To be totally put off running

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I've recently started to get back into running - I used to run a lot before my youngest child was born but haven't for years now. I've been really enjoying it and was already feeling the benefits after just a couple of weeks though am still fairly overweight

However this evening I was out running and had slowed to a walk on a very steep hill when someone in a car drove past and opened the window and shouted run fatty run out of the window - they seemed to be a total stranger a youngish girl from what I could see

Now I am totally disheartened I don't think I could face going out running in public again might try to go very early in the morning when it's still dark but don't want to be seen - why would a stranger feel the need to do this

AIBU to stop running

Dont let that horrible little twazzock win anything. If her actions cause you to lose an activity that you enjoy, that brings you satisfaction or makes you feel better then she's won.

Treat it like it is, the actions of a person who has no respect for other people, no understanding of appropriate and civilised behaviour. A pea-brained, unpleasant little git.

I do struggle to believe this happened tbh

@bostonchamps as a person who's always been plus size I have been shouted at on the street by passers by and people in cars on numerous occasions. At my biggest I was a size 22, currently a size 16, I've been called a fat cunt for just walking down the street by a couple of delightful lads driving by who felt the need to shout out their window. I'm not surprised at all by this story.

So cowardly to shout from a car. They're like those little dogs who are yappy when the gate is shut, but if you open it, they're away sniffing in the bushes.

Don’t stop running!! I run (if you can call it that!!) and twice had people shout at me to keep going fatty!! Both men in my case and I have never ran the same morning run since!! Change your route (you shouldn’t have too!!!) get headphones in and RUN and ENJOY!!
Goodness knows what crosses peoples minds to the even comment on what Others are doing! 😡

I can believe it happened. There's a lot of bored petty minded people out there.
To quote Winston Churchill:
A lady came up to me one day and said 'Sir! You are drunk', to which I replied 'I am drunk today madam, and tomorrow I shall be sober but you will still be ugly.

You are on a journey to fitness and shouty car girl is just a bit sad and pathetic really.
Keep running!

I’m genuinely surprised that it was a woman in a car shouting at you but I’m not at all surprised that you had abuse shouted at you because I’ve had it too. It’s why I prefer to run on the treadmill in the women’s gym. When I do run I wear obvious headphones because the fuckers want a reaction and they’re less likely to shout at you if they think you can’t hear them. It’s always been men - in cars, vans, walking past etc. It’s sexual comments, abuse about weight or both. You could be a size 8 and someone will shout fat c*nt at you. As someone’s already said it’s part of being a woman exercising in public.

Don't let the cunts stop you from doing something for yourself! If their opinion mattered they wouldn't have to bellow it out of a car window!

I was reading the womens running mag this week who'd done a survey and while I cant remember the exact stat off the top of my head inwas so sad to see how many women had been put off running due to the behaviour of strangers

Please dont give up op. You're doing great

Please don't give up running if you were enjoying it before that. Like some of the others said above, for every dickhead there's loads of others thinking good for you. I always run with earphones so I can't hear it. & even if I do hear, I just pretend I didn't!
Push your shoulders back, hold your head high & get back out there if it feels good. The more you do it the more you will shrug off idiots like that. It really annoys me, my (male) partner hasn't once had anything shouted at him while running. Yet it's happened to me a few times

They are a twat.

But is it reassures you any, people will shout abuse at anyone and everyone. I’m a fairly slim size 8/10 and I have had a group of teenagers laugh and shout ‘jiggle jiggle’ as I ran towards them. People laugh, or shout to run faster, jeer, etc. It’s pathetic and it says a lot more about them than about the person running.

Keep going - you’re doing an amazing job.

@bostonchamps

I do struggle to believe this happened tbh

Then I’d hazard a guess you’re not a runner. I don’t know a single one who hasn’t had abuse shouted at them.

Please don't stop
The person was a complete wanker and chances are she wouldn't think twice about shouting insults if you were walking .running or sitting down sadly some people are just arseholes.

That's so much everyone for your words of support - you are all right I won't let one nasty person spoil something I've been enjoying so much!! I might try with my headphones in from now on

I've had people shout similar out of car windows.

Just remember. You can do something about your weight. They'll either have to live with being a twat for life, or they'll change their ways and have to live with the guilt of how they know they'll have made you feel.

Some people make it their mission to say mean things then run away. Unftly, OP, it was your turn to meet one, but please don't give this drive-by stupidity any more energy. Save it for your fitness plan. The world will just have to put up with our shamelessly female forms brazenly busting our way through life, so nerrr to all the meanies!

@TheSongOfTheSea My friend lost 64kg, yes that's right, TEN STONE by walking, then becoming a dedicated runner. She started by walking every morning around her neighbourhood, 6am-7am. The weight came off slowly at first, but as she got fitter she got faster, began to walk-run-walk and joined a gym to do some weight training. Can't remember what distance she ended up running, but it was quite far. It's amazing how the body adapts, then rises to the challenge!

TheSongOfTheSea

I’ve lost absolutely nothing but I have always been active, the running replaced my usual dance aerobics classes. I have a big appetite and just don’t lose anything from exercise. It’s helped get my head in the right pace and I am now losing from old fashioned calorie counting via Noom.

Please don’t give up! I love seeing other runners and most of us are on your side just way too polite to yell at you that we think you are awesome! 😎

Fuck her, she is nasty and pathetic, you are doing great looking after your health!

I’ve had similar things shouted at me whilst running and I’m size 10.

They just want to make someone feel small for absolutely any reason they can think of, and so many women see ‘fat’ as the ultimate insult so they go with that.

This is such a cliche but it says way more about them than it ever will about you - their lives are so miserable that they have to make someone else feel crap so they feel uplifted. It’s pathetic. Don’t let such people stop you!

Years ago I was running by a very busy road past some traffic lights. The cars were all stopped. As I went past one I was on a narrow pavement with a hedge to one side. The guy opened the window and literally screamed as loud as possible right in my face. I know it sounds stupid but it frightened me a lot, I almost fell over on the ice and it was dark. I didn't feel safe running back to the start of my route and didn't run down that road again.

I don't know if people realise the effect they can have. This girl was probably bored but why shout something malicious? Was she on her own or showing off to friends?

Ah fuck her.

You’re doing something so healthy, she’s sitting on her arse in a car being toxic.

Oh I'm FAT and I run jog my retort would be I bet I can run further than you, fucker.

Honestly I've been a runner when thin and when fat, you always get dicks, making dick comments. Don't let it stop you.

I run with ear pods in so I can't hear any potential comments

Don't give up!

If it happens again (which I sincerely hope it doesn't) then just ignore them. Pretend you haven't heard and keep going.

There are horrible people out there. Engaging with them is a choice.