with my kids when they were small?

@justasking111

This week OH has bought a pack of hot cross buns which I hate so those are safe. Today he went to the bakery and bought himself an eccles cake and a loaf of bread. I will get some of the loaf I daresay.

I thought he was low carb?

My first husband was awful for eating anything and everything in the cupboard. When DD1 was a baby I'd regularly go to feed her breakfast only to find he'd eaten all of the weetabix, her rusks, the bread and even jars of baby porridge or fruit. He's also always, always without fail eat anything I bought as a treat for myself.

Mind you, he was also very careless with anything that belonged to DD or I, and it would all end up damaged or broken, then he'd blame me for being annoyed about something being ruined.

Vile man! I divorced him before DD was 18 months old.

Oh based in this thread I am actually a man and my DH is a woman.
I do feel bad but the temptation knowing its in the cupboard... It's just too much!

@Chanjer

OH once bought me a box of nice chocolates for my birthday, then ate them, then replaced them and ate them again, then replaced them and ate them again. I ended up with socks or something.This was all before my birthday actually happened and she had to travel into London to get them

I don't even like chocolate

That’s actually quite funny

I think it is something deeper in some men. My OH does this. He would never ask for dark chocolate, he would not buy dark chocolate but if I have any in the house he will eat it in a flash. I can’t keep any special food in the house, not even biscuits for guests.

What really irritated me is my friend loves Pepsi Max. We never have fizzy drinks in the house but I bought an 8 pack especially. My DH drank them all in two days. He then replaced them and drank them all again. When I ask him if he would like me to buy him Pepsi Max from now on he says no because it is junk. However, I know if I buy more for my friend he will drink it. It is so frustrating.

My DH isn't like this at all...he always leaves my snacks for me and always offers me the last of anything that's left

Even as children there was an innate justice to our division of snacks. Everything was divided equally between the three of us, and woe betide anyone who ate another sibling's Mars Bar. No need to hide anything (all treats kept in the treat cupboard) and we were all greedy fuckers so any lame argument that "Oh I didn't think you wanted it" would have been met with derision and disbelief.

If there were 4/8/10 of anything in a packet (or any number that couldn't be divided neatly by 3), the well-understood rule was that it should be offered first to our father (our mother did not believe in treats for adults at all and so never bought him any). If he rejected the treat, it was cut into three pieces using a sharp knife and the person cutting it was the last to choose their piece.

To this day, I don't understand anyone taking more than their fair share without asking. If there are 9 chocolate bars and 3 people in the house, each person has 'ownership' of 3 chocolate bars. If they want more than that, they need to ask the others to share theirs. There should be no need to hide anything.

Nope. My dp is adamant that a man that is not considerate and generous with food is also not considerate or generous in the bedroom. Who am I to argue?!!

If my DH ate all the food or treats etc knowing they were for sharing or DD's lunch etc, I would challenge him on it and call him out for being a selfish pig every time! It sounds as though partners are getting away with really selfish greedy behaviour and it's accepted.

One of my exes house-shared before we lived together and used to eat his housemates' food. One of them had returned from America with his fave snacks, and ex ate ALL of them. I could never imagine doing that!

I agree it’s not a gender thing. DH was absolutely awful about this when we started dating though. I’ve always been a slow eater, and he was the type to suggest getting a shared platter. On one of our first dates, I paid out over half the (expensive) meal and literally got in two bites. I have never seen anyone eat so much so quickly in my entire life! We didn’t share plates for the longest time because he didn’t realize he was doing it and eating fast enough to keep up made me feel sick. Now he’s reformed and will stop eating if he gets too far ahead of me, so we can share again. He also offers me and DS the good food in the house, and if he eats the last of something will first ask if it was intended for something special and buy more in himself. People can learn!

@optimistic40

One of my exes house-shared before we lived together and used to eat his housemates' food. One of them had returned from America with his fave snacks, and ex ate ALL of them. I could never imagine doing that!

Oh god no. It's not like you can just pop to Tescos and get more. What a douche!

Anecdotally I’ve seen more men than women do this. However it is 100% a greedy selfish bastard problem which isn’t an exclusively male characteristic.

Why can’t you ask him to buy his own? Or buy two of everything , one yours, one his

@justasking111 It sounds like you're saying "he bought the food" "I justify the food bill as it is already" You're in a controlling relationship with a greedy pig

@Jellybabiesforbreakfast exactly!
How someone can eat ALL of an entire packet of something in one serving and not even think about other people is beyond me...

At christmas time I hide stuff in spare room wardrobe, out of sight out of mind have always done this. Guess I will just have to hide anything I would like in there now.
Or you could talk to him? Tell him how you feel about the situation and explain that from now on he needs to X, Y, Z. If then he still acts like a self centred prick then he can fuck off. This is your one and only life, don’t share it with a dick head.

@Aprilwasverywet

A few weeks ago with the weekly shop we got a chicken kebab type 'rack'.. Cost £3. Basically chicken on skewers (3)with spices.. I made homemade coleslaw and dh made home made chips.. He chose a steak that was £5.. He scoffed his as I put chicken with coleslaw in a pita.. He reached for 1 of my skewers and I said actually I was keeping it for my lunch the next day (would be home alone). He was very miffed!! Greedy git!!

I can't believe that there are people who tot up the cost difference between what they eat and their DH!

I mean, if he's having fillet steak every night while you eat pot noodle, fair enough, but who takes note of the difference between £3 and £5?!

In response to rhe general thread question.... Eating all the treats in the house is greedy, but the average man needs to consume a lot more calories than the average woman, so their meals should be a fair bit bigger. (That's not an excuse for eating all the biscuits and chocolate, but does excuse them having extra sausages at the dinner table imo).

Mine is the opposite, he’ll ask before having the last biscuit even if he knows it’s not the kind I like. He’ll come home and bring snacks for me. I don’t think it’s a man thing, I think it’s a thoughtless and unkind thing.

I hide food because I would quite like a handful of peanuts with a glass of wine at the weekend, a few crisps with a sandwich and a biscuit with my coffee.

If I don't it's eaten by DH in “just a handful as I walk by” and I refuse to buy extra just to make up for what has been mindlessly scoffed.

My ex was the same, I soon learned never to eat a “sharing” bag of crisps with him as I would get about 2 crisps because I like to savour my food and not treat it as something that's got to be finished in milliseconds.

@SempreSuiGeneris

Begrudging the food bill while eating it all himself is a whole different issue. Different order of greed and inability to share. No idea why anyone puts up with this sort of behaviour. If he's going to be controlling he should do the shopping. People who rarely enter the supermarket quite quickly lose perspective on how much a weekly food shop costs.

Totally agree.

You have to justify your food shopping spend?! Jesus.

It depends how they were brought up, DP wouldn't help himself without asking.
I'd help myself to his sweets but never the last one.
He is greedy with food portions if splitting a meal I'm greedy with treats.

If one member of the household consistently eats the vast majority of the 'treat' food before anyone else gets a chance, doesn't offer it and doesn't check if anyone else fancies some, they're effectively saying 'fuck you, I'm taking it all because I'm more important and what I want matters more than sharing'.

Have you pointed that out to your DH, OP?

He's got a strange idea of low carb food!

Never met a man like that OP.

@CatPurple

These posts always make me sad. I don’t know why people put up selfish, inconsiderate partners.

How is it an attractive quality?

And then people laugh it off like “ho ho what’s he like! 🤷🏼‍♀️🥰👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨🍫”
No, fuck off.

I completely agree.

I once ate a yoghurt that had been in the fridge for a few days that I thought was up for grabs, and hadn't realised my OH had been saving as a treat for Friday evening.

The look of genuine sadness on his face as he said 'no, it doesn't matter' broke my heart, and I have never eaten any 'treats' without asking since, as does he.

He's a very considerate person. Me, less so, but I try.