Has anyone changed their behaviour as a neighbour based on reading about twatty neighbours on AIBU

[Mooloolabababy]

So, not really a TAAT, but I'm noticing a lot of threads on twatty neighbour behaviour. The general consensus is the same as to what usually constitutes acceptable and unacceptable behaviour (music on all day, music outdoors, yappy dogs is always a no no) so much so that it makes me wonder in what world do these neighbours think that their behaviour is acceptable? It also got me thinking, has anyone changed their behaviour (that they initially thought was acceptable) based on reading what is unacceptable on Mumsnet?
So AIBU in thinking that not all shitty neighbours stay shitty neighbours and if they see that the general consensus is against them they will change?

Yabu because these people don’t care if they’re bothering or inconveniencing anyone else

No, but I do think of AIBU and the professionally offended every time I light my firepit or have a barbecue. Happily my neighbours aren't of the "ban everything" persuasion so it's not a problem

They won’t change because they don’t care - as long as they’re doing what they want, they don’t give a shit about anyone else. Either that or they won’t recognise that they are being a nuisance.

Every time I see a neighbour thread on here I think I’m going to be the subject matter 😂

Luckily my neighbours don’t seem to hate my children having fun, us having the occasional fire pit or bbq, and generally using and enjoying our garden.

@sadpapercourtesan and @BakedTattie see i don't see your behaviour as twatty. They are the things that you should be doing in your back garden, it's those neighbours who play music all day (either inside or outside) everyday, loud, not every now and again and those neighbours who have dogs at home that bark all day whilst they're at work (or who bark and they just don't give a shit) they're the twatty ones that I hope may read the threads and think 'ah, I'm that twat'

@Shoxfordian

Yabu because these people don’t care if they’re bothering or inconveniencing anyone else

This. They don't give a fuck what they do.

I pushed back my earliest weekend mowing time from 9am to 10am.

I hadn't thought of the implications of having a hot tub or a wind chime. I mean, we have never had either, but I'd never thought of them as anti social. We are now in the middle of a 5 acre plot with one neighbour. If we get a hot tub it will be far from them!

I try to stay considerate of my neighbours. I remind the kids to stay quiet, get the bins in if I'm first home, and don't start bonfires in the garden. But I'm sure su still do annoying stuff.

I miss yappy dogs, though. Two of my previous neighbours had dogs who barked at noises or even howled before they settled in. But a couple of weeks in and they were lovely ❤️.

I have cats, a 12ft trampoline and I hate mowing my front lawn. When I do house renovations the rubbish sits in my front garden until I’m well enough to move it. My neighbours forgive me though. But I always think that I’d get slated on MN!!!

Oh, and I do also have BBQ’s !

Isn't the general consensus that if you don't have twatty neighbours then it's you?

(I do have twatty neighbours ).

@Somanysocks 🤣 I definitely have twatty neighbours so hopefully that rules me out!

One from the other side. I think there is a slight possibility that my old upstairs neighbour might have recognised themselves on here.

I moaned about the vibration, noise and stink of her tumble dryer going all day and night. Within a few days she obviously got some of those anti-vibration pads and stopped using the tumble dryer pearls of stench. Just maybe.

I think we should never play music so it can be heard in other people's houses - especially in the evening. DH is more relaxed. The spectre of AIBU definitely makes me more forceful in asking him to turn it down!

No. But a friend of mine who is on mumsnet did have a converstation with her neighbours based on what was written on here. 😬

*conversation

I don’t know - I was on MN for a decade before I had children, and I don’t think I would have let them out to play in the garden at eg 7am on a weekend had I not known it was antisocial from threads on here, but it definitely made me sure in advance that I wouldn’t do that

You'd like to think the crass neighbour group would change their behaviour regarding communal responsibility. However, if they were that considerate they'd never make like difficult for others in the first place.

Not really neighbour activity but I had no idea people would mind me putting a tied-up dog poo bag in their wheely bin until I read it on here. It’s a bin, I don’t care what goes in it, I don’t touch the insides! But other people clearly mind so I stopped.

@mumieone

Educated people are considered or those with good jobs. Low income, renters, council don't give two hoots how they affect others. They are suffering so to speak and so should you. Bit extreme explanation but you know what I mean.

Eg. I have dated men without uni education who just feel uni educated men earning a penny more are abnoxious entitled people (such an unrelatable point of view ...or people in the top 1% like Bill Gates need to just throw ALL Thier money to the poor as they feel the balance is too much). Basically jealousy people!!

What on earth?

Massive, snobby, spoon @mumieone

I've certainly become much more aware of how i might impact my neighbours and how much angst fairly innocent situations can cause so try to be more thoughtful.

It can't be me though I think I'm the wealthiest on our little patch

We have a small garden and a trampoline so I'm afraid the only place it can go without taking up the entire garden is up against a fence. . . . I worry about it after reading on here that people hate this, but we've recently moved bringing this with up from a bigger house, and we can't prioritise the money or time yet to landscape the garden when there are other more urgent works needed indoors (new boiler, fix leaking shower). The kids love it and as there isn't space to run around or kick a football I want to keep it as it's the only thing they can get exercise on out there.

But it's on the list for next year when we've saved up a bit and I feel constantly anxious it will be a bad start to the relationship with our lovely elderly neighbours. DH thinks I'm crazy as he's never heard of such an issue in real life!

I doubt it.

No one can honestly pretend it didn't occur to them that noise would be a nuisance to their neighbours.

At most, some people might have been reminded to pre-warn and give the planned duration of some work.

That said, MN is another planet sometimes, where some posters pretend to have ignored the most basic manners and social expectations.