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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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Bahhhhhumbug · 19/05/2021 01:34

New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.

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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.

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Winkywonkydonkey · 19/05/2021 06:35

Other pointless things you could do to dissuade burglars:

  • ice on the outside steps
  • broken christmas baubles on the floor
  • manikins rigged up to dance around on a small train track
  • sit inside and pretend to be a voice off an old gangster film
HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 19/05/2021 06:38

Turn it off and see what happens.

HavelockVetinari · 19/05/2021 06:40

She can obviously hear it otherwise she wouldn't have complained. Don't be that neighbour, turn it off. Some people have better hearing than others, so it might be loud to her whilst she's in bed trying to sleep.

As a PP said, noise travels strangely in houses, so whilst you might not be able to hear it from the front or the other neighbour's side it is probably louder than you realise to your poor neighbour.

Apologise and turn it off.

tulippa · 19/05/2021 06:40

I don't think your neighbour is being unreasonable to expect an empty house to be silent.

Intermittent but frequent low level noise is far more irritating than the normal noise of day to day living.

Getafuckinggripman · 19/05/2021 06:41

I can't believe anyone is on your side here. People like you irritate the fuck out of me. TURN THE FUCKING NOISE OFF!!!!!!!!!

HannaHat · 19/05/2021 06:41

Winkywonkydonkey

😂

Chunkymenrock · 19/05/2021 06:42

Turn the stupid radio off. She's being OTT for sure but I couldn't be bothered with all this shit for something that takes 1 second to cure.

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 19/05/2021 06:43

I am currently renovating a terraced house that I will be moving into this summer. It has been empty now since December, it would never occur to me to leave a radio on. The walls are thin, I can hear the kids next door shouting when I am there so for sure they would hear a radio. I do not want to piss them off before I have even lived there.

Turn the bloody radio off!

unwuthering · 19/05/2021 06:44

If l was a rude person

I hate to break it to you... but you are a rude person! Leaving a radio on for that length of time, and responding as if the neighbour is being unreasonable to politely request some peace from it... both rude and inconsiderate.

Rillington · 19/05/2021 06:44

How annoying to leave a radio on. It's unnecessary in an empty house.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 19/05/2021 06:45

YABU. The radio is utterly pointless. She's heard it to ask you about it, so it's clearly audible from her home. Maybe her hearing is better than yours, I suspect in reality it is louder than you are letting on.

Burglars aren't stupid. Why would they break into an empty house? Most house burglaries these days are of large homes targeted for expensive electronics or car keys. Terraced homes arent usually targeted unless occupied by families from the Indian sub continent who are more likely to keep high quality gold jewellry in the house.

Presumably if its unoccupied there arent any phones or iPads or jewellry lying around?

Normal speech doesnt actually run continuously for hours and hours a day. The radio would piss me off too. Turn it off.

isitjustlockdown · 19/05/2021 06:45

The neighbour probably doesn't expect silence, just not to have 8 hours of pointless noise day after day.

It's totally pointless so turn it off. It is not going to deter a burglar. There are much better devices out there to do that which won't impact on neighbours.

If the area is as bad as you make out then board/shield the windows.

Even with a built in kitchen, the rest of the house being empty will have an affect on the acoustics.

SadieCow · 19/05/2021 06:47

Just turn it off, simple!

All this she can't hear it, she can!

DeltaFlyer · 19/05/2021 06:47

Yabu!
As pp point out it's pointless if you can't hear it outside the property.
They break in and then they hear voices, even if they leave then they've still caused damage to the house. Though surely they'll work it out that it's just the radio anyway and might still enter.
Do have the lights on a timer, maybe get some of the tv flicker lights.

User135792468 · 19/05/2021 06:47

Turn off the radio. It serves no purpose at all.

TableFlowerss · 19/05/2021 06:47

What’s the actual point in having a radio non in an empty house anyway? Is it supposed to deter burglars? Surely they wouldn’t be able to hear the radio upon deciding whether to rob a property so it’s pointless? If they can hear it then it’s too loud.

Your neighbour does seem like a pain in the arse.

reesewithoutaspoon · 19/05/2021 06:49

Nobody mentioning the fact that op has clearly copied an email for this post?

Yeah NowtSoQueerAsFolk I noticed that too.

HannaHat · 19/05/2021 06:51

Starting a thread on here will ask for the subject, it’s not necessarily an email copy and paste.

AlmostSummer21 · 19/05/2021 06:51

Turn the bloody thing off!

If your house was occupied the cupboards would have stuff in them blocking/absorbing some of the noise.

People living in a house is one thing, a radio playing to itself is quite another.

She's living there, you are not. Stop behaving like a dick.

A radio playing isn't going to stop a burglary, they'll rob the house when actual people are in it.

Just ask her to keep an eye on the place & call the police if she hears anything.

FMD I'd break in to turn the fucking thing off if you didn't!!

PersonaNonGarter · 19/05/2021 06:51

Honestly, OP, you sounds so entitled.

She’s called you to tell you she can hear it and it’s bothering her. Why are you fighting this fact?

And as for ‘pulling up’ the previous neighbour... Hmm

Skyla2005 · 19/05/2021 06:51

Block her number and carry on. Your doing nothing wrong v can't stand people who literally listen for noise. They havnt got enough to do.

GreenWasabi · 19/05/2021 06:52

If I were her and you didn't turn it off, I would be turning a blind eye if you were broken into.
You taking offence at her using a shortened version of your name says a lot tbh

Tulipomania · 19/05/2021 06:53

It sounds extremely annoying, and you are prioritising your own needs against your neighbour's.

I work from home - as do many people during the pandemic- and it would drive me mad.

You can find a less intrusive way of achieving the same objective. How about fitting CCTV?

AlmostSummer21 · 19/05/2021 06:53

@reesewithoutaspoon

Nobody mentioning the fact that op has clearly copied an email for this post?

Yeah NowtSoQueerAsFolk I noticed that too.

People sometime compose a long post in a more user friendly format, then C&P.

MN is eating some long posts at the moment, Just as I'm about to post them, I might start doing that too.

PreferToSitInTheShade · 19/05/2021 06:53

Previous neighbours were lying in bed next door though every night and weren't backward in coming forwards if there was a problem as lve said

Maybe their hearing was shot. Some people have better hearing than others. And if, as you say, you can't hear it until you're 3 doors in , what's the point of having it on!? Turn the bloody thing off. You're being a nuisance just because you can.