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Pet Hate - what makes you Cringe?

661 replies

marton4710 · 16/05/2021 20:37

For me it is the habit of drinking out of bottles. Everywhere you go people are swigging out of bottles. Had a bank appointment and even Manager was drinking out of a bottle. Agh I must be getting old. Give me a glass any time.

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thepeopleversuswork · 25/05/2021 10:41

Another vote for "baby" without a definite or indefinite article. Why?

Sooo naff.

MrsJBaptiste · 25/05/2021 11:44

People on here saying "I mean this gently" or "I told them gently that..." really pisses me off. I bloody hate the word 'gently' so bloody twee and shit.

halfathreepence · 25/05/2021 12:11

I keep thinking the slider comments are about the tiny burgers and not the shoes. Couldn't work out why tiny burgers would cause so much anger!

I hate it when people describe things as twee.

ChicFennel · 25/05/2021 12:22

"It's a British thing", "only in the UK"...

for things that are usually bog standard or normal in every Western Country (at least).

Anyone coming up with these is trying to look superior and well-travelled, but end up being so cringey. There are enough "non-UK" posters on here to know and call you out.

Sirius99 · 25/05/2021 12:28

Footballers taking the knee and the constant droning on that if you happen to be White you must be privileged and or a racist

Butterflyfox · 25/05/2021 12:37

@Sirius99. I cannot let that post go past without challenge. I do not want to derail a lighthearted thread. Of course all white people are not racist. But to deny there is no privilege attached is naive

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 12:42

@Butterflyfox well said

Sirius99 · 25/05/2021 12:48

Butterflyfox , There are many more white people that will not of had any kind of privilege because of the colour of their skin than has, And there will be non white people that the colour of their skin has benefited them over white people

ChicFennel · 25/05/2021 12:54

@Sirius99

Footballers taking the knee and the constant droning on that if you happen to be White you must be privileged and or a racist
absolutely!

If nothing else, these people do not have access to places or environment where their white skin would be a privilege for a start.

It's not as simple as pretending that being white is a privilege worldwide.

IntermittentParps · 25/05/2021 13:52

Footballers taking the knee
Why shouldn't they?

the constant droning on that if you happen to be White you must be privileged and or a racist I'm not aware of 'constant droning on' about this subject. There seems to be a rise in awareness of white privilege – which does exist even if not universally – which is only to be welcomed.
As for the idea that anyone is droning on about white people by definition being racist, I've genuinely never read or heard this.

Sirius99 · 25/05/2021 15:17

IntermittentParps

Why should they ? All of them are playing at that level because of their ability, not the colour of their skin,
There was and still is plenty of droning on about white privilege, There’s plenty of white people that are underprivileged due to where you are born, the wealth of your family, opportunities in your life, Education or lack of it, rule models in your life, it’s not just down to the colour of your skin

IntermittentParps · 25/05/2021 15:29

Why should they ? All of them are playing at that level because of their ability, not the colour of their skin
Does someone have to be at a certain level of privilege to express socio-political convictions?

There’s plenty of white people that are underprivileged due to where you are born, the wealth of your family, opportunities in your life, Education or lack of it, rule models in your life, it’s not just down to the colour of your skin
Couldn't agree more, all these things are factors. There is actually a lot of public discussion about the white working class being looked down on/ignored.
It is intersectional, however; if you are disadvantaged due to where you are born/family wealth/opportunities/education or lack of it/role models AND you happen to be black too, you are likely to be even more disadvantaged than a white person. And add another layer if you're a woman too.

Sirius99 · 25/05/2021 15:40

IntermittentParps
Why if your black or women would you be even more disadvantaged, than a white person in the same position? Unless you just want to blame your sex or colour of your skin .
There are certain situations in life where someone will be picked on the colour of their skin or gender, to fit but it works both ways

IntermittentParps · 25/05/2021 15:51

It's not about blame. Google 'intersectionality'.

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 15:55

@IntermittentParps exactly, it’s not just about money, education, how you are raised etc. It’s the fact that somebody white does not have to think about how the colour of their skin affects their day to day life on top of all the other things they have going on. And yes you can say the same about men and women too.

Take two people- same age, same gender, from the same place, same amount of money in the family, went to same school etc. One is black and one is white. The one who is white does not have to worry every day about being treated differently due to the colour of their skin. That’s what we mean by white privilege. Not that white people can’t be poor, or looked down on or disadvantaged for any reason. They can, but it isn’t because they are white.

And even if a white person has ever felt targeted because they are white, the threat of this happening repeatedly is so small they don’t need to live in fear of it their whole lives. They don’t see their friends and family members of the same skin colour exposed to racism constantly throughout their lives.

A man and a woman both walk alone at night. Both have a risk of being attacked, or sexually assaulted. But the risk of this happening to the man, although it does happen, is so low that he isn’t afraid. He won’t think twice about walking home alone. He has that privilege because he is male. I know we are talking about race not gender but it’s another way to highlight what we mean when we say ‘privilege’.

I really hope what I’ve just said hasnt accidentally come out wrong or offensive to anyone as it’s a sensitive subject, and I am white so I really don’t want to put words in the mouths of POC. I’m just trying to show that as a white person I am aware of white privilege.

IntermittentParps · 25/05/2021 15:57

bleachblondemom, no, I think you're right, and the analogy of a man and a woman walking alone at night is a good one.

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 16:07

I know that I’m being very general here and anyone in the world has the risk of being abused/treated differently due to race, gender, sexuality etc. But if you are a white, straight, man, the risk of all of these things plummets. The risk is still there, because sadly that’s the world we live in, but it’s low enough that you don’t worry about it every day, or even think about it.
Im a woman who works in a male-heavy environment. When I go into a meeting, there’s always that small worry in the back of my mind that I’m not going to be taken seriously because I’m a woman. I don’t think any of the men in that room are feeling the same way. That’s their privilege.
I’m heterosexual, so I don’t worry that somebody’s going to follow me and beat me up if they see me kiss my husband in public. That’s my privilege. Nothing to do with my job, my upbringing, how much money I make.

Anyway I’m sorry to go on when this isn’t what this thread is about. I just feel that people really need to recognise what is meant by privilege. Whether it’s due to skin colour, gender, sexual orientation, anything.

Rosewood017 · 25/05/2021 16:20

Status updates that end with 'be kind' like they are teaching 5 year olds to share toys.

Normally preached by unkind attention wh*s who don't want to be called out on it.

ChicFennel · 25/05/2021 16:25

I’m heterosexual, so I don’t worry that somebody’s going to follow me and beat me up if they see me kiss my husband in public

only because you are lucky enough to be in a Western Country. That's the point.

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 16:26

@ChicFennel it’s really not but if that is all you can focus on then there’s really no point in trying to explain further

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 16:29

Right, I might have to worry about kissing my husband in public in countries in the world where PDA is frowned upon regardless of gender. Ok, that is true. But a gay man kissing his husband in public has that risk in every single country in the world because every single country in the world contains people that have negative views on homosexuality who may see them and become abusive. So again, privilege.

douliket · 25/05/2021 16:36

In a big company,people who only have time to associate them self with people
in the higher positions. No matter,what the personality type or no matter who these people are,if they have letters after their name then they will fall about them, laugh at their stupid jokes and agree with everything they say. And on the other hand then,they will ignore others, who could be the nicest,kindest,funniest person in the company but maybe they are a cleaner/canteen worker etc..not that these are lower jobs but they are just not worthy in the eyes of some..disgusting

halfathreepence · 25/05/2021 17:10

Status updates that end with 'be kind'

Yes, and just the "be kind" movement in general.

Usually used by people who don't want to be criticised for anything or be held accountable for their words or actions.

ChicFennel · 25/05/2021 17:25

[quote bleachblondemom]@ChicFennel it’s really not but if that is all you can focus on then there’s really no point in trying to explain further[/quote]
it's exactly the same when you are talking about white privilege actually. Sorry if you are not getting it.

bleachblondemom · 25/05/2021 17:33

@ChicFennel you’re either not understanding what I’m saying at all or you are choosing not to listen so just forget it. I really can’t make it any clearer than I already have.

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