Whose fault is this? (Things going missing edition) CORRECTED

[OscarGotTheBlame]

Who is being unreasonable here? I'll try to keep it short and neutral.

Pair of trousers left on the bedroom floor with receipts in the back pocket. Four weeks or so later, those trousers turn up cleaned on the clothes airer without the receipts. Noone knows where receipts have gone so assumed that the cleaner must have emptied the pockets and thrown them away (very unlike her, but only real explanation).

Washing is usually Partner 1's household job (as agreed between Partner 1 and Partner 2 as a trade of chores) but cleaner has started to throw in a load or two when she's here too.

Who is responsible for the missing receipts (excluding the poor cleaner!)?

Partner 2 (for leaving trousers and receipts in the floor in their own home) or Partner 1 (because laundry is Partner 1's job and therefore they are responsible when something like this happens since their delegating part of it to someone else)?

YES: Partner 1 (laundry delegator) is at fault

NO: Partner 2 (trouser leaver is at fault)

As said on the other thread, the person to whom the trousers belong.

Partner 2 - what adult leaves their clothes on the floor

The person who left them on the floor.

I always go with the owner of the trousers being at fault in this scenario. It's their receipt / £20 note or whatever. The only slight issue is the trousers were on the floor, not the laundry basket so arguably they weren't meant to be washed?

I agree with PPs, the owner of the trousers is at fault.
If the person whose job it is to wash all the clothes has to doggedly go through every single pocket, that would add a lot of work and time. They might then decide they didn’t want that job anymore!

The wearer should empty their pockets.

Partner 2. Even my children know that if you want something kept safe you don't leave it in the pockets of stuff going in the wash. Nor do you leave it on the floor.

If partner 2 wants the receipts keeping safe it is their responsibility to put them somewhere safe.

I am the washer of laundry in my house, but I don't wash anything that isn't in the washing basket. It is the fault of whatever lazy bugger left their trousers on the floor for someone else to sort out.

Your voting doesn’t make sense, so I haven’t. But it’s the person who the trousers belong to.

Your husband is a lazy messy git! 😉
Now he's cross with you because the receipts are missing. Why had he left his jeans out for so long?!

Whoever left the receipt in the pocket.

I also hope you don’t expect your cleaner to pick up dirtu clothes from the floor. Cleaners are there to clean, not tidy random crap left everywhere.

It's too early to figure out your voting system OP! Does YES = yabu =partner 1 is at fault? and NO = yanbu = partner 2 is at fault?
I would vote for partner 2 being in the wrong if I could figure out what you meant

They were on the floor for 4 weeks??

Leaving important receipts in a trouser pocket is clearly not a responsible method of filing, particularly when said trousers are then dumped on the floor. Clearly the trouser leaver is doubly at fault, firstly for the receipts being lost and secondly for trying to blame someone else!

Who is responsible for the missing receipts

The person who didn't put them away somewhere safe. This isn't an issue of washing.

The voting options are YANBU and YABU, not ‘yes’ and ‘no’

Anyway, the trouser leaver is at fault. Why leave something important dumped on the floor like rubbish?

And don’t go blaming the poor cleaner without proof!

Your voting request doesn’t correspond to the options available so I haven’t, but as most people have said - it’s the the trouser wearers fault.

Also maybe’ trouser wearer’ should get a wallet or a filing system or depending on whether they needed the receipts to return items or to do accounts with just think of a different system that doesn’t involve blaming anyone but themselves if they are that disorganised/lazy! (& taking a photo on your phone of all receipts as they happen can help for keeping accounts as the paper copy is not necessary if you have a digital one - returns not so much, that’s their own stupid fault!).

Wasn’t sure about the voting, so haven’t, but it’s clear partner two/trouser leaver, is at fault here. I assume it’s a He, and it’s His own bloody fault if the receipts are lost…! He should put important receipts somewhere safe - oh, and not leave his clothes on the floor, is he 12?

Well, no-one. Something unfortunate happened, unforeseen. The trouser-leaver might be a little more careful in future, and one of you should probably have a kind word with your cleaner, but why waste energy assigning blame here?

I'm the untidy floordrobe type person in my house. I would accept responsibility 🤷🏽‍♀️

DH is laundry person he tries to remember to check all pockets but it's down to the owner of the clothes ultimately.

Although DH doesn't go around picking up other people's clothes off the floor. If it's not in the basket it doesn't get washed.

I would say that it's very highly unlikely that if the cleaner emptied the pockets they would have disposed of them. More likely they would have brought them to your attention. Silly place to keep receipts as they can easily be lost if you pull out a tissue or anything else.

Leaving dirty trousers on the floor for four weeks is grim. Adults should be picking up their own clothes and emptying pockets. My children have always done it. If the receipts were that important, they should be treated as such and not left on the floor with said dirty trousers.

Sounds like someone is blaming mummy rather than sorting their own shit out.

If the receipts were needed (expenses claim?) It's the owners responsibility to make sure they are kept safe. It isn't hard...

Whoever left the receipts in the pocket is at fault.

How did the trousers get left on the floor for 4 weeks though? Is it generally assumed that Laundry Partner will scavenge for laundry around the house? (I do this if I see laundry or need extra to make up a load but not as a matter of course)

Partner 2 is at fault.