to not want friend to steal my baby name? Long irrational rant.

[BibiThree]

Okay so I know I probably am being unreasonable, and it's not technically stealing, I'm just really, really irrationally annoyed by her at the moment.

She's always been v v competitave, especially when it comes to the children, what mine have, hers have to have as well, and ususally better, what mine do her kids have to do as well, first and better etc etc.

Anyway, before dh and I even decided to have children, we had a boys name, just one and in the last 10 years it's been the ONLY boys name we have ever agreed on. When I conceived dd1 I told a few people the girl and boy names we had, including friend. The boys name isn't common and I can't imagine it's ever been common around these parts. Anyway, she was pg at the same time and shortly after our name conversation started telling people if her baby was a boy she'd call it the name I loved. When I teasingly said she'd stollen it off me and that's what i was going to call my baby if it was a boy, she insisted she'd always liked the name and was always going to use it. We both had girls.

We were recetly both pg again, I had all girls, she's due shortly and we suspect she's having a boy and is going to call it my name. So much so, she calls him that already. We won't be having any more children, dh has had the snip, so I won't ever need to use it, so why I am so bl**dy annoyed about this?

I really feel like she's stollen my boy's name. Someone kick me up the bottom please.

Ta

Is there a Frankie pushchair?

I should have called one of my girls Frankie/Francesca because I blimmin' LOVE the name. No idea why, it's not my 'style' of name really, all my dd's have quite traditional Welsh names, but it'll always be so special to me.

If she does have a boy, insist on calling him Frankie-stein whenever she is around - all done very jokingly and affectionately - or tell her that you heard from another mum about how a child at school called Frankie was teased because of its unfortunate rhyme .

Yes but it is a very nice pushchair !! Made by Mamas & Papas. Stylish and very trendy. However you don't have to tell her that

No, YANBU.... When my DS3 was born me & xh spent ages choosing a name that we both like and was unusual. I couldn't believe it when another woman that was in our circle of friends had a son a year later and called him the same first and second name.....
I think what made me more angry was if it had just been one of his names it would've made it more acceptable IYSWIM but why both.....

Bibi, ask her what names she's considering. If she says "Frankie", sigh and say that was what you named the baby boy you lost. () Probably no need to get a dog after that.

She knows that was my only boy name and the baby we lost would have been Frankie - we just didn't know he was a boy until after he was born iykwim, so hadn't "named" him as such as I was just under half way through the pg.

It'd not stop her anyway.

Like lots of you have said, it's a testament to my fab taste that she's taken my name. he he.

It is always possible that she did like this name before our conversation, I just find it highly unlikely knowing her personality anyway.

Feeling better about it today, especially every time I think about getting a big slobbery dog

Frankie?

Most of the 'Frankie's' I know are girls (there are lots of them around here (at least 4 in small area)) shortened from Francesca, only 'boy' that I know with that name I was at primary school with about 25 years ago.

genius soup-d!

I totally forgot until alst night, but my best friends' oldest school friend, fell pregnant about 6 months after me, and asked if I knew what I was having any names etc, I told her I wanted Bobby for a boy, as it was my dads name and I wanted it as a memory to him, I was also considering Bobbi for a girl, but then changed to Isabella, DS was born and named Bobby. 3 months later, said friends baby was bron, a boy, they named Bobby. I wasn't too bothered about it really, it's still not like I know any other boys with the name, but then I watched eastenders, and realised Ian and Lauras name son was Bobby, now that annoyed me!
(For this pregnancy I was considering Roxy for a girl, but thanks to Eastenders, not really sure it's possible now!!)

When I was pregnant with DS I was talking to friends about name choices and we had chosen a girls name. As soon as I mentioned what it was, one of the friends let out an anguished NOOOOO, that's what I'm going to call my daughter, and has been since I was little". She was very contrite after and said that ofcourse, since she wasn't even pregnant that we could call our daughter that name, but after learning how much she wanted it, we went off the idea. As it was we had a boy, and a couple of years later she had a girl and called her the name she had always wanted. Still one of my best friends! But there again, she is a friend and doesn't try to out do us at every turn.

Have just found out that a colleague of mine, who is due 3wks after me, likes the same boys name. She is pretty certain she´s having a boy but I don´t know what I´m having yet. She´s now praying I have a girl She was very grown-up about it though & only let out 1 small, strangled NOOOOOOOO

BibiThree I can totally understand why you don't want your frined to use the name.
I mc'd my first baby and the lady I worked for as always calling him a certain name when I was pregnant and everytime I hear that name it makes me think of him and makes me feel sad and think about dead babies. It wasn't the name we gave him when he was born but does remind me of him more than his real name. My BIL knew of the name and how it made me feel and still gave his son the name and I have to admit that I still think of dead babies when I hear it and it has meant that I don't feel as close to him as I probably should. I feel like it my problem to deal with but I did find it really hard recently when I mc'd again and it brought back all the memories of losing my first.

I was mightily annoyed to find a children's telly programme with the same name as my son, three years after I named him....

Not my dd's name but my xp's name crops up in loads of places. Bugs the hell out of me . I sometimes see it written on carplates - inadvertently! which used to make me grind my teeth. That's also been used for a children's programme and a pop song. Grrrrrrrrr.

my best friends ds is named FRANKIE he's 15yrs and i've never ever heard of another of that generation - and it really really suits him

slightly off topic... but....

My friend was mortified when her sister in law called her daughter 'Harriet' as she had recently named her first son 'Harry'

She got her own back when her daughter was born by calling her 'Olivia'... Sister in laws son is called Oliver ;)

That must cause some confusion at family gatherings if they all shorten their names. "Harry... Olly...."

Buy a goldfish tomorrow, cheap n cheerful.

fishy frankie has a certain ring to it

Well... the baby is here. He's a boy. Don't know anymore yet, but I've felt a mixture of happy and relieved that he's here and safe, and crazy hormonal at the prospect that she's going to call him my name.

again, would someone kick me up the jacksy?

Ta

Sorry, missed the chance to kick you up the jacksy, but just found this thread and was interested to find out what she called him??

wolverina- it was Frankie i think.

SOS I think youre wrong about rats being so popular.....think ferrets are even more so