Unfair sibling inheritance?

[Sooperdooper19]

I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. 3 of us are married and work although none of us are high earners, own small cheap houses and rarely holiday abroad etc. One sister had been on benefits for many years due to MH issues and now also has mobility issues. She lives in an HA flat.

Then there is my youngest sister who is mid 40s. She has never left home and has only worked part time in a minimum wage job for many years. No idea why she doesn’t work full time but that’s her business. She has no medical issues preventing full time work btw.

My mum is very unwell and likely to live only a few months and my dad passed with COVID last year. I have recently found out that myself and my younger sister are executors for their will and have also discovered that my sister is able to remain in my parents house for 15 years after the death of my mum at which time, the house can be sold and split 5 ways. As future beneficiaries, the 4 other siblings are expected to assist in keeping the property in good order during the 15 year period.

I don’t mind as I have what I want and don’t have or want an expensive lifestyle. However, 2 of my other siblings are really not happy that the house can’t be sold within say a year (as they believe that is plenty of time to give my living at home sister chance to sort out alternative accommodation). They feel like she is being rewarded for being lazy and not making her own independent life.

I should point out she refuses to do any care for my mum apart from cooking her meals when she makes her own. Everything else is dealt with by carers.

My mum doesn’t have capacity now to change her will. My siblings wish to contest the will legally when mum dies and expect me to want to do the same. Although I agree to a certain extent and agree my sister is a lazy freeloader, it feels wrong to go against my parents wishes.

So AIBU to help contest the will when I’m not morally convinced it is the right thing to do?

@flaminjo

Have you ever thought that there is an underlying issue with the sister who lives at home? She's in her 4s, never had a full time job, never left home?

Surely it's more than laziness?

There's a reason your mum has protected her all these years and why she wants her protected after her death? Can you find out?

I wonder this too? I can't imagine a mum putting the rest of the children in such a position for not reason other than the fact she currently lives there

You do not have to go against your parents wishes..You can simply contact Probate .gov UK pay possibly a small solicitors fee and request to be removed as Executor reason You haven't time etc to take this on. If no money or other assets in the Estate. If the house is not worth much do you need to wait 15 years to start the process of selling it..I have the same with a brother who has worked for 6 weeks in 30 years, He sneaked and got death certificate and transferred my mums monies into his own bank account..He went round telling everyone he was the Executor of the Will..No will found surprise, surprise he hid himself away and changed the locks on my mums house it was decided he would look at paperwork and I as the eldest of 4 would start with the funeral service, he arranged it all and txt me a week before and told me date and the celebrant was visiting him then would give us all a quick ring to add a few lines as a plus one. I found out he had self appointed himself as Executor he wasn't happy to say the least when I put in a Caveat at probate to stop him being allowed..I now have just one brother and sister he is planning on living in my mums house rent free well sadly he's not going to benefit in her death as he did in her life. I will make sure he doesn't receive the cost of a stamp..When there is £££ signs around it shows some people's integrity.

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