AIBU to want to talk to my 10 year old daughter about hair removal?

[MaryST7]

I only noticed yesterday that my 10 year old has now got underarm hair - it's darkish, so quite noticeable. I am planning to chat to her and ask what she thinks. If she isn't bothered by it I will happily leave it at that for now, fingers crossed. But if she's not, then I don't want to get this wrong....so would really like to hear from anyone who has gone through this stage recently. If she's unsure, I should probably try and persuade her it's best to leave it be, at least for now. But if she does want to get rid, what do people recommend based on experience? TIA.

@Boredoutmymind - The thrust of the thread has acknowledged that there are choices.

Nobody needs to. The OP has demonstrated that she wants to present both sides of the coin.

I would. But I wouldn’t make a big deal of it.
When I started growing hair I was mortified and couldn’t talk to my mum about it. She was never the “grooming” type, never shaved anything, so I wasn’t aware that it his was an option so I had to hide it as much as I could.

Kids can be cruel... I would just make her aware that a lot of people choose to remove it but it’s up to her.

@Boredoutmymind

girls and women don't need to remove body hair.

Off topic a bit but I remember going abroad in the 70s and being amazed at women in Europe not removing body hair. They probably do now.

I saw an old photo of Sofia Loren with hair under her arms. It looked sexy as hell tbh,

(And yes I know hair removal is a choice but just thought it’s interesting how attitudes change)

@Boredoutmymind - you are right, there is no need to do. it

But plenty like to do it and it is a choice as pointed out here several times.

I am a very mixed shaver. I do it regularly in Summer as I definitely feel it reduces body odour and I sweat a lot (truns in the family and being near menopause). I also find that despite showering in the morning DD stinks when she comes home in Summer wearing polycotton uniform and it is worse when she didn't shave.