Identifying a pedophile to his neighbours

[Bipitybopityboop]

If you found out, through work, that a pedophile was going to live on a certain street near you.
Would you anonymously let the neighbourhood know?

Would you want to know?

This could not be traced back to one individual.

@RoseRedRoseBlue

This comes up time and time again. Why don’t people let the trained, qualified and experienced authorities manage the situation and stop trying to be the hero?

Probably because they don’t want their kids to be abused? I’d say something, I couldn’t face something happening to a child in the area, if I could have given a heads up and prevented that kid being near him. I don’t trust the professionals, sorry, too many instances of things happening while these people are being ‘monitored’.

Let’s just leave it there then !

@LouiseBelchersBunnyEars as had been mentioned on here several times already, you up the odds of it going wrong by outing people.

@MrsOrMiss I don't know what you are struggling to understand.

I laid out the different meanings of three specific terms used to describe people, and you posted in response that it waw "utter crap". I came back with just one example of why specific words/definitions matter. The terms "child sex offender" (or abuser) and "convicted child sex offender" mean two different things. You can be one without being the other. This matters, including to survivors.

The other point I have made repeatedly, which is that paedophile and child sex offender do not mean the same thing, they are not even the same class of thing, is not "utter crap", it is just factual. Again, you can be one of these without being the other, either way round.

@theDudesmummy honestly, it’s exhausting.

@RoseRedRoseBlue

Let’s just leave it there then !

Well before you do, I would like to point out, I wasn't making it personal by saying your attitude was shit, that's just a fact that your attitude and the way you have responded to many people that disagree with you is shit. A superior attitude is never good to have, especially if your end goal is to make people see the reasonable side of your argument. All you are doing is getting peoples backs up and pissing them off.

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]@theDudesmummy honestly, it’s exhausting.[/quote]
Point proven again

@RoseRedRoseBlue

Interesting that some posters have suddenly become experts in risk management, yet are unable to come up with any cogent solution to dealing with the issues raised.

Probably because it is an incredibly emotive topic, with no single effective solution to preventing child abuse. If we consider that reoffending rates are relatively high, it seems that even the relevant authorities have not come up with a great strategy to dealing with these issues.

What would be your solution? Do you think the current policies are working well?

There's a difference between having a "shit attitude"/ "being superior/arrogant" and trying to explain something that you know a great deal about to people who happen to have different views to yours (which is fine) but base some of their views on incorrect assumptions.

It's interesting how I am the only one who's linked to something practical that parents can actually do to make their children safer. (again in case anyone missed it last time) www.goodreads.com/book/show/92443.Protecting_the_Gift

The so say 'professionals' are just busy saying that people shouldn't share freely available information such as news articles about convicted paedophiles. Claiming superior knowledge that parents are so dim that if they know about one child abuser, they'll ignore all other dangers, and claiming we should all 'leave it to the authorities' who let's not forget have done SOOO well with Savile and grooming gangs.....

Come on, if you don't want us to share info about convicts what SHOULD we do instead and how can we assure children it's the right thing to tell if something's made them uncomfortable if we - as parents - are not allowed to tell other parents when a piece of verifiable information such as a conviction makes US uncomfortable?

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion why do you keep bashing on at me? It’s actually become quite funny. You keep quoting me and just won’t let it go! theDudesmummy pointed out pages ago that you were attacking her and I, yet here you still are, getting all puffed up in your own indignation.

The terms "child sex offender" (or abuser) and "convicted child sex offender" mean two different things. You can be one without being the other. This matters, including to survivors.

In this instance the person has been convicted, so what's your point?

I would want to know.

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]**@Iminaglasscaseofemotion* why do you keep bashing on at me? It’s actually become quite funny. You keep quoting me and just won’t let it go! theDudesmummy* pointed out pages ago that you were attacking her and I, yet here you still are, getting all puffed up in your own indignation.[/quote]
I'm the one getting "puffed up" 🤣. That poster didn't point that out, you did , and it wasn't actually true, but carry on.
It amazes me that you think you can pick up on as many of my posts as you like and then expect me to stop responding to you just because you say so. Is that how this works?

@theDudesmummy

There's a difference between having a "shit attitude"/ "being superior/arrogant" and trying to explain something that you know a great deal about to people who happen to have different views to yours (which is fine) but base some of their views on incorrect assumptions.

Can you explain what my incorrect assumptions have been?

@mrstt89 I am so glad you were able to come on and give a survivior's voice here. That is really helpful, thank you. Not all survivors would agree, because they, like everyone else, are all different. But I know many who would say what you have just said.

Also RoseRedRoseBlue does have a superior attitude no matter how much they know about this subject.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion you have made your dislike of me clear, told me I am superior, told me my attitude is shit and told that I am pissing people off. I have suggested we leave it there, without levelling similar comments at you, but you carry on pecking at me. I will not be engaging with you any further.

No I'm not, that was a post to *
theDudesmummy*

I think it was the laughing emojis at a non-specialist quoting Emma Kenny and the "exhausting" comments that have come across condescending. As an educated and professional person you must be able to understand why the wider public have such a black and white view of paedophiles/child molesters/sex offenders/child murderers... it's very scary for the population at large to have to protect vulnerable, trusting, innocent children from a hidden enemy? disclaimer I still do not endorse paedophile hunters, vigilantes etc I just wish the abusers didn't exist.

This happened close to where my sister lives

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-47244837.amp

Interesting how you have picked up on that, but not the fact that I have been labelled “part of the problem” and a paedophile sympathiser.

So take all this time and energy to keep an eye on the men you know- the real risk to your children- instead of being distracted.

If a leopard from the local zoo escaped into the woodland behind our house I could keep an eye out for it and keep my children a bit closer, whilst still keeping a tight eye on the interaction between my children and our reasonably tolerant (though her fallibility has never been really severely tested and I make sure that it doesn't) cocker spaniel in the house. It's possible to do mental risk assessments for both.