Would you start again if your children are older and you've just got your life back

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Would you?
Lately I've been feeling broody. I've got two children, one adult and one in teens. I had them young so could in theory start again.
They just spend time in their bedrooms now come an evening.
I have lots of freedom and can do anything:
It's nice but not everything.
I mean I'm not that bothered as when I was in my 20s about going out all day without kids and drinking etc.
However amazing spending time with my children one on one now and just doing what we want.
I have a good job and probably good career prospects if I don't.
But there's a niggley feeling in me that I want another. Am I selfish? Probably stupid?
I've got my independence back so why am I feeling this.
Am I crazy?!

Get a dog to keep you occupied!

I feel like a dog would be more work lol

Yes a dog was definitely more hassle than my dc.
I have an almost empty nest now. It’s bloody brilliant.

No I wouldn't.

I am 50 and I had my oldest child at 21.
His siblings were born when I was 27 & 30.

I became a grandmother at age 42.

In 2019, I got temporary custody of all three of my grandchildren for one year while their parents got their shit together. They were seven and three-year-old twins.

Trust me, you may want to re-think having little kids again. It was quite possibly the hardest thing I've ever done, looking after those young grandchildren of mine. It killed any sort of idea about ever having any other young kids. I was like Murtaugh in "Lethal Weapon": "I'm too old for that shit!"

I was in this position. My newborn is coming up to a month old. It’s hard. Bloody hard. I have a cold, I’m sleeping one hour a night and not at all during the day. She doesn’t nap much daytime and when she does, I just about get something done before she’s due another feed. Husband wanted me to have an abortion. I didn’t (I couldn’t go through with that) so he very clearly stated he’d have nothing to do with this child. I have two older children and we were discussing the fact that I was broody and had been for the last 3 years, although I wasn’t sure about definitely having another for the reasons you mentioned. Husband was completely against it. I didn’t realise I was already pregnant...
I’m finding it really really difficult tbh. Our relationship has fallen apart he’s emotionally detached from the family completely. He’ll hold her for about 15 minutes every evening while I go brush my teeth-If she’s being fussy.
Sorry I’ve unloaded here but honestly if you’re not 100% sure- don’t do it.

@0nlyMe thank you for giving me perspective. And also lots of love to you. I know that you made such a difficult decision. I'm sure it will get easier and more fulfilling eventually

No not for me, I have a friend with 19yrs between her 1st and 3rd. Good for her but no, I need my sleep and my 2 can sort themselves out (mostly). I do still get the hormonal twangs but my baby nephew is soothing them now.