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To not want husband to play pool due to variant

104 replies

LoadingChoc · 15/05/2021 21:06

My husband is 51 and is vaccinated fully but has heart disease. He is going to play pool without a few times a week due to easing of restrictions. Ther will probably be 15 in the venue. Aibu to be angry that he is going because the variant from india can infect those fully vaccinated?

OP posts:
AuntieMarys · 16/05/2021 07:46

A few years!!! 😀😀😀
Dear God. Heard it all now.

MrsGradyOldLady · 16/05/2021 07:52

@JSL52

Totally missing the point but ... of course wearing a mask doesn't make it difficult to play pool. YABU.
It will affect his peripheral vision. I play darts and I'm not as accurate with a mask.
Shoxfordian · 16/05/2021 07:58

Yabu
He can make his own decisions about how risky he thinks it is. Plus it’s legal and he’s vaccinated

DeadButDelicious · 16/05/2021 08:24

You guys are probably right. I just think that a few more years of being extra cautious is a small price to pay.

There comes a point where it's no longer living. It's just existing. A lot of people seem to have lost sight of that.

COVID is not going away anytime soon. It's not. We have got to learn to live alongside it, assess our level of risk and protect ourselves accordingly, with masks, hand washing and the vaccine. Expecting people to put their lives on indefinite hold is very unreasonable.

Cam2020 · 16/05/2021 09:25

Fully vaccinated people can still catch any varient - the vaccine lowers transmission rates and redyces symptoms. This virus is going nowhere. Its not rates, but the hispital admissions and deaths we should be looking at.

DenisetheMenace · 16/05/2021 09:27

Read The Times this morning, it will reassure you.
Your husband is amongst the most highly protected people in the world.

Lonecatwithkitten · 16/05/2021 09:31

Early evidence in Bolton shows that those who are full vaccinated are protected from serious disease just as they are with other variants.
Not wear a mask to play pool as it's uncomfortable, so I wear a mask all day everyday crawling under dogs, leaning over tables to hold cats. I do it to protect my colleagues.

VeganCheeseandWine · 16/05/2021 09:35

Three years ago I spent a lovely Christmas with my family. It was very special because unbeknownst to us it was our last with my little sister as she died three months later. My point here is that people do die of other things than covid and we can't keep missing time with loved ones.
Life has to go on. We can't keep locking down forever. If he's been vaccinated then he's got the already maximum protection and I'm sure he won't be running around licking the pool queues.

Imnothereforthedrama · 16/05/2021 09:38

A few more years , you think staying home for a few years is a small price to pay ? ( shakes head is disbelief) no words

anon12345678901 · 16/05/2021 09:39

Do some people honestly think things should continue as they are for a few more years?! That's absolutely ridiculous. You wouldn't have a life to enjoy by that point.

BoomChicka · 16/05/2021 09:41

Is this a reverse? Hmm

IEat · 16/05/2021 09:43

We can’t stay locked indoors forever

DelBocaVista · 16/05/2021 09:55

You guys are probably right. I just think that a few more years of being extra cautious is a small price to pay.

A few more years!!!!! Bloody hell. Don't be ridiculous.

The impact on people's mental health would be catastrophic not to on mention businesses and and the economy.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 16/05/2021 10:02

Oh come on OP is having us on, a few more YEARS?! that’s ridiculous and is just thrown into wind people up.

IF that was a genuine comment, if I was married to you OP I’d consider moving into the bloody pool hall to get away from such controlling, ridiculous and pathetic notions about what I could/couldn’t do with my free time.

Flowerlane · 16/05/2021 10:06

A few more years?Hmm this has got to be wind up! You sound like you need help if that is honestly what you think is best.

The poor man is 51 years old I think he can make his own choices by now.

Live your life now.

FilthyforFirth · 16/05/2021 10:07

A few more years? What are you smoking? The whole adult population will be vaccinated in a few months and you want to stay locked up for years longer? Jesus people have lost their damn minds.

lljkk · 16/05/2021 10:26

Do some people honestly think things should continue as they are for a few more years?!

Am pretty sure that a lot of loud MN posters do feel that years more is reasonable.
If it all goes on for years, they will say it's fault of politicians for not being Draconian enough early on -- UK should have closed borders & locked out its own citizens at start of February 2020, etc.

Check out the Zero-Covid crew.

Original poster
LoadingChoc · 16/05/2021 14:02

Ok I admit saying that a few more years is a bitt tongue in cheek. But surely we must all be very careful until everyone has been vaccinated and the vulnerable have been given booster shots in the autumn and the global state of covid is better. After all it's easier to be cautious now than to reverse measures later. However I will let my husband go but will still be worried.

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Pollypocket89 · 16/05/2021 14:05

Let him? Would you somehow have actually stopped him?

Magicpaintbrush · 16/05/2021 14:09

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-57134181

Don't know if this helps at all OP but one of the main stories on BBC today is saying that they think current vaccines probably do protect against the India varient of Covid 19 - since your DH has had both jabs he is unlikely to catch it, and even if he did the vaccines greatly reduce the severity of the virus so he is already well protected.

VanillaAndOrange · 16/05/2021 14:10

Do some people honestly think things should continue as they are for a few more years?

I can't speak for anyone else, and I don't know whether it will be months or years, but I personally would like to continue to practise social distancing and wear a face covering in public indoor spaces until the stats go down and stay down, for other people's protection more than my own. I'm not "living in fear" - at no point during the entire pandemic have I really felt fear on an emotional level - but intellectually it seems like common sense.

If DH can't wear a mask could he wear a visor? It might still give him a bit of extra protection while not interfering with his vision. I can understand your concern given his specific medical history, but I guess ultimately it has to be his decision.

Moondust001 · 16/05/2021 14:11

@LoadingChoc

You guys are probably right. I just think that a few more years of being extra cautious is a small price to pay. Also the variant of Indian origin has a few more mutations than the others so vaccines work less effectively.
There is no evidence that vaccines work less effectively. Read a book. You'll find it more calming than social media.
bagpuss90 · 16/05/2021 14:12

A few more years??? Ffs

skirk64 · 16/05/2021 14:14

@anon12345678901

Do some people honestly think things should continue as they are for a few more years?! That's absolutely ridiculous. You wouldn't have a life to enjoy by that point.
Abso-bloody-lutely I believe things should remain in lockdown with non-essential business, mosques and museums etc shut for as long as the virus is a threat. It's not really that much of a hardship.
Pollypocket89 · 16/05/2021 14:15

Not that much of a hardship to you ffs

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