To want people to calm my baby by his actual name?

[SimGuruRu]

Name change as outing. To avoid the inevitable “what’s his name” replies ... he’s called Brian, hence outing.
He’s 6 weeks old and friends and family seem unable to call him by his actual name. They make up stupid names for him “baby Bobo” for example, I’ve had people literally snigger when I say his name. MIL has outright told us it’s an awful name for a baby and she can’t say it without laughing.
I’ve told DH I’m getting to the point where I feel if people can’t call him by his name maybe they shouldn’t be seeing him?! He thinks this is an overreaction and that I’m being too dramatic. They are going to make him grow up hating his own name.
AIBU?

It makes you think why is the name Brian seen as old fashioned, but the name Briony for a girl isnt

@SittingHereShaking

Elsie is a very old English name that has become popular in the last decade or so. I have a granddaughter named Elsie. The name is here to stay.

@mygenericusername

Please change your babies name op. He won’t appreciate you calling him after his grandfather. As somebody with a named after my grandmother name trust me. I hate my hideous name. I wince when I’m asked for it.

piss off, Brian is fine.

better than all the YooNeek names and random words people call their kids.

I should have said Elsie is used a lot in England, not sure about the rest of the UK.

We chose an “old fashioned” name that drew gasps from grandparents 25 years ago and now, of course, it’s been a Top 20 name for a decade or more. I bet with Brian you are just ahead of the curve, with loads of Trevors, Garys, Rays and Rons to follow.

In my son’s class there is a Jeff and a Bob and there is an Alan in the year below. It made me crack up at first but now I’m kind of used to them, even though I do picture a middle manager of a supermarket when I see the name.

I don't understand why people think it's okay to comment and be rude about someone's name choice (unless it's something totally ridiculous). Babies grow into their names anyway.

My cousin chose to name her baby something I thought was awful and not to my taste at all (I wouldn't ever dream of commenting though!), but now she is 7 and that is who she is, that's her name and I couldn't imagine her being called anything else.

Congratulations on the birth of baby Brian OP

I grew up in the west coast of Scotland and knew loads of Brian’s ( so would be in their 30s/40s now.) Quite a few of my dads pals were called Brian aswell ( so in their 60s now).

It’s not a controversial name or a strange name. It’s just not come back into fashion. I suspect that it will within the next 10-20 years especially if people choose to name their children after their grandfather/ great grandfather.

Brian is such a middle aged MANS name that it is hard to imagine a baby with the name! I’m sure that they will use his name more as he grows up and grows into his name. The fashion nowadays is for cutie baby names that can become less cute as they grow up Arthur-Artie, Albert-Bertie, Frederick-Freddie, style names, but ‘Brianie’ doesn’t really work! People want to call babies cute names because they are cute, but the babyfying of names doesn’t last forever so I wouldn’t worry that they are still going to be calling him baby Boo boo when he goes. to school.

@MasterBeth there is a Ron too in my son’s year!

My grandfather was called Brian. I loved my grandfather. But I would never ever call my child Brian. I love my child and that would be an unfair thing to do to him. You have to consider these things when naming a baby. He will grow up with this teasing and your beloved grandfather will be long gone. The name was appropriate back when our grandfathers were given the name.
This said... people will get used to it and love your child and so hopefully grow to accept his name and they are rude to say anything different. It’s your prerogative to name your child. But don’t be surprised if he changes it when he grows older.

I think it's cute! Much better than some of the ugly girls' names I know of like Peggy and Gladys, which should have died with their octogenarian predecessors

@Branleuse

It makes you think why is the name Brian seen as old fashioned, but the name Briony for a girl isnt

For any Outlander fans, I think that Claire names her and Jamie’s daughter Brianna because Jamie’s Dad was supposedly called Brian. That does make me laugh a bit, the thought of a 16th Century highland laird being called Brian because it’s a decidedly mid-20th-century suburban name to me. But given the Celtic roots of the name, perhaps it is historically accurate.

I like the name Brian - it was my dad’s name and he was lovely.
Brian Cox - yes please! No problem with it as a name.
Better than all the stupid, badly spelled or “original” names. A friend worked for a GP and was often in kinks at the names people called babies. One of her favourites was Jammie as a spelling to be different from Jamie……..

Op I feel you. My son is called something really simple and Irish, but for some reason every one falls him Bob. Or namey-bob. Or bobbles-bon-bon which just makes me want to absolutely tear my ears off.

Tell people to call your little boy by his name. I’ve had a situation in past and had to have that chat. You need to be polite but firm. No nicknames for Brian please, we don’t like them. Thank you.
End of story.

There's nothing in the world wrong with the name Brian. It's a very historic name in Irish history and legend, and it's just our of Vogue atm because it became too popular in the UK in the middle of the last century.

We would have raised an eyebrow at Alfred, Matilda, Beatrice, Wilfred, Mabel etc when I was a child, but everything comes around.

Bloody brilliant name!

Baby Brian will be cool as fuck. Love it.

What horrible nasty posters have appeared on this thread. Some people seem to love any opportunity to make others feel bad.

OP - there is absolutely nothing wrong with Brian- and I’m sure he’ll grow into a far better person than some of the complete dicks on this thread.

[quote Helendee]@GappyValley
Why such a rude reply?
What’s your name? Maybe we can critique it?
Being called Brian hasn’t seemed to have harmed the careers of Messrs May, Robson, Clough, Wilson, McFadden, Cox and Blessed.[/quote]
It’s Kate. Knock yourself out!

Not one of the people you have listed is under 45, and most are over 65! Not sure what point that’s proving

You could draw the same list of elderly Alans with a modicum of fame or success
Doesn’t mean it’s not a cruel name for a baby born today

@MrsJBaptiste one of my son’s closest friends is called Derek! I’ve got totally used to it now and kind of forget that it’s such a 53 year old real ale drinkers name.

People will get used to it. We called my DS after both mine and DH's grandfathers (they shared the same name). MIL really hated it at first - she found it hard to have a grandchild with her dad's name. We used a different (more modern?) abbreviation for it and after 2 months it was no longer mentioned.

I think it is nice to honour a family name, as it is a tradition in my family (and my families culture) - it is NOT replacing someone who is dead FFS!

@Mowington

I'm Brian and so is my wife.

I love my child and that would be an unfair thing to do to him.

How incredibly rude.
Why - why would it be unfair? Other than people saying it's an uncommon name for children nowadays. There are hundreds of names that are uncommon and then suddenly grow in popularity.

Kids don't tease other kids for their name unless they get the idea that the name is "weird/different/whatever" from their parents. So maybe everyone commenting on the name here should learn to not be assholes about name choices and we can all move on

This thread is causing me to lose the last vestiges of belief I had in the inherant niceness of most people.